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When you think you know someone I know I can be naive and many things can shock and surprise me, despite my own beliefs, past relationships and time spent on here. Yesterday a coworker was retiring and a few of us took her out after work to celebrate. As we were leaving the restaurant, I heard my name called. When I turned around I saw a friend of my mother’s. Though she wasn’t the one to call out. It was the man she was sitting with. I went over to say hi and the man introduced himself and asked me to join them. For a woman I thought was confident and self assured, she was nervous and she wasn’t dressed for a casual meet up with a friend. I was a bit confused, because I thought she was happily married. I wasn’t so sure, as we initially caught up with each other. It gradually came out, they were having an affair or rather they are seeing each other and have been for almost 10 yrs. It was hard to believe when the man explained, it was not hidden from her husband and he fully supported and encouraged her. I sat there with so many questions in my thoughts and feeling so awkward. When the man got up to go to the washroom, I sat there and stared at mom’s friend. She nervously said her husband had introduced them and suggested she sleep with him. He gets off on being cuckolded and she has become the man’s slut. It was at that point the man returned, returned and added every once in awhile he allows her husband to watch. Her husband has no say in when or how often he wants her. He even went further and stated she has little say and has never disappointed him in being wet. With those words, I don’t know who was more embarrassed, my mom’s friend or me. To which he laughed. We were sitting and talking for a almost 2 hours when he realized the time and suggested they had to go. When I got home, I was feeling naive in my own thoughts. Thinking I knew someone, only to feel I don’t really. I went to bed with images and thoughts of the two of them. Even this morning, I woke up with the surreal feeling of last night. |
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Primal, I will bet that your mother suspects that this sort of thing is happening in her friend's marriage, but has not been confident enough to ask it outright. So why Primal, has this shocked you? You have been married and divorced, and you would have met others in this lifestyle during your time who have done the same thing, so why the shock? We all come to this life at various times within our lives, not just in our 20s, so for your mum's friend and her husband, they came to it a bit later in life, or this time around at least. They may well have been kinky in their younger years, and the enjoyment they had then has/had worn off and they needed something extra. With this situation, do you think you might have been a bit judgemental?
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That feeling of knowing and not really knowing can be very powerful indeed. Great read. Thanks for sharing. M
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Yes I was a bit judgemental. Not by the relationship, but who is involved. I’ve known this couple since I was a teenager, when they were neighbours. The revelation and conversation was not an aspect I would have ever suspected in mom’s friend or her husband marriage.
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Most of the times we are hesitant to let people know and in our most private lives. To begin with it is hard for a lot of people top accept within themselves as to who they are and to open up to others is more harder than that. As NoNonsense_Dom said most probably your mother would have known provided they are close friends, butt hen again there are chances that she dot either. The best way to understand any situation is to put your own self in that very situation and see if you would be doing the same thing or differently.
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But Primal, you are now 35 years young and have seen and done many things that you didn't suspect you ever would when you were a teenager and they were neighbors. Life and tastes change, even in your own life this has been something that has been going on. EVERYBODY who looks for contentment and happiness in life will have to re-evaluate the way they live in order to find that contentment. How many people have we had in life as friends or acquaintances, or even work colleagues, that have walked away for a sea/tree change, or with a much younger partner. Life is not predictable and we have to live it as it comes. Yeah we should have a plan, but that plan needs to be adaptable, and I think we see that with your mum's friends.
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Hi Prime! Your headline to this blog says it all! I grew up in what (at the time) was a semi-rural area of NW Minneapolis in the 70's and 80's--five acre parcels, lots of families, etc. I had a good friend from there that died in early adulthood. I've remained close with the family, especially his father. Over time, he's revealed to me what a "Peyton Place" the ol' neighborhood actually was! With the exception of my parents and another couple, he told me damn near EVERYONE was "swinging" (the popular term at the time)! Swapping, gang-bangs, cuckolds--the whole shootin' match. Some of it I may have had an inclination, but it was the Ward and June Cleaver types that astonished me!
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What will be the real surprise, discovering that a friend of your mother has a perverted side... Or discovering that being delivered or shared turns you on???
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"I have never been shared. There have been discussions, though I am reluctant. And yes partly because I am afraid it may turn me on" No one can deliver or share if it is not their own, the right one will make you lose your fears and feel safe to explore yourself...
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Tell me Primal, have you dared to talk or discussed your mom's friend 's situation with your mom, because she must have know , since it has been going on for 10 years?
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