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rondiri 65M
7313 posts
6/21/2023 2:22 pm

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6/22/2023 8:18 am
Respect, misused and abused

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rondiri 65M
11198 posts
6/21/2023 2:23 pm

 Respect, as we all should know, is one of the 4 pillars of BDSM.
Both Dominants and submissives should show respect to each other, not only in a dynamic, but also outside of a dynamic.
It’s outside of a dynamic that respect often gets misused and abused.
Much too often Dominants call unowned submissives sub, slave, babygirl and other pet and derogatory names. By expecting to be able to call an unowned submissive by a chosen title and doing that, the Dominant shows incredible disrespect for the submissive they are trying to supposedly impress.
In the same respect, expecting a submissive to call the Dominant Master, Mistress, Goddess, Lord, or any other superior title when they are unowned, is also disrespectful to the submissive.
The bottom line is, if a submissive is unowned, they do not owe any Dominant a superior title, or should expect to be called by any title or pet names.
The same rule of respect applies to submissives owned by other Dominants, unless that Dominant has given permission.
Again, much too often, submissives call every Dominant they speak to, Master.
Unless the submissive is in a dynamic with a Dominant, they should never call other Dominants Master, Mistress or other titles. The term (not title) Sir or Ma’am should be used as a sign of politeness and respect, just as if you were talking to a stranger on the street.
The only Dominant a submissive is impressing by calling them Master or Mistress before they are in a dynamic are the egomaniacs and fakes. It can be a real turn off for legitimate Dominants.
We all should think about how we speak to the opposite slash when chatting, negotiating and vetting.
It makes a lasting impression where respect is concerned.
6/21/23 Ronald Dirienzo


brandygirasol 55T
9437 posts
6/22/2023 4:27 am

 If I think it's a legitimate DOM I will respectfully call him SIR even if he's not My DOM.... I don't call anyone MASTER unless I'm subject to corporal punishment😳...in which case I do whatever I'm told- whenever I'm told to do it... Ha😏


rondiri replies on 6/22/2023 8:18 am:

Artschoolgrad 47M
8846 posts
6/22/2023 5:03 am

 agree!


rondiri replies on 6/22/2023 8:18 am:


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