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Why doesn’t my Dom agree with what you write? see comments |
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Quite often, I get asked why a submissive’s Dominant doesn’t agree with one or more of my posts. What bothers the submissives asking is usually that my posts sound so reasonable, sane and leaning to the side of safety from the submissive’s point of view. So why do Dominants disagree with me? Even though what I write corresponds with what is written in books like SM101, Different Loving, The Loving Dominant and Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns? There are a few reasons. The simplest is that the Dominant learned something different from someone else, believes in it wholeheartedly and will not consider anything else. It doesn’t necessarily mean that Dominant is wrong. It could just be different interpretations. But it could also mean that Dominant was taught incorrectly by another Dominant that either misinterpreted what they were taught, or changed what they were taught. Since most of the Community learns by word of mouth from mentors or, (heaven forbid), from porn, novels and movies or one of the bazillion web sites that could be good or bad at what they say, there are a multitude of different interpretations of what is correct. Another reason a Dominant might disagree is because they want to do things their own way and wants the submissive to disregard anyone else’s teachings and trust in the Dominant to teach them THEIR way. The obvious problem with that is that the submissive has no clue as to how the Dominant came up with THEIR way. Whether it follows basic Lifestyle ways and means. Whether it mixes the basic lifestyle with Gorean. Or whether it is all from the Dominant’s imagination. Still another thing to consider about a Dominant disagreeing is that maybe, just maybe, they want the submissive not to know what is right or wrong so that the Dominant has more freedom to abuse the submissive and call it the true way. Yes, there are some, so called, Dominants that lie about proper ways and ignore safety and sanity, solely for their own pleasures and amusement. And that is why I started writing these articles. So that submissives would know what to look for, to be able to better protect themselves, to know the rights they have as submissives in our lifestyle. But nobody has to take my word for what I write. Just read the books I listed. They have been published for decades and still are held in high regard across the Community, as are the authors. I’ve never claimed to be making revelations about the Lifestyle, just reminding people of what esteemed members of the Community have said and had published and read widely. And has been in practice for decades. © 5/7/24 Ronald Dirienzo
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keep writing! always good advice and as with all advice, one can take what one wants and leave the rest. or take none of it. or all of it.
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Never get out of the boat!
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Everyone is different...👄
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As usual...very good advice....as Artschoolgrad said one can take what one wants and leave the rest. or take none of it. or all of it. A win win situation...... I'm sure some on here will have to post a reply on their blog post but that is just the way they are.......
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As usual...very good advice....as Artschoolgrad said one can take what one wants and leave the rest. or take none of it. or all of it. A win win situation...... I'm sure some on here will have to post a reply on their blog post but that is just the way they are....... 
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Everyone is different...👄
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