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No, not back and worth. Although if that’s what it takes for an angry Dominant to calm down before disciplining a submissive, by all means do it. Everyone does things at a different pace in life. We learn things at a different pace. For many, pace can’t be rushed. When it gets rushed, some people make mistakes they wish they hadn’t and know they wouldn’t have if they had just taken their time. Done things at their own pace. Pace is very important in BDSM. We should never rush our pace in anything in BDSM, especially to satisfy the rushing of another. If someone is rushing the pace you are comfortable with, they are showing a lack of patience. Vet prospective partners at YOUR pace, not theirs. Impatient prospective partners will most likely be impatient partners. Impatience is not a good trait for a Dominant and can be an irritating trait for a submissive. Predators will often rush you. Push you into decisions before you are ready. Force you to make mistakes in judgement about them. Make rushing you a big red flag for your own safety. The dynamic should evolve at your own pace. It takes time to acclimate to a partner, learn new protocols, likes and dislike. Again, rushing makes it harder, causes mistakes, build frustration and animosity. Scene play should be given the proper amount of time to take place and not have the pace rushed. Mistakes during scene play can cause injuries. Depending on the type of play, serious injuries. It’s easy to get caught up in the excitement of play, but by pacing yourself, you will be more aware of everything, including pleasure. The end game of the scene won’t come faster than you want it. Scene play can be fatiguing in unto itself. Rushing can make it more so. Fatigue causes mistakes. I’d rather take my time, and if need be stop early wanting more, than rush through it, make a mistake and wish I hadn’t. No matter what the mistake, big or small. Pace yourself. Be patient. You still might make mistakes, but you will have done all you can to avoid them. Taking your time can lead to wonderful experiences in a dynamic or a scene you may miss out on by rushing. © 1/12/24 Ronald Dirienzo
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Yes I agree patience is a virtue... 😌
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That was exactly what all socalled d's, i did meet, online or otherwise, did not have... In such a indecent hurry..... Red Flag, to me. Great writing,
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1/12/2024 12:28 pm |
Great writing hope people listen/read and learn
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