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Oh dear, isn’t that opening a can of worms? The BDSM Community is large and growing all the time. But one thing is constant with the growth. EVERYONE has their own opinion or combination of opinions that make them unique. And that folks, make for MILLIONS of opinions that can clash over a single word, or description. As I write my articles, I know full well any one of them could spark a backlash, no matter how neutral I try to make it. It is just impossible to have every single member of the Community agree about ANYTHING, it seems. And that is not necessarily a bad thing. With so many different dynamics out there, the more opinions people hear, the better prepared they are when they run into opinions different than their own, or novices can choose the opinions that work best for them. The absolute WORST part of all the opinions, is when an opinion is flamed by someone that thinks their way is the only way. Or a member of the Community is flamed based little to knowledge of the person. Assumptions have no place in the BDSM Community. A Dominant can’t assume about the submissives safety. A submissive can’t assume about a Dominant commands. Community member can’t assume someone’s experience from one online post or reply to a comment. The BDSM Community was based on accepting its members and how they practiced the lifestyle. We protect our members, that’s what the outer ring of the Triskelion stands for. The border of the community, making in a unified Community. A containment of all lifestyle choices and the acceptance, respect and understanding we have for each other. Sadly, many forget that part. In their “effort” to protect the Community, they make assumptions about others. Assumptions they cannot prove. In some cases it does little harm, in others it may drive a person from the Community all together. We all have opinions… and like the old saying goes: Opinions are like assholes, everyone has one. But just because you have one, doesn’t make it right for EVERYONE. You think something is safe? Others say it’s dangerous. You say it’s right, others say it’s wrong. Should collars be black leather or rainbow metallic? High protocol or no protocol? OG or TNG or a blending of the two. And if you are going to say what BDSM history is, do your homework and research, not just repeat what someone told you, no matter how much you respect them. You’ll be surprised how often facts get eroded, over time and word of mouth. If we as a Community can show each other a modicum of respect and acceptance, WHY should those outside the Community show us ANY respect and be accepting of our lifestyle. © 1/3/23 Ronald Dirienzo
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1/3/2023 6:39 pm |
Good writing but it might be helpful to the readre to break it up into smaller paragraphs with subheadings? just an idea
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Thanks rondiri, we had this same discussion at a local munch back in the summer and the consensus was very close to just what you had written.....like one of the women said "all are different.....just like with it"..... 
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as always an excellent post. thanks Ron
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There is diversity of opinion is very important. Reality and facts are even more important. How do we get them to co-exist. Good article. Thanks for sharing
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I would agree about your assessment of many of the people on this site, Devilzcharm. But your last comment was unnecessary. While Rondiri did use a lot of words in his post, I think there is one important thing in his post in the last sentence. Everything else could be considered decoration and just words, but that sentence is very true. I do believe that he wanted to write "can't" instead of "can".
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Remember that everyone has their own reality This brings to mind, for me, an old saying... Curiosity, killed the Cat Satisfaction, brought it Back
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I think BDSM is what you and your partner/Mistress have decided upon.
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I agree with what you say. There are a few who insist their way is the only way. They are entitled to their opinion of course, although I have a different view. We don't all share the same taste in music/films/food, why would it be any different in BDSM?
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