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There are ups and downs in life… AND BDSM Article in comments  |
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Throughout life, we all have our ups and downs. Health issues, family issues, job issues, etc. No one has the perfect life without something coming up that has to be dealt with, that brings them down, and that makes them hard to be around. Being a member of the BDSM Community and having a BDSM relationship doesn’t exempt us from these situations. It may even lead to MORE situations to be dealt with. These times are when your partner, whether Dominant or submissive, becomes the rock you need to lean on and help you through the tough times. For a Dominant, when their submissive is having a rough time physically, mentally or emotionally, patience, affection and a gentle hand is needed to guide the submissive through the darkness and back to the light. The Dominant can’t just say: “You’ll be fine, Just deal with it and go make my dinner.” The Dominant needs to empathize, sympathize and do all they can to “be there” for the submissive. They should take the attitude of: “I can’t solve all your problems, but you won’t have to deal with them alone.” with the submissive. For a submissive, when their Dominant is having a hard time, they need to be supportive. They shouldn’t complain that their Dominant “isn’t being Dominant”, because of a serious issue. They should do everything in their power to “nurse” their Dominant “back to health” so to speak. We must all remember, that BDSM relationships are a symbiosis. Each partner relies on the other for so much, and that includes the support needed through rough patches in life. If you abandon your partner when times get tough, did you really deserve that partner when times were good, or when they return to being good? © 11/28/22 Ronald Dirienzo
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It is easy to be around when things are good. But life is not always kind, and those who stay around when times are tough are those to be cherished and appreciated. Sad thing is people tend to forget quickly who was there when no one else stayed. Both dominants and submissives are, before anything else, just human beings with basic human needs to connect, to be accepted, to be cherished in good and epsecially in not so good times.
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Very good and important point Ron. Thank you
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When the bad times show up, and they will, it is a test of one's relationships with everything else including self...
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And that's the nice thing about the BDSM lifestyle the relationship. Dynamic unlike vanilla quick flings where a guy just wants a piece of ass... 😎
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yes, the dynamics of this sort of relationship can foster intense intimacy. I'm reminded of the Spiderman movie where Uncle Ben tells Peter Parker - "With great power comes great responsibility" -
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I believe that a true BDSM relationship reaches deep, thus, providing for that special closeness needed during rough times.
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Here's a down, yesterday Kanye West announced that he is backing Trump.
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There are ups and downs in life… AND BDSM and we handle them as they come along.....personally I enjoy the in and out between them.  
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Well said. Fortunately, our D/s lifestyle is grounded in openness, honesty and most importantly respect in all facets of the relationship -- respect that transcends our chosen roles and extends into being aware and supportive of our partner if he/she is facing challenges or tough times from the daily events of life. Tough to do, but necessary. tasina "like the seas, her depth and power will only be known by He who inspires her into submission”
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