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Shouting shows your bad side

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Sure, everyone gets upset enough to want to start shouting at the top of their lungs.
But, in a relationship, and especially a dynamic, you may find your partner heading for the door soon after the shouting.
More often than not, shouting leaves a bad taste in your partner’s mouth about you.
If you are a Dominant, shouting at your submissive shows a lack of self-control, an integral trait in a Dominant. It also shows a lack of respect for the submissive. Why should a submissive trust you to show self-control during a scene they may be helpless in, if you can’t show self-control when you get upset?
As a Dominant, when I get upset, rather than start shouting, I send my submissive to a corner and use the time she is there to calm down. This serves three purposes. First, it keeps me from shouting. Second, it keeps me from wanting to punish/discipline while I am angry, an all-around terrible thing to do, which shows a complete lack of self-control. And third, it gives the submissive time to contemplate what they did to get you upset, as well as the added advantage of letting them ponder what type of discipline is in store for them.
From a submissive’s perspective, shouting at your Dominant is a bad habit to let happen. Not only has the submissive lost self-control, they are showing disrespect to their Dominant and a disregard for the Dominant’s authority. I prefer my submissive ask to go to a corner or quiet place so that she can calm down.
When whoever needs to calm down has succeeded, It is time for a calm honest conversation to figure out what caused the situation and what can be done about it. Only then can partners move forward. A shouting match rarely gets anyone anywhere positive, more likely causing bad feelings and resentment that can fester until the relationship/dynamic breaks apart.
Endeavor to put you best foot forward and stay as calm as possible. If you feel like you are about to explode, someone needs to go to a quiet place and calm down for better communication.
© 7/3/23 Ronald Dirienzo

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