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While there are dynamics in the BDSM Lifestyle that lean on humiliation, one of the basic responsibilities of a Dominant is to build up their submissive. When a Dominant demoralizes their submissive they are failing at that responsibility. In my opinion negativity towards a submissive is just another form of abuse. Breaking down the submissive’s mental and emotional health goes against the creed of seeing to the health and wellbeing of the submissive. Few people in life can withstand demoralizing actions and speech on a constant basis without it causing severe hardship and trauma. To demoralize is to treat as a doormat. This is why a Dominant’s words and actions towards a submissive is so important. Words can harm and traumatize just as severely as physical abuse. Often the body can heal much quicker than the mind and the soul. As much as a submissive is tasked with making the Dominant happy, the Dominant has an even bigger responsibility to ensure the submissive happiness and wellness. © 4/7/24 Ronald Dirienzo
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Oh Ron sometimes you seem to think the SUB/SLAVE should be in charge. I wouldn't respect a DOM who isn't degrading me humiliating me and lording it over me thank you..😳
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Rondiri, your text is common sense and I'm 100% in agreement with that aspect of demorolizing and the fall-out. But there are - like brandygirasol - always exceptions to the rule, if specified in the D/s contract. That's why it is necessary to reflect before starting a play session and to have an evaluation afterwards, as you know better than me. Greetz, Dom-M J.
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Sometimes, it is the need and want of the submissive or slave, to bé humiliated It is their kick! It is for the, their happy place, to go to! Like pain is the kick for a masochiste. When it is used outside the session or "play", Thén it is not oke! Then it is abuse. When it is in a setting with both participants need, enjoy and feel happy with this action, then it is mutual and good, for them. The dominant needs to be aware of the intense impact on the mind, of that submisssive and build her/him up, again. and do regulair check up, when needed. Other submissives are perfectly happy and content, after a session in wich they have been humiliated, degraded.. Dont need that build-up, at all When someone, calls himself DOmMasterSIrof theUniverse,  amp;and starts to humiliate the other person, from the start on, That is abuse. Thát has nothing to do, with a bit or more, humiliation in a certain setting, between two adults knowing what they are doing.
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