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9/30/2022 9:36 am

Ramblings

I guess I’ll also add that my relationship with Janelle also had a twist that I would see again later – that the interest in experimentation, foreplay and variety would wane with the length of the relationship… I’ve now had a few partners who pretty much gave up on anything that required an effort. I might initiate sex and bring her to orgasm only to have her lie back and basically say, “Now you can fuck me.” Geeze, is that all there is?

Sex should be fun, it should be interesting. It should take a little effort and desire. I think that is one of the things that I like about oral sex, it’s pretty hard to be disinterested in it (though I’ve known a woman or two that would just mail it in). Generally, whether you are sucking my cock or I’m eating your pussy, having something right in your face pretty much demands some attention and intentionality!

If you are giving me head, play with it! Look at my cock, observe it. Lick the head and the shaft. Play with my balls. Lick and suck on them. Put my cock in your mouth and run it in and out. Sometimes with suction, sometimes with just the soft, wet, warmth of your mouth. Take your time, pay attention to your craft.

If I am going down on you, I need to similarly take my time to do it right. Spread your legs and look at your pussy. Blow on it softly, making you feel exposed. Running my tongue and lips up your thigh, licking at the crevice between your thigh and your cunt. Suck on your lips, delve into your pussy, run my tongue up to your clit and flick at it. Suck on your clit. Pull it into my mouth and run my tongue over it. Push your legs back and raise your hips, dip down to the bottom of your pussy, your taint and your asshole. Then back up. Pull back and observe you again. Use my fingers to penetrate you and spread your lips as I put my mouth back on it. Everything is intentional. Everything is considered. If I do my job right, you’ll have an orgasm and I win! Then, I need to slow down, bring you back slowly. Or maybe stand and press my cock into you for a good fuck.

Good head is a process. A gift. It isn’t a race.

If I leave you spent, then take your time to recover. Don’t feel you need to make or let me cum right away, getting it “over with”. If time doesn’t permit, just wait until you can do it right.

The same applies to the common hand-job. It should be sexy and fun, purposeful and intentional. Just reaching down and yanking on the thing is just plain rude. Make yourself comfortable, have both hands available. Watch while you stroke me, feel my reactions. Speed up or slow down to accomplish your goal. Cradle my balls, run your hands down my thighs. Look at my body, my face. Watch me cum. Enjoy the accomplishment. Finish the job with a cool down period, less motion, more pressure, occasional tugs. Improvement takes practice. Don’t be afraid to initiate a hand-job and leave it at that. Everything comes in its own time.

When I finger my partner to orgasm, it’s a full body experience. It starts by running my hands over her body. Run them downher ribcage to her waist and over her hips. Talk to her. Tell her what you are doing and how it feels. Stroke the breasts softly. Feel the whole breast. The top swell, the nipple, the soft under-breast and the side-boobs. Across the waist and hips to her thighs. A little pressure will signal her to spread her legs. Come back up to her pussy, stroking all the crevices. Between her thighs and lips, between the lips and up around her clit. If she is comfortable and feeling your care she will be wet. Use that, spread it around. Hear the sound of her wetness as you play. Use penetration, and pressure on her clit with the ball of your hand. Dip your finger in, shallow and deep. Run your fingers around the walls of her cunt. Feel her uterus and the spongy area around her g-spot. Keep talking to her. Whispering in her ear. Let her grab at you clutching at your head or your hand. Let her bite your shoulder. Move your mouth to her breasts and nipples. Mix wet licks with tight flicks and don’t forget to suck on them hard at times. If she likes a nibble, give it to her. Don’t worry about what comes next. All your attention is on what you are doing in the moment. Let things progress naturally, whether it leads to a fuck or not.

I’m not saying that there isn’t a time or place for a good hot fuck. If you’ve read my earlier posts, consider the difference between the stories Feast and Dessert.

Wow, this rant went on a lot longer than I expected. I just couldn’t stop with a generic complaint. And, of course, even with more details, there’s still so much to consider. I wasn’t trying to address all play activities, just saying that even the basics deserve nuance.


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