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11/22/2023 12:29 pm

Scammers and Meeting on-line

Scammers are real problem. A lot of people on here talk about fakes there real problem to but I view them as scammers also. I hadn't been on alter any other social meeting site for BDSM in many years. Recent circumstances have allowed me to seek a submissive again. In my search I have met many people. I was truly interested in several of them. After days of exchanging text, it would seem the hammer was always falling on some petty scam. I will give you a couple of examples.

The first example is I met a woman who was across the country. After a couple weeks of texting back and forth I decided to try to move forward in meeting her. I was willing to flyer out here and put her up while she stayed. It all seemed pretty straightforward to me. However, after all this effort including researching flights and so on I was ready to order tickets and was excited to meet a new person. This excitement and desire is the hook on the fishing line. All of a sudden I find out according to her that she's an immigrant from South Africa and that she cannot travel because her passport is expired and she would need $180 sent to her to reinstate her passport. What a load of BS.

Anyone who truly had this kind of issue might've brought it up previous to getting this far in getting to know someone. Needless to say I don't send money to people I haven't met him. I highly recommend that you have the same policy. If I find I truly like someone and want to fly them out I have no problem getting them transportation to the airport and buying tickets they can pick up. However, I think this is a fair amount of expenditure to meet someone and relieves the pressure on them of having to have the resources themselves.

In another case the person I met again spent days and if I remember correctly well over a week chatting with me. According to her she was ready to come out meet me and get to know me better. Again I was looking into getting her out here when the hammer fell. I would have to pay her current debts before she was able to come out. It was a complex scam where I would wire her current master a certain amount of money of which then he would release her for a so-called trial. The amount was in the thousands. Then if I didn't want to keep her i.e. it didn't work out between us I could flyer back and he would refund the wired money. Again what a load of BS. What really would've happened is I would've wired in the money and never heard from them again.

The next one was someone local we were at the point we were getting ready to meet and I say local loosely she's about 90 miles according to a profile away from me. I offered to come pick her up she didn't want to do that which I can understand she wanted to drive herself. So I told her that when she was here I would fill her car and give her enough cash to refill the car with gas when she got home. This wasn't good enough of course and all of this took place in chat. She was avoiding having a phone call for me. So I recommend just using the phone option in the chat program. Our not talking about a large sum of money here were talking about a tank of gas. She agreed and we did a video chat the only problem was there was no chatting it was basically snippets of a porn video with no sound. Now I do zoom calls and video chats all the time the excuse was that Mike was bad on her WebCam and her laptop at the same time all I need to do is send her money for gas in her car because she didn't have any. I have been chatting with her again well over a week. I asked one simple thing to talk to her on the phone before I sent her money and she couldn't do it. And then started telling me she's made every effort and I still don't believe she was real.

This is happened at least a dozen times at this point during my search. It always ends in me needing to send money that could never be retrieved either by wire or some payment program.

In addition in all of these cases there were weird uses of grammar and sentence structure. Which when chatting via text is going on it even happens to me so it's easily overlooked. However here's what I think is going on. You've got people who are using some kind of automated response system maybe even some kind of chat GPI or AI response system. Or you have people who are seriously willing to put in some effort into getting small sums of cash from you and in some cases some pretty large sums of cash. This is led me to believe that many of these people are in Third World countries using the Internet to scam people in wealthier countries where those small sums of cash are actually decent sums of cash where there at.

Because of all of this I have several policies that I stick to wholeheartedly while I feel I haven't been scammed yet I know many attempts have been made.

My policies
never send money to anyone based on your emotional desires.
Have a real conversation with the person. I believe many of these people avoid talking to you even through the chat programs because they either can't speak English or speak it so horribly you'd know they are not the people they claim to be.

Don't share information that can be used to hack into your credit accounts. In one case they had my name phone and address then all of a sudden out of nowhere they wanted to know the previous places I had lived in nearly demanded of me. Since I know those are questions the government and credit agencies ask to verify identity I did not give them the information.

Scams have become very sophisticated and many of the people who are committing them seem to be far more dedicated today because of the general public's awareness of scams than they were in the past. They can be very sophisticated and you need to be careful because they are not only trying to scam you there emotionally wearing you out.

Be very aware of the information people are asking for even over a long period of time. Be sure you do not give them any information that isn't already publicly available until you're sure of who they are.

One of the best ways to weed the scammers out is to require a phone call. Hear their voice see the area code their calling from or know the area code you're calling to. Some are just trying to get a few bucks out of people others are trying to steal your identity and credit.

It would seem that people are praying on the alternate lifestyle people the most. Men and women both have to be careful of who they're interacting with in these alternate communities. Set up your red flags make sure that people are not asking you for money for things they should already have. You know like a passport that's up-to-date when you're in a foreign country. For you guys out there don't think with your Dick's think with your heads otherwise you're going to be sending money to somebody and never hear from them again.

I hope this post is been helpful and as a community we need to come together and set standards that the hackers, scammers and thieves will find tiresome and make their efforts unprofitable. Until then you can expect to waste the vast majority of your time weeding through the trash that is online.


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