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There are so many places and people giving advice about the BDSM Lifestyle is can be difficult to know who you can trust. Even predators will try and give advice to gain your confidence. Fake Dominants will give advice to scam you out of money disguised as “tributes”. So how do you know who you can trust? Well, one way is to look at a person’s body of work if they write articles or post a lot of comments. Are they consistent with their advice or do they say all sorts of different things? Are they saying you should take their word for everything they say? Or do they suggest you seek multiple voices of advice and compare them all? Did they single you out to give advice to in a comment or personal message? They might be trying to gain your confidence to either scam you or ambush you. A good mentor doesn’t seek out people to teach one on one. They let the pupils come to them. Should you trust someone that says they will teach you everything you need to know? You have to ask yourself about what WON’T they tell you? What will they tell you that may not be true or in your best interest? This applies to online videos from any source and online articles from any source. What you are seeing and reading is THEIR concept of what they are teaching. It may be right, it may be wrong, it may be somewhere in between. It may be safe or it may be dangerous. So who do you trust and which on line videos and sites do you trust? Remember, in BDSM, trust is EARNED. Don’t give it lightly or freely. Read, listen to, and watch as many opinions as you can. Compare them for consistency from the one person’s body of work and for comparison to multiple people’s bodies of work. If you read, listen to, and view enough opinions you will see what most agree on and you will see what stands out that no one else agrees on. With enough opinions, the lies stand out and the truths become evident. Once you weed out the fakes, scammers, predators and narcissists you can build trust in the voices that are consistent and you can lean on those voices… PLURAL, to learn from and verify with. Everyone has opinions. But to learn safely, you have to figure out which to listen to. © 4/17/24 Ronald Dirienzo
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