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Do Dominants need Empathy? Article in comments |
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Decades ago, empathy wasn’t a big part of a Dominant’s skill set. Dynamics were mostly Master/slave. The Dominant led the way and the submissive followed. The process of getting from first meeting to fully collared slave took considerable time so that trust could be built. As the decades have passed and the lifestyle has been influenced by novels and fictional movies, the process of building trust and collaring a submissive has evolved and quickened as new lifestylers seek to dive into the “fun stuff” of play and sex and skip over the less exciting process of building trust through protocols of yore. This has led to more and more abuses by Dominants with submissives and more trauma absorbed by the submissives. For this reason, I think, the Dominant of today needs to have empathy in their skill set. They need to be able to take the time to listen to a submissives fears about the past being reignited in the memory. They need to understand what the submissive is going through and set aside their own desires if it triggers the submissive. They need to learn to help the submissive heal and lead the submissive to a beneficial path for the submissive without worrying about what the Dominant gets out of it. They need to be able to assure the submissive that the submissive does not have to face the trauma alone, that the Dominant will be there for them every step of the way. Taking responsibility for the safety, health and wellbeing of any submissive is a huge investment for a Dominant. Taking that same responsibility with a submissive that has been traumatized in the past is an even bigger investment of time, patience, caring and empathy to make the relationship and dynamic work. © 4/24/23 Ronald Dirienzo
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Ron you are pretty right with what you have written. The Dominant should want the best for and out of his sub, and this will never happen completely if they do not take responsibility for the care, safety and well-being of the sub. A dominant needs to get inside the head of the sub so that he can appreciate what the sub has been through in the past, and what they want and need for the future. They need to build the self esteem of the sub so that they want to serve wholeheartedly and without fears. I might be a bit different to most dominants, but this is something that I have ALWAYS believed in, and as such, have conducted myself. I want a sub that is scared to be anywhere other than with me, where they feel safe, valued and desired, and that their feelings matter.
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Simply put IF I'm considered private property of the DOM in question then HE would certainly not wish to damage HIS own personal little Fucktoy...ME☺️
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interesting, I thought the interest in empathy was a new generational thing that might not have occurred in the past.
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Sure.
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Empathy is a "skill set"...... Empathy is a "skill" that can be learned and developed over time and comes naturally to most people. It Is the most important leadership skill according to some research. Empathy has always been a critical skill for leaders when it is voluntary and reliable. It is described as a deliberate and cognitive skill of creating and working with mental models about other people. Do Dominants need Empathy? YES!!!
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yes
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