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The old insecurities aka, the case of the disappearing Dom. So I had been chatting via email with this gentleman from Alt, nothing serious, I'm not looking at this time. I'm just here to blog, make some friends, get in deeper touch with my submissive side, have a laugh or two, and try and figure out what my next steps in life will be. So anyway, it was fun, mildly flirtatious, and interesting. Tons of quick emails per day. Then......radio silence.........crickets........nada. Now this was around the Thanksgiving holiday, so I figured he just had family stuff. So a week passes, and I out an "everything ok?" No reply. Now, had I been just starting my journey, this would have gutted . I would have been all nervous and sad-what did I do wrong? what did I say that was wrong? how am I wrong? how am I not enough? Now I'm older, wiser, stronger, better, and 99% of knows I did nothing wrong, I said nothing wrong, I am more than enough as I am. But that damn 1%, still has a small voice in my head. Whispering. Insidious. Actually I'm not sure I'll ever be able to quiet it completely. But it's not nearly as loud as it was years ago. Thank goodness. One quasi rejection(?), and I start to have doubts about myself. Perhaps I'd be better off having doubts about him. Funny how the more Alt changes, the more it stays the same. |
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Yep, I've walked in those shoes and no matter how we tell ourselves it doesn't matter that little twinge of doubt creeps in just to tell us we're human 
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Obligatory Alt comment here.
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softrayne, he obviously was not what you need, either as a friend or potential Dom/Master. True/real people do not leave others hanging
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My co-workers would say to you as they use to tell me, "drop that zero' You are 100 percent worth it. Feel better that you got it off your chest and more forward. Most people take the strength of submission for granted or lightly. Tupac said it best, "KEEP YOUR HEAD UP !!"
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12/6/2020 3:05 pm |
I never understood ghosting. It always brings up the question of what did I do wrong. His loss
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Yeah, I used to have self-doubt when someone would suddenly quit communicating with me. But, a few bouts with scammers on this site, and some external education about things, if someone quits communicating, it's on them. My time, my emotional health, my everything, is more important than getting stuck on someone who wasn't serious in the first place.
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I would like to think, he realised that he was not good enough for you and that is why you have not heard from him You know that you did nothing wrong, so it is all on him Stay strong !
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I'm guessing he didn't want to believe you were just here to blog, which you are very clear about and when it finally sank in to his thick skull he moved on. No excuse not to say farewell though.
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12/6/2020 3:52 pm |
Your self worth is not less because of someones inability to see it
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rayne Sadly, so many here are just rude!!!!!!!! Don't blame yourself.... A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw Jenny
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Don’t doubt yourself. I’m sure it’s his loss.
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Hold your head high. Don't bother with this guy in the future. He simply does not respect you. You will be fine in the long run. "One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"
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Softrayne, I agree with everything thats been said about him not being worth it. If he's just broken off communications with out a word. I certainly agree with 1uncommondoms statement.
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12/6/2020 7:12 pm |
Do not question yourself, anything could have happened to him, nothing at all to do with you. Just sit back and carry on with a smile
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Eudaimonia
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While I agree with all of the comments here about your self worth and not letting these types of situations get you down, I think we have to look at other possibilities. We are collectively in the middle of a pandemic, and the USA is having a harder time of it than many others. The person you were communicating with may have more urgent things to concentrate on, or may not be in a position to communicate now. He may never be able to again. Let's not cast aspersions upon his character when we don't know, just accept these things happen. Also be willing to reacquaint, and do so without casting the first stone. Rest assured that these things will always happen with people, but it never lowers your worth.
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MMMMM I have my doubts about whether it is sincere in the percentages (1 .-I will simply tell you, those things happen to all of us, you are a very cultured woman, put aside the empty heads that are turning around, focus and continue your search ...
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Yes, most definitely his loss!
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