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Panic Something that must always be looked for during scene play or punishments, is panic. Few people will admit that they will or may have problems with a kink during a scene. Sometimes it is ego that gets in the way, sometimes pride, sometimes it’s just the urge to please. Many times panic can happen unexpectedly due to buried or unfound psychological reason. Panic is not confined to submissives, though they usually have more reason to panic. Dominants also can panic with something goes badly astray. Panic is one reason a Dominant should never leave a bound/restraine4d submissive alone. Especially during the first time the submissive is restrained. Being alone and restrained can set of the imagination in the wrong direction for the submissive and cause panic. There are those that just can’t handle being restrained, or locked in a cage or closet. The loss of freedom ignites the panic. Panic can also be induced or increased when the participants are under the influence of drugs or alcohol and the sensory input to the brain gets overwhelmed. Panic can occur when the submissive feels overwhelmed by something in the scene, wants to stop, but can’t remember the safeword. Or are in subspace and can’t articulate their feelings. Panic is huge reason why Dominants MUST be clear headed and alert during scene play and punishment. Just in case any of these things happen. Dominants HAVE to be able to not only calm the submissive, but alleviate the issue causing the panic. When a Dominant panics, disaster can strike. Panic in Dominants usually occurs in times of emergency, after an accidental injury or a scene goes off the rails endangering the submissive, and the Dominant can’t cut ropes because EMT scissors are not handy, stem bleeding from a gash or worse case, perform CPR when breath play goes wrong. It’s awful hard for a submissive in danger to try and calm a panicking Dominant. After any panic attacks, it is imperative to talk it through whether during aftercare or during a “debriefing” session soon after so that both partners understand what happened, what went wrong and how to avoid it in the future. Even with all safety precautions, accidents happen, issues arise psychologically that were unknown previously, our brain just goes “offline” from sensory input. While knowing the risks is important, knowing how to deal with situations that go wrong, is just as important. © 2/6/24 Ronald Dirienzo
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A topic that should be read by every Dom
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agree with twstdrkdom. it is too late to learn the best approach once the panic is happening.
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I can't think of a situation where panic is the go-to move for any resolution.
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I can't think of a situation where panic is the go-to move for any resolution. 
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2/6/2024 2:40 pm |
Panic is a powerful emotion. If your sub is pushed into fight or flight, you've stepped way over the line. That's not something either is going to recover from for a long time. I'm not talking about a dom in panic mode, but the submissive. I thrive in a work environment thats in turmoil and chaos. I'm used to being clear headed under stressful situations. Always be in control. Someone saying you can't always be in control is bullshit. Never stray from a position where you're not in control. If you're someone that cant keep your head clear when you need to be clearheaded, and able to think. You should not be in charge. You're either going to fuck someone up or fuck yourself up. Physically, people are more resilient when it comes to healing, but the mind and spirit may never recover. Phobias can last the rest of someone's life. thats all I have to say about that.
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Well I might panic if I get a leg cramp EEEEEK😵
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Been there, done that, and have a slightly different perspective. Just recently emerged from a panic / fight or flight experience; very fortunate to came out the other side unharmed. The relationship however not so fortunate -- taxed mostly because of the care and concern of the Dom. In my view and solely my view, the question became could he get passed it -- having felt he crossed a line that there was no possible way he could have known existed -- that neither of us knew existed. From my perspective it takes mutual caring, patience and understanding to get things back on track, assuming both believe it desirable and possible. Understanding the root of it -- what caused it to surface is key. For me it was being overwhelmed, almost being paralyzed, unable to communicate, to express my thoughts -- it was the flood of conflicting thoughts themselves that overwhelmed me not anything the Dom did. The Dom can not control what he can not see or does not know. But when faced with a challenge like this both Dom and sub have control over their response to it, like any other challenge or obstacle they may face. "shaped by life, experiences, choices and one day by He who she will come to know as her Master"
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Well I might panic if I get a leg cramp EEEEEK😵
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