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What a curisoity! I was speaking to a friend the other day and at first i could barely understand her thru her tears. That in and of itself broke my heart because she is a very sweet person. She is strong and determined and still soft. Once i was able to get her to breathe and talk to me, i started to cry. She had met this guy. A Dom so he said. Speaking to him for weeks, he sounded great. Then on the drive to meet her, he started to change. The phone calls during his drive had become more of accusations. He went from seeing the glass half full and a gentleman to little things that one would not pick up on til after the fact. Small things really. She told him about something she saw that was sorta bad and that what she took away from this bad thing was something she turned around to view as a good<b> lesson. </font></b>His response was something she was shocked to hear. He started to verbally berate her. Now keep in mind this was the first time meeting in person. One would think that putting your best foot forward would be the thing to do. Instead, my friend spent the entire time with this guy showing that he was a total ass. Nothing was good, nothing she did was correct. Not only this but he literally complained and bitched about where they went and blamed her even tho he was the one who chose where they were to meet. When i finally got her to calm a bit, i told her the same thing i have to tell myself all the time. Just because you meet someone, does not mean they are going to be what they pretend to be. I finally got her to see how lucky she really was. The fact that he did this now instead of later. While i know its hard for those of us who truly need and are what we are, its very hard at times. Just because someone says they are a Dom does not mean they are a good one. Too many have begun to think Dom means to tear apart or use and destroy for their own benefit. A Dom does not do this at all. He values his property. Why would someone wish to live in a home that they destroy and tear down? Does this really make any sense? The trip for him was only a few hours, the pain she felt lasted almost all weekend. The good news after all of this? She now knows that its ok to tell someone to turn around. Its ok to say "no. because of what you are doing and or saying, i do not want to meet you". One of these days, both she and i will meet someone who can just be themselves. No hidden agendas or pretense. Just a real person, a good person, a person who is not perfect and yet perfect for each other. Not dead yet so there is hope. |
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at least she learned it before investing too much time. Always a risk, hopefully she doesn't equate self-worth to his outside opinion, though harsh words like that had to hurt.
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I don't claim to be any great expert on the lifestyle, or anything like that. But, it seems to me that a lot of the men who call themselves Doms on here, are just selfish people looking to get what they want, without any thought or consideration for the needs & desires of their prospective partner. Hopefully someone deserving of her attention will come along.
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Tell her like they say in the movie...."Fuck him....he was trash,"   
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I feel bad for her
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you don’t & can’t ever know anybody w o knowing them over a period of time spent together talking & doing things lesson learned is to be you true to yourself do not let others compromise you stay away from toxic people & situations make NO a part of your vocabulary be careful who you choose always vet & be SSC!
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Trust, some days i need to fight the want to just curl up and cry with what i have been thru and see going on in the world today. What people do to themselves and each other. My wonderful Gramps told me all the time that "if you are not part of the solution, then you are part of the problem". As much as i miss him and wish he were still here, being honest, im very glad he is not. While his lessons were wise and valid, they are also from a by gone era. I have learned that no matter how hard it is to do, a small kindness is all that is safe to give. The problems are just too big now. Live life giving those small kindnesses every day at every chance in hopes that they will build within others and be passed on.
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10/15/2023 9:15 am |
I want to cry too after reading this story, I just think run! run far the other way as fast as you can! I too have noticed two kinds of Doms, those who dont give a fuck about what I'm about and only are interested in their agenda, and the other kind who does care what I'm about, despite their own desires they want to know what I need to get to a place where I'm comfortable and happy. there is always hope >> Three Little Birds – Bob Marley <<3 Rise up this mornin’...Smiled with the risin’ sun...Three little birds Pitch by my doorstep...Singin’ sweet songs...Of melodies pure and true Saying’, (this is my message to you)...Singing’ don’t worry ’bout a thing ‘Cause every little thing gonna be alright.
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