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Tolerate – Tolerance see comments |
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These 2 words have different connotations. First, it pertains to what we will tolerate, or put up with, from a partner, or even a potential partner in an abstract manner. Whether Dominant or submissive, no of us has to tolerate behavior we find objectionable. That is one of the reasons vetting is for. To find out if we can tolerate the potential partner. Not only their kinks, limits, imperative needs and rules for the dynamic, but also for their attitude, persona, honesty, etc. Our tolerance for these things must be judged by ourselves according to our expectations and knowledge of the Lifestyle. This is why knowing all you can about the lifestyle is important. So no one can trick you into tolerating something you don’t want to. Both Dominants and submissives also have to decide if they will tolerate a kink or fetish a prospective partner enjoys, though they don’t enjoy it themselves. That is included in negotiation. Sometimes you have to tolerate something to get another thing you want in return, or just because you respect the other person enough to participate in something you don’t enjoy. Second, they pertain to what you can physically, emotionally and mentally tolerate in a dynamic in an actionable sense. Your boundaries and limits. Some submissives can tolerate a severe caning, while other can only tolerate a mild spanking. Since each person’s pain tolerance is different. Similarly, how long a submissive can be bound before they begin to lose feeling in their extremities, before they start to cramp. How long a submissive is capable of kneeling without doing damage to the knees? Dominants have their things to tolerate or not also. Is the submissive flexible enough for strict bondage positions, are they experienced enough for the Dominant’s liking. Traditional Dominants will want to know if the submissive is a brat or not since they reject, on the whole, the category of brat. (Though IMO a brat is no different from a SAM {Smart Ass Masochist}. They both act out to get desired attention.) Where tolerance is concerned, none of us, Dominant or submissive, has to put up with anything they don’t want to. If you don’t consent to it a submissive doesn’t have to tolerate it. PERIOD. If a Dominant can’t tolerate a submissive’s behavior or actions, they can release the submissive. None of us has to stay in a dynamic or relationship we are unhappy in and cannot tolerate. © 4/15/24 Ronald Dirienzo
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tolerance, not enough in the world!!
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An old, entitled, white man wants to talk about tolerance . . He has no idea!!
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My low tolerance for pain tends to make me very very obedient I must admit..😳 ... Also I've hooked up with Smart Ass Masochists before and I'm involved with one of them now- I seem to always attract that type of sadistic DOM into my orbit... Ha🥴
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Ron I meant that I seem to attract smart-aleck DOMs... I was distracted by the stupid race-baiting comment above...😏
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