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Still new I have spoken well via them messaging me and me replying to a few people. blocked a few people I realized i like the idea of dressing sexy and being seen by guys doing that. I am not sure i have the courage to do it, but then being here is what i am looking at to be pushed to do things i would not normally do. And yeah that is a run on sentence, so what. why idea of feeling ashamed and embarrassed excites me i really do not understand not something i can go and call up a therapist or friend and ask. this is like my secret alter ego thing i am doing. still no to moving to someone when that in asked in the first 3 lines. hopefully i can connect and try things that are only hidden in the dark places of my mind, some of them i never even knew. like some of the words people use OMG i never said any of that. then again both my parents are religious (different religions lol). people can comment but i may not post all of them for my personal reasons, do not take it as an insult it maybe i do not want others to see your thought and hoard it for myself. i never really did a blog before especially one like this. |
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1) Hello newbie, welcome to the madhouse.😂 2) Absolutely! Take your time, explore, read, ask, learn, discover. 3) If we're not curious, what are we? 4) Commuication on this site is hit and miss at the best of times. Blogs are one of the few reasonably reliable (and free) ways to do that. I hope to see more of you. 💋
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If I have any advice, it would be to give mind the total freedom to enjoy and explore any and all of your fantasies and dark desires and not feel like it has to have a place in your "real" world. Let your alter ego be the cruelest dominatrix or the dirtiest slut you can imagine, then wake up, put your alter ego on the shelf and go to your job and be that valuable co-worker you are and then go to your church and be the sweet and moralistic believer that you are, and don't feel bad about what things you masturbate in bed at night thinking about. Sometimes people let their desires and curiosity get the better of them. The fact that your already saying " still no to moving to someone when that asked in the first three lines" tells me you already have and understand the lines between fantasies and reality do exist and that you need to have limits for yourself that you shouldn't cross. And more importantly, as you live your life, find out the right balance and circumstances that you are comfortable with when and if you want to explore more of your darker fantasies. For instance, some women have fantasies about being "taken", that is, having a man suddenly and forcefully take control over them for the man's sexual gratification. It's probably a bad idea to put out an ad in a sleezy dating app asking for this. On the other hand, if you have been serious with a person for a while and you want to spice things up a bit, you could mention to him that next Friday you both are off and you left a spare apartment key on the counter. It would really be a shame if he was to steal that key and use it to enter your apartment at midnight on Thursday, then come into your bedroom wearing a facemask and gloves to do whatever he wants to your mostly naked body while you were there in bed.... (wink, wink...). Maybe he would want to gag your mouth or tie you down first, or maybe he has some other interesting ideas on what he might want to do to you too.... But in reality, you already know if this person you are dating is not a psyco or carrying some terrible venial disease. You know they will not hurt you in the ways you do not want, and you both can get something pleasurable out of the fantasies that you have running through your mind too. In other words, build a healthy relationship first THEN go for the hot mind blowing fantasy sex, rather than trying to build a healthy relationship around the sex part first. I've probably blabbed too much already, but good luck in your path. Be safe and let your mind explore all that it wants and when the time is right, you can see if your are ready to make your fantasies more a reality IF and WHEN you choose.
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Welcome, and a very good point about privacy, I also have a post configured to have better communication... If you have any questions, do not hesitate to visit...
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Welcome. Enjoy exploring!
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Even though you are still new, Emily, at some point it would behoove you to make a determination as to which power orientation most appeals to your needs and desires, the one which you feel most comfortable identifying yourself with and further exploring and, of course, refining/customizing to your specific style, tastes and standards. Remember, this is primarily an alternative lifestyle dating site, where there is an understood emphasis on kink and fetish. Regardless of whether you might be heterosexual, bisexual, lesbian, or transgender, it would be advisable, sooner than later, to decide whether you would prefer being either the dominant or the submissive partner in a live D/s session context or a more longer-term relationship. You may even want to try experiencing D/s from both ends of the power spectrum, namely, as a switch. I'm not sure that choosing to remain purely vanilla/conventional/mainstream (from a sexual standpoint) on the ALT.com site or the Bondage.com site would be the best course to pursue in these types of venues. In any event, I wish you the best of luck in whatever course you choose to follow. Do not feel you have to rush , but take your time. Choose your partners carefully. Use good judgment, and trust your instincts. Make sure that hard limits and safe words are always established and respected. Remember that no one is obliged to do anything against their will or to which they. do not consent. Anyway, enjoy yourself and have fun.
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Happy quest.
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