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Acclimatize

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3/17/2024 10:28 am

When we start something new, we all need some time to acclimatize ourselves to what is going on. In a BDSM dynamic, it’s the same thing. No matter how much experience you have, you have to acclimate to a new Dominant, new surroundings, possibly new protocols, etc.…
Acclimating includes building trust and respect. In the beginning, you may have trust, but it really can’t be enough, can’t be total with someone you have known for a relatively short time.
That is why it is recommended to start dynamics as a Dominant/submissive, rather than go straight into a Master/slave dynamic, at least in the traditional sense of a Master/slave dynamic. A dynamic with few limits, if any, and more reliance on the Master’s choices.
You cannot acclimate and trust a person overnight, or a few nights or even a few months. You might FEEL you can trust them, might FEEL you know them intimately. But you cannot learn all there is about a person fast.
A Master/slave dynamic is not like a marriage where you can annul or divorce, no harm, no foul at the first sign of trouble or doubt.
In a Master/slave dynamic the first sign of trouble might just be a traumatic experience, the like of which you have never experienced before, or will want to experience again. And usually it is because there wasn’t enough time taken to build the trust and learn the partner, inside and out.
Master/slave dynamics are the most intense dynamics of the BDSM Lifestyle. Take the time needed to be sure the partner you choose is the right one. Don’t rush into a no limits dynamic, trusting the Dominant fully, until you KNOW what they are capable of doing to you. Not just what they SAY they will and won’t do to you, with a promise and cross my heart.
© 3/17/24 Ronald Dirienzo

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