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Danger Will Robinson article in comments |
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If Robot, from Lost In Space, was in our BDSM households, we would be hearing the Danger! Warning on a regular basis. That’s because there is so much that IS inherently dangerous in the BDSM lifestyle. There are people that will say I try to scare people away from the lifestyle by writing about the dangers we face in the Lifestyle. Well, if I do scare some away, maybe they weren’t prepared to really live the lifestyle. To face the dangers, or had no idea of the dangers in the lifestyle. Anyone that enters our lifestyle and is NOT aware and prepared for the dangers, SHOULDN’T enter the lifestyle. I don’t want to scare anyone away. I DO want to prepare folks for what they will face. I learned a long time ago, that I, nor anyone else, can protect everyone. When a novice enters the lifestyle, they NEED to know what they are getting into. Not the fictional fantasy of movies and novels. Not the romantic notion and the exciting sex and scene play. But the nitty gritty safety precautions, the inherent dangers in different kinks. And that goes not only for the novice submissives that I am most concerned about, but also the aspiring Dominants that THINK they know exactly how to treat a submissive. Unfortunately, there is no governing body for BDSM. Munches, training Demos and other social events don’t reach every part of the world. Not enough of the Community takes it upon themselves to educate those that need it most. I guess that goes with the advent of the “Me Generation”. Everyone looking out for themselves, also influences the BDSM Community. Well, there is nothing WRONG with looking out for yourself. But there are those that also need help. The naïve, the thrill seekers, the needy. Those that are looking for a place to belong and see BDSM as a refuge to get everything they need in life, without learning how to look after themselves, but jump right into the deep end. I guess that’s where I and it finally seems, more and more folks are coming in with posts teaching what novices need to know… and also what those that feel they know enough, need to know. It’s so easy to take the dangers in our lifestyle for granted when you have been in the lifestyle long enough. But those of us who know the dangers, should freely pass that knowledge on to others. Make the Community a bit safer, little by little. When someone asks me why I bother. My answer is simple: If I can save even ONE person from abuse or trauma with my writing. It’s worth it. I have no idea how many people I may have help, but I honestly believe I haven’t harmed anyone. And that’s all I can do. Try to help and not harm. Try to teach those in need, of the knowledge of safety from the dangers of the lifestyle I love living. © 5/4/23 Ronald Dirienzo
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BDSM is a bit risky but to me it's very very thrilling with the right DOM for me❤️.... Last night my boyfriend Al was slapping the shit out of me off and on all evening to an alarming degree😲... How am I going to show my face I'm thinking? WOW not a visible mark on me!!! Al slaps me by cupping his hand instead of laying the palm across my face. True to his word when he was fucking me I was cuffed and ball-gagged as punishment for "running my mouth" and it was quite uncomfortable the ball gag tight in my mouth. The leather strap cutting into the corners of my mouth. My DOM kept me like that for a looooooooong time. Maybe it sounds harsh but I love a sadistic DOM I trust not to REALLY hurt me... At least not deliberately☺️
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keep writing!
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Okay, I get what you're saying but....it reminds me of stuff I heard growing up. Whenever I wanted to try something new it was "oh that's a lot of hard work" or "your life would be really hard", etc. Guess what I learned after I got older? Life IS hard, period. All kinds of life is hard, everything you have worth having is hard work and a lot of effort. That's where the individual decides what is worth the pain and effort. No one but no one else can make that call for you. Wise words I have read many times: We either make ourselves happy or miserable, the amount of work is the same. Thanks for the warnings, dam the torpedoes, full steam ahead.
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Keep it up....people have the options to read or not to read. Only one is an ass and has to make up his own replies and innuendos on whatever you post. I'm sure he writes his stupid replies while sitting in front of a mirror on his monitor. Pathetic!  
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it's like an investment, one measures the risk, and goes for the reward
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keep writing! 
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I do not think you scare people away, I do see you best intent to create awareness. There are aspects of the lifestyle that requires taking responsibilities and discipline (people's favorite, right?), and things to be aware before we can feel enough comfort to begin enjoying ourselves. And then there is the whole part about finding the right partner and the elusive compati ility factor. I mean, you do your best for people to manage expectations. But you're right, if they do get scared, chances are they're no re not ready indeed.
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“If I can save even ONE person from abuse or trauma with my writing. It’s worth it.” Please continue writing - it is worth it. And we thank you. "shaped by life, experiences, choices and one day by He who she will come to know as her Master"
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