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About me Hey there... I'm Tina. Born Jan 2/1960. Married now (this time around (2nd marriage)) almost 30 years. First hubby was my high school sweetheart. We were married almost 10 years. He swept me off my feet by being polite and courteous but turns out that's not what I needed. I am ashamed to say that I cheated on him with hubby #2. We weren't really a couple by then, just shared a house, but we were still married so it was wrong of me... No excuses. I have one from my first marriage and 2 from this marriage. They are 41, 27 and 25. I have 2 grandsons, both from #1, and they are in their late teens. We are all one big happy family now, after a few years of #1 disowning me. The birth of grandson #1 brought us back together. How I met hubby #2... Hubby #1 and I were having a night out at a local bar having appetizers and drinks (trying to rekindle/fix our relationship) when a guy tried to pick me up. He was quite<b> drunk </font></b>and loud and wouldn't leave me alone no matter how many times I told him I wasn't interested. Hubby just sat there. There were a group of guys playing pool near us, and when the<b> drunk </font></b>put his hand on my shoulder one of them came to my rescue. 'I think the lady wants to be left alone' he told him. The<b> drunk </font></b>stood to face him and was told 'Starting something with me might not be such a good idea for you, but if you really want we can take this outside...', at which point the<b> drunk </font></b>muttered 'Fuck it' and left... With a smile and a nod, my hero went back to playing pool. I bought the guys a round of beers which pissed hubby right off. Having my hero come by the table to say thank you but that I really didn't need to do that pissed him off so much that he left. Chad, the hero, joined me at my table so that I wouldn't be alone and not too long afterwards gave me a ride home. Nothing happened between us that night... It was a few months later when I ran into him while out doing errands. I have to admit that I thought about him often right after the bar incident, but as time passed I thought about him less and less. By this time hubby and I were not even only housemates, we avoided each other as much as possible because every interaction led to a big blow up. Chad was a sight for sore eyes. He saw me first and said 'Hey pretty lady. How are you?' I turned, not knowing who had spoken to me, and when I saw it was Chad I ran over and gave him a big hug without even thinking. He took me for coffee and I spilled my guts out to him, and he gave me his number if I ever wanted to talk. We ended up meeting up for coffee a few times just to talk, but eventually it became an affair. I can't even say for sure who initiated it, it just kind of happened... Ask me anything you'd like to know, but please no judgement... I beat myself up for years over what I did. Tina |
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Hey Tina. You sound like you've had some adventures and good on you! We've all done things we might do differently, if we had the time again. But we don't, so what is done is done. Enjoy and be happy about where you are now. I hope to see some more of grandma's buxom body.😉💋
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11/22/2023 9:45 am |
so much life is beyond our control as much as we think it is. sounds like it all worked out in the end
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Obviously, you had already split from Husband #1. Divorce may not have been final, but you were already separated. Seems like husband #2 was a good pairing for you. You should not feel guilty in any fashion. So anyway, welcome to the blogs. Best to you. "One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"
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so nice to read
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The irony is, that we've loved them even if we are too opposite, an had to divorce. Even after the divorce, their passing hurts.
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The irony is, that we've loved them even if we are too opposite, an had to divorce. Even after the divorce, their passing hurts.  
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no judgement... and no need to beat yourself up at all....a lot of us have been through just about the same thing....seems you were a faster learner than some of us.... a lot stayed longer than they should saying it was for the kids.....I don't think it helped at all..... 
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Hi TIna - nice to meet you.
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Let's just call this a no-judgment zone, though in your case, Tina, there's nothing to be judgmental about. Welcome to the blogs. Feel free to let it all hang out. 
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You may be an obedient wife but it seems to me you have the upper hand here. Good for you with no judgement intended on any parties involved.
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11/22/2023 5:09 pm |
You have nothing to be ashamed about. Sometimes things happen to people for no reason at all. Thats just the way life works. Sometimes it's good and sometimes, not so good. I'm not going to puff up and tell you what I would have done if I were there, However I would have had a problem with both the drunk and that piece of shit husband. Maybe hubby was scared but that's no excuse. Sometimes a man has to stand up and take an ass beating for what he believes in. There's no shame in getting an ass beating if you're standing up for yourself or someone you care about. Thats a person I can respect. It's the quitter or the person, that refuses to even try that I have a problem with.
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There were all good comments. All supporting that decision you made so many years ago, resulting in a good second marriage. The only thing I have to add, is why are you on Alt? Not that there's anything wrong with being on Alt. As you can see from how so many people reacted with honest, supporting comments, there are intelligent, passionate people here among the trolls, asshats, and professional scam artists that roam the blogosphere looking for fodder for reenacting various selfish fantasies or perpetrating financial cons. Welcome, in any event. And like everyone said before me here, you did good. Enjoy your life.
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