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Most people know that first impressions make a big difference in how a person is perceived. What is the first impression you make on members of the Community? On potential partners? I said in the first sentence, that MOST people know about first impressions. As a Dominant or a submissive, do you show a confident, knowledgeable first impression? Or are you making a first impression with how sexually hungry you are, how prolific you are, how big you dick is, or your breasts are? Now, I’m sure there are people out there that want to know about sex, dick size, breast size, and how long you can have sex and how many times you can climax. But how many of them are going to make good Dominants or submissives as partners? How many of them just want some pictures to masturbate to. Maybe a bit of cyber or phone sex. I don’t think any of us have not seen the many complaints posted about receiving unwanted sexual pics as an opening message. Nobody ever writes a post complaining about the intelligent, confident (not boastful) message they receive in a first message. How about when you first meet? What kind of an impression do you make first there? Do you dress nicely? Or show up in ripped jeans and a torn T shirt? Now, how you dress depends on the type person you are talking to and where you are meeting. Ripped jeans and a torn T, might be exactly what who you are meeting is also wearing. Certain attire has a time and place. On a first meeting do you want to impress or not depends on you and how much you want the meeting to lead to more. Some people will say, “If I can’t be accepted as I am, so be it”. And that’s fine. Just be ready to be patient longer while searching for the right partner. As a Dominant, do you start commanding right off the bat at the first meeting? Or do you relax and get to know the submissive? As a submissive, do you speak your mind in the conversation? Or do you cater to the Dominant and follow their lead, totally subservient? How you speak and react as a first impression can tell the person you are meeting what they can expect from you in the future. As a Dominant, will you be pushy, forceful, domineering instead of Dominant, selfish? Or thoughtful, caring, commanding but fair, mindful of the submissives needs and safety? As a submissive, will you be confident, show intelligence, a knowledge of what you want in a dynamic and relationship? Or will you roll over and act like a doormat, agreeing with whatever is said and suggested? First impression can lead to first meeting and second meetings and on to a relationship. But they also can dictate how one person treats another, reacts to another, THINKS about another First impression last and can take a long time to erase and change. So you may want to make the best first impression you can, even if it’s not what the other person is looking for. Better to know that right up front than find out later. © 2/9/23 Ronald Dirienzo
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2/10/2023 3:40 am |
i could not agree more. Especially here on Alt. Most members are "Standards." We can only read what shows in the pop-up profile that appears when one scrolls over the member's thumb-nail avatar. The tiny pictures that show and the first few words in one's profile are all the viewer has to go on. Are they interesting and articulate enough to peak the viewer's interest? Or do they make the profile's owner look like a clueless moron? How many times have we seen a old profile that says, "will fill out later," or "I am an open book. Just ask," or some such? Do those people (males) even think about what they write? Probably not. They are most likely just here for fap material. And the pictures... The pictures should be selected to draw the attention of one's preferred potential partners. Now, i personally LIKE pictures of a Real Man's Erection. In any encounter, it eventually becomes the center of my attention. But every Man has one and, since i Love them all (regardless of size, color, or age) a cock shot is not really necessary. Something recognizable, preferably bright and colorful to catch the viewer's attention is. i have said it before, and i most likely will repeat it many more times before i leave Alt. One should think of the pics and the first few lines of a profile like a fisherman thinks of his bait. Decide what you want to catch, and then post accordingly. If you are after Catfish (bullheads) use a worm with a sinker. If after trout, use a light "fly" that floats on the surface. In a like manner Doms should post "Dom-ish" pics and subs pics in a submissive pose. Here on Alt, that "first impression" centers on the picture. Only once you get someone's attention will they bother to read the profile. And don't get me going on those! Sketchy, illiterate, vague profiles are never going to convince anyone to meet you. My "gurl name" is Kate Coxuker. It is who i am and what i do. 
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First impressions are very important. Not just physical attractiveness but also sexual compatibility needs to be established before I even consider whether I wish to know the potential partner. For example I have ZERO interest in getting with people like myself. Opposites attract I like big hairy masculine brutes very dominant type MEN❤️
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I will speak my mind but always let Mistress lead the way.
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Great post. Well thought out.
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