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A person’s reactions can give us as more information about them than we can get from the initial impression they give. When vetting, never be passive and let your prospective partner ask all the questions or tell you only what they want you to know. Be aggressive with questions. The reactions and responses you get will tell you far more than what they will mention freely. Scammers, fakes and predators will often use a script to tell you about themselves. Never settle for that, it will always sound great. Dig deep with profound questions about everything. Reword/reask questions to see if you get the same reactions and responses. During first meeting, concentrate of how the person reacts to what is happening in the conversation and how you do things. Do they pull out you chair, open doors, treat you politely or let you fend for yourself, make you feel like you are just another conquest? Do they listen intently, answer clearly or beat around the bush, have eyes that wander around? How do they react when discussing rules, protocols, limits and boundaries? Are they annoyed at things that are disagreed about or do they look to compromise and adapt? During scene play, how does you partner react when things don’t go as planned, when a safeword needs to be used? In everyday life, how does the person react to small annoyances like traffic, grocery lines, etc? In the dynamic, how do they react when missteps occur? Do they overreact or underreact? Reactions tell a lot about a person’s make up, their mindset, and their demeanor and can change over time. Always notice reactions for hints of change and discuss what you see with your partner to try and prevent issues from arising in the dynamic. And remember, your own reactions are most likely being watch and gauged. It’s all a two way street. © 2/8/24 Ronald Dirienzo
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