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Your mentors, teachers and Doms, know best, umm not always. article in comments |
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This was a line in a post I read and disagreed with yesterday, along with a respected group owner, Admin, moderator and submissive. It was completed with: “If you believe that they are wrong, their energy is weaker than yours, then find a new Dom, teacher, mentor. You have grown!” In a perfect world, your mentors, teachers and Dominants WOULD know best. But we don’t live in a perfect world. Mentors, teachers and Dominants make mistakes, sometimes the submissive knows more than them, sometimes the mentors, teachers and Dominants, don’t know their ass from their elbow. So it’s not always, their energy (knowledge??) is weaker than the submissives, and you don’t always need to find a new mentor teacher or Dominant. A discussion on the disagreement may surface and one of you may learn something new, even the Dominant. Mentors, teachers and Dominants are not gods, or goddesses. They are not omnipotent. They are fallible and in some cases criminal in their thinking and teaching. A submissive should NEVER blindly accept what a Mentor, Teacher or Dominant says. There is NOTHING wrong with double checking what you think is incorrect. If a Dominant has an ego problem with being double checked, it’s THEIR problem, not the submissives. There is nothing to stop a submissive from questioning a mentor, teacher or Dominant no matter what has been negotiated, agreed to (consented to) and signed in a contract (A legally NONBINDING contract) a submissive can STILL question it, change their mind and revoke consent. A Dominant does NOT actually own the submissive as a person or property. It is only symbolic. A submissive can back out of anything at any time, no matter the previous negotiation, agreement of nonbinding "contract" status. If the Dominant forces them to abide by the previous negotiation, agreement or NONBINDING contract, it is called abuse, ra pe unlawful detainment, kidnapping, or any other legal term pertaining to the illegal action the Dominant takes. Like it or not, that's the LAW. Nothing in BDSM can change that. The submissive has no legal obligation to obey a Dominant unquestioningly. Whether they make that commitment on their own is their own choice that can't be legally trained into them, forced upon them or coerced/manipulated from them. That commitment must come from free will. A Dominant that objects to this, is flying red flags in the submissive’s face. It doesn’t matter where in the world you live. © 5/8/23 Ronald Dirienzo
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Sir Ron everything you wrote here is quite true and I agree☺️..... However I won't repeat any of this to My DOM unless I feel like getting myself bitch-slapped😳.... Ha🥴
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Only You walk in your shoes Everyone's reality, is different Any of those people who are trying to teach you the way they want you to be, without your consent, rather than sharing kind of hints to knowledge so you choose how to be. Are putting themselves first. AND, that is okay IF that is the agreement. Otherwise, not so much...
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Another good one!  
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