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Every time I write anything about submissives and that they should be careful and alert, I’m assured that someone, usually a Dominant, will say: “If the submissive can’t trust the Dominant, they should not be playing with them.” No kidding… in a perfect world. The key word is always SHOULD. What the submissive SHOULD do. What the Dominant SHOULD do. In the real world, you know, the world we all live in, not the fantasy perfect world of rose colored glasses, there are many variables. Vetting is done improperly, negotiation is done improperly. Maybe both of these are not done at all. The so called “Dominant” lies or tricks the submissive. The Dominant doesn’t have enough experience. Any or all of the above and more can happen that prevent blind trust. In my opinion, there are three kinds of people that object to a submissive not having blind trust: Those that refuse to see that not everything goes perfectly, that real world activity is flawed. Those that don’t know enough of the lifestyle and its perils to know any better. Those that want to keep submissives deaf, dumb and blind so they can take advantage of them easier. Initial scene play is, in all actuality, a test of the trust built during vetting and negotiation. Until those first few scenes, a submissive really doesn’t KNOW if the Dominant is as trustworthy as thought. Anything can happen in the initial scene play. Blind trust should be given only when the submissive is totally comfortable. It’s not something that happens overnight. For some it may never happen. And that’s OK. There are many circumstances that can prevent blind trust, no matter how bad the submissive would like to give it. In this day and age, every submissive must, not should, but must feel free to be alert to dangers, to not give blind trust, to any Dominant that wants it. Each submissive needs to build their trust levels at their own pace. Any Dominant that questions a submissives right to doubt and be alert to dangers, isn’t taking the submissive’s point of view into consideration, not seeing the real world, or are just preying on the naïve. In a perfect world, all Dominants would put the safety, health and wellbeing of the submissive first. Sadly, we do not live in a perfect world. © 3/20/23 Ronald Dirienzo
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once the bonds are on, seems like trust is all a sub has left.
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3/21/2023 4:07 am |
Really. In this context, when i see "Blind Trust." i think "stupid idiot." i am currently in the early stages of negotiation with a Man who said, "I like using restrains, discipline, hole work." My reply was, "Restraints, discipline, water sports, and "hole work" are not out of the question. But DO require varying degrees of trust so we would have to work up to them." --- i am waiting to see how He feels about that. If He demands immediate compliance, we will not be meeting. If He is sympathetic, i'll be sucking His Cock in the fairly new future.  My "gurl name" is Kate Coxuker. It is who i am and what i do. 
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Sir Ron I agree with all that you say especially the trust issue with the first date. We've talked and we have each other's information long beforehand. Also I don't consent to total bondage first meet except maybe collar and leash. BTW some of you guys here think you can hook up with "no strings attached" or no phone number.. your dreaming you will never get laid if that is even your purpose on this sex site...👻
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