Close Please enter your Username and Password
Reset Password
If you've forgotten your password, you can enter your email address below. An email will then be sent with a link to set up a new password.
Cancel
Reset Link Sent
Password reset link sent to
Check your email and enter the confirmation code:
Don't see the email?
  • Resend Confirmation Link
  • Start Over
Close
If you have any questions, please contact Customer Service
Blogs > rondiri > My thought's, fun and fiction

rondiri 65M
7311 posts
6/14/2023 2:51 pm

Last Read:
6/15/2023 7:40 am
Disagreements in a dynamic

article in comments

rondiri 65M
11201 posts
6/14/2023 2:51 pm

 No matter how well suited partners are for each other, there will come a time that a disagreement occurs. No one’s memory is infallible.
The key in disagreements is to communicate calmly. Try to be precise in the discussion.
I’m on record in past articles of being an advocate for BDSM “contracts”.
Not for the symbolic means, or to try to make the dynamic more “legal”. The Contract CAN’T do that.
My use of the “contract” is to have everything written down that is allowed and not allowed. The limits and protocols agreed to. I include a questionnaire that I have my submissive fill out detailing what items she can stand being used, where they can be used and how intense they can be used.
All these agreed to items can be used to settle “memory lapse” disagreements, because it’s all written down and signed in agreement.
There is no “you said this”, “no I didn’t say that.”
My stance is, if you leave everything to memory, you WILL have problems over time.
Anytime something changes in the “contract” my submissive and I have, we change the “contract” or we add an addendum.
We never have a, you said, no I didn’t encounter. We just check the “contract” and see who remembers correctly. No muss, no fuss, no hard feelings.
This not only prevents any hard feelings, but it also prevents either partner from trying to change the agreements by saying the other partner forgot, or is just wrong and then trying to manipulate the situation to get what they want.
If you don’t like the word “contract” (ya, it isn’t great), Use another term. “Dynamic Agreements”.
But don’t let simple disagreements blow up into major dynamic ending issues.
Stay calm, communicate politely, and be prepared.
© 6/14/23 Ronald Dirienzo


meltwill2 72M
3830 posts
6/14/2023 3:30 pm

 Sounds good....you know the old saying.....
NEVER ASSUME OR YOU WILL MAKE AN ASS OUT OF YOU AND ME.


rondiri replies on 6/14/2023 8:22 pm:

rydermantel 69M
25926 posts
6/15/2023 1:32 am

 It is inevitable.


rondiri replies on 6/15/2023 7:40 am:

brandygirasol 55T
9437 posts
6/15/2023 3:48 am

 And that's why one person is in charge setting all the rules and boundaries- the DOM leads and the SUB obeys similar to any "couple" relationship- nobody is looking for "equality" in a BDSM relationship....😏


rondiri replies on 6/15/2023 7:40 am:
The rules and boundaries should be negotiated. No one HAS to accept everything the Dominant wants.


Become a member to comment on this blog


×
×