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Not all lifestylers believe in punishment. But if you do, how do you handle it. No one is perfect, submissive’s will make mistakes and need correction. Some believe in only correction, some believe in punishment/discipline. It depends on personal preference and dynamics. But I feel, either way, a discussion is warranted. Obviously, if the Dominant is only correcting, the discussion is about what was done incorrectly, or how the submissive had veered off course in behavior, or what have you. The submissive gets informed of not only what the issue is, but how they, Dominant and submissive, can work to correct the issue. I’ve always felt this conversation should always precede any punishment/discipline. It’s never felt right to just punish/discipline without the submissive knowing what the issue is. And just importantly, you can’t correct the issue if you don’t discuss it and set a plan to correct the issue. The issue will just keep occurring and not get corrected. Now there are some that will say: “Well, what’s the problem with letting it keep occurring… I LIKE disciplining my submissive.” The problem with that is a Dominant doesn’t set up the submissive to fail. A good Dominant wants the submissive to succeed. “But I’m a sadist and my submissive is a masochist. We enjoy discipline.” Some will say. That’s all well and good, but you don’t have to set your submissive up to fail in order to satisfy your sadistic or masochistic needs. You can still correct issues, and then plan scene play around discipline methods. Or negotiate about having times during the day, or week, or month, to have discipline sessions. Or you can use “funishment”. Discipline/punishment/sadomasochism, just for the enjoyment of it all. Issues should always be correct. For a Dominant to ignore them is a dereliction of duty to the submissive. You can still add on discipline/punishment if that is what has been agreed to. The last thing to remember in punishment/discipline, as a Dominant, is to NEVER mete it out in anger. NOT EVER. If you are angry, wait until you cool down and have a level head and your composure. Send the submissive to a corner to wait and contemplate. Don’t yell, Don’t rage, Don’t indulge in impact punishments, Don’t DECIDE on a punishment/discipline, Don’t even DISCUSS the issue, until you are calm and composed. Acting in anger can lead to going overboard and possibly exceeding the fine line between BDSM and abuse. Abuse by a Dominant is inexcusable, and can well lead to the end of a relationship. So, to sum up, IMO: when an issue arises, communicate about it, set a plan to correct the issue and if the dynamic calls for it, use punishment/discipline. The submissive should ALWAYS know why punishment/discipline/funishment is being applied. © 2/6/23 Ronald Dirienzo
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Tan sencillo lo hace parecer, pero en el trato es difícil y no me refiero a cuando están dentro de una relación, es cuando se están conociendo, ya saltan alarmas que hacen imposible dar el siguiente paso. Como encontrar la aguja en el pajar. Cuando ambos son complemento, él como sádico, ella como masoquista, o al contrario, no es necesario provocar el castigo o hacer que falle, solo comunicarse Buenas noches Y quizás un instante sirva para trazar el camino que me guíe hacia tus ojos.
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Tan sencillo lo hace parecer, pero en el trato es difícil y no me refiero a cuando están dentro de una relación, es cuando se están conociendo, ya saltan alarmas que hacen imposible dar el siguiente paso. Como encontrar la aguja en el pajar. Cuando ambos son complemento, él como sádico, ella como masoquista, o al contrario, no es necesario provocar el castigo o hacer que falle, solo comunicarse Buenas noches  
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Much of the thrill of being a submissive is how skilled I can be st a oiding punishment while under the watchful eye of a sadistic DOM.... When I inevitably fuck up will it go undetected or not...😵 ..... Ha👄
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