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Submissive’s CAN disagree and object article in comments |
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I am a proponent of the protocol that says a submissive should never use the word “NO”. But that DOESN’T mean they have to say “YES” to everything a Dominant says or wants. The Dominant DOESN’T make the rules for a dynamic. The rules are made through negotiation. Sure, a submissive CAN accept the Dominant’s rules in a dynamic without objection. But they have the right to negotiate and disagree and object to anything that isn’t comfortable for them, or within their abilities or acceptance. Saying: That is beyond my ability. Or That is a limit because... Or I am unable to consent to that because... Is just as good as saying no, but is less negative and more explanatory. A submissive is not a doormat to have any and all rules and protocols or kinks, dumped on them at the Dominant’s whim and pleasure. A submissive is a treasure that has a voice in the rules, protocols and kinks utilized in the dynamic they are a partner in. Even if you prefer the term slave, until such time that a submissive has the ultimate trust in a Dominant, (usually YEARS in the building), they should never accept everything a Dominant wants that is objectionable or uncomfortable to them. Be patient, use your voice and your right to choose the ingredients of a dynamic that is right for you. NO ONE has to have a dynamic thrust upon them without negotiation. © 6/1/23 Ronald Dirienzo
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I like this distinction: "Is just as good as saying no, but is less negative and more explanatory." as explanation gives both sub and dom a clear understanding of each other. great post!
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Fine line with a SUB objecting could be misconstrued as trying to top from the bottom...😏
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