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A Dominant doesn’t need brute strength Brute strength should never be needed to control and guide a submissive in the normal course of a relationship. If it is, there is something seriously wrong. Sure you may have to use some strength to handle a very playful brat. But that is part of the “game” with the brat. If a Dominant uses brute strength to get their way, it is abusive. The Dominant should be able to get the proper response by only speaking normally. A Dominant does not need to proclaim their Dominance. A Dominant should be confident in themselves and never boast of their Dominance to the submissive or anyone else. Doing so only boosts the ego and narcissism. A Dominant doesn’t need to raise their voice or pound tables Showing anger by raising their voice of pounding tables shows a lack of self-control and will be perceived as a glaring weakness by all. A Dominant does not use strength to take advantage of weakness Manipulation, coercion and force is never needed by a Dominant. They are signs of an abuser. A Dominant uses their strength to support and protect When a submissive is in need of support, the Dominant must be there to lean on, guide and help solve the issue. If the submissive is being attacked, verbally or physically, it is the Dominant’s responsibility to intervene and protect the submissive. A Dominant is not afraid to defend the submissive, but doesn pick fights to prove themselves There are times and places for a Dominant to assert themselves forcefully. But picking fights to prove their Dominance is egotistic and narcissistic. A Dominant earns their position through self-confidence, authority, knowledge and the treatment of others How the Dominant presents themselves, what they know and treating others with respect, will show more than all the boasting and bragging anyone can possibly do. A Dominant knows they are not perfect Striving for consistency in thoughts and actions, learning from any mistakes and owning up to the mistakes with apologies, sets a good Dominant apart from the poor Dominant. © Ronald Dirienzo 11/20/22
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but best uses of power are always subtle.
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Very good read! I know a couple of subs that I need to rewrite it and change the wording to submissive and have them read it.  Especially the part about fighting!  
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Emptyness make the most noise. Real power is always almost silent.
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Nice writing. I find I fall in love not with a mans Dominance but his natural leadership over the course of his days. Recently, I found myself enamored with a D type who was teaching his neighbor about being neighborly, in a calm, laid back but effective way. All the accoutrement means nothing if the soul of the man is not dressed out properly. As an alpha submissive, I respond best to a self assured,, calm, great eye contact man. A glance between us can settle me or guide me to what he wants and needs.
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Well all I have to SEE is the crop and I'm very obediant-thats all it takes to turn me into a craven slave... Ha👄
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Emptyness make the most noise. Real power is always almost silent.
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Nice writing. I find I fall in love not with a mans Dominance but his natural leadership over the course of his days. Recently, I found myself enamored with a D type who was teaching his neighbor about being neighborly, in a calm, laid back but effective way. All the accoutrement means nothing if the soul of the man is not dressed out properly. As an alpha submissive, I respond best to a self assured,, calm, great eye contact man. A glance between us can settle me or guide me to what he wants and needs. 
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Well all I have to SEE is the crop and I'm very obediant-thats all it takes to turn me into a craven slave... Ha👄
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The dominance in Mistress shows in just her presence.
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It is pretty convenient to be a physically strong Dom, specially with a relatively tall sub like me. That said, you nailed it on the head once again Ron. There is no need to be abusive, but there are positive/fun ways a Dom can use their strength and still keep a healthy relationship.
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