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Are women conditioned to be submissive? In my case, from the first time my cousin touched my pussy when I was very young, I remember I didn't move, I just let him touch me. Three years after that, while I was doing social work at a radio station, the radio assistant touched me every time he had the opportunity and I was so quite, I was very young. On one occasion there was no one at the station, just him and me. He took me to the bathroom, took out his dick and put it in my mouth. I had never seen or touched a dick, much less sucked one, I didn't know how to do it. I remember I grazed him with my teeth and he slapped me. He cum in my mouth and he wouldn't let me take it out of my mouth and he just told me "swallow, swallow". After a few weeks I had my first sex in my life with him. I was with him for 4 years, he always controlled me in all aspects but always with great care because I was not of legal age. I think in my case I was somewhat submissive from a very young age and that, along with the fact that my first man was so dominant, strengthened my submissive role. So a submissive is born or made? What do you think? |
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Some people are more dominant or submissive by nature, and that includes both males and females. But, I truly believe that life experiences condition you to be what you are. Those experiences can change as we journey through life, and so can our predisposition to be D or S. As an example, if you were to find yourself a young male and "teach" him about sex as a dominant woman, I feel you would find a whole other side to your persona. I'm sure you would enjoy and relish in the role. A new experience a new conditioning. If fact, it may do you well to experience the role of the dominant, as this will give you the perspective of the opposing role when you are being submissive. I'm more than happy to chat further on this subject if the ever wish to.
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sumisa I think we are born sub or domme , but as taste says. people can change and some are sub for some people and domme for others! We can only enjoy what we are! A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw Jenny
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I think quite a bit of sexual response is conditioned. I also think that people sense that bit of timidity and exploit it, especially in the young. You were not at all at fault, someone didn't protect you. best - boh
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I know several women that are very dominant in their medical field and professions but very submissive out of it. After being in charge during the day and under very high stress they enjoy the submissive side of turning over all control to a dominant and not having to make any decisions.  
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Well first off that isn't dominant nor submissive behavior... That is r word,sex w a minor, the ped word...
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When sex is "imposed" on someone that doesn't make the person submissive, it makes the person a victim. Their reflex response, or lack of, isn't consent or even compliance. It is behavior impaired by lack of experience and knowledge. The better question is why did you choose to continue the illegal relationship rather than saying no and telling someone.
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I don't consider it was imposed Perhaps you need to re-read you first two paragraphs. No where does it say he an I agreed. It says, "I just let him", and also "he wouldn't let me take it out of my mouth and he just told me "swallow". Don't confuse compliance with agreement. Often we decide we like something because it wasn't as bad as we expected. That's a great thing to say about spinach, but not so much about a relationship.
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As you can tell from the answers you're getting, the social and natural science juries are still out on this question. I personally think women are in most societies conditioned to be submissive but, in Western society at least and increasingly in parts of the East, they are not predestined to accept the conditioning. The important thing for you is how happy are you with how your experiences and natural tendencies conditioned you to react to sexual domination? If you feel happy and fulfilled being submissive, how you got there probably doesn't matter. If you are unhappy and confused then you probably need to take control and explore other options.
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No hard and fast rule. So are born naturally submissive. Some are born and raied in conditions for them to be submissive. Some, at least in teenage years will develop inot submissive for their own reasons; no so much governed by their genetic nature or conditions that may have conditioned them to be submissive. "One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"
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Nature versus nurture is and will be always THE Qeustion. For most, it is used to make them feel better, give their submission or dominance a justification, for their core feelings and wants... If that works for them, fine. I am not interested in that, i knów i am submissive in a relation, I know it was always already in me. ALthough, in daily living, as a child, i was always with the boys and fighting other boy gangs, Loved it. Primary school time. It is more important, how you feel about this.
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