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I’ve done an article on being fair in a dynamic. Now I’d like to tackle justify. Does a Dominant have to justify his decisions and actions? Can a submissive try to justify their actions or non-actions? Well, a Dominant certainly has to justify his actions and decisions to themselves unless the Dominant has no inkling of what is fair. Without self-justification, a Dominant could just decide and act off the cuff with no thought process, even in anger. And THAT is a big red flag. I think justifying decisions and actions can vary on a case by case basis. It is not a bad thing to let a submissive know why you made a decision or action. The biggest reason being, the submissive then can learn what they did or didn’t do to deserve the Dominants decision or action. That is part of the Dominant’s responsibility to teach and improve the submissive. Some decisions and actions, if for obvious reasons, could skip the justifying phase with the submissive, or the action is in the “funishment” category, or with the reasoning, “I just wanted to”, if that is included in the dynamic Lastly for Dominants, all submissives have given consent, but they are still human beings and have rights. If they ASK for justification of a decision or action, I believe it should be given, for the simple reason that if the Dominant doesn’t justify their action, the submissive can just revoke consent. They have that right at any time for any reason. If the Dominant doesn’t like the asking for justification, they can also always leave the dynamic if it is a problem for them. Sometimes people let ego get in the way of common sense. As far as a submissive trying to justify what they have done or not done, sometimes there are extenuating circumstances that prevent a submissive for doing what they are supposed to do, or force them to do something they aren’t supposed to do. In these cases giving justification is reasonable and should be listened to and accounted for. For the many that feel brats are part of the submissive category: Being bratty is not extenuating circumstances. It’s a choice that earns the decision or action of the Dominant. © 1/31/24 Ronald Dirienzo
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Well I've found out the hard way DOMs I've been with don't tolerate "bratty" behavior- not even a little tiny bit😳 .... Ha🥴
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