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jenny14 75T  
90125 posts
4/29/2019 3:56 am

ina

I think this is a great topic!

I am not a lesbian so can't comment from that point of view!

However, this sounds like academic codswallop from people who have NO idea of the Life-Style! There is no mention there of a dominatrix!


A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw

Jenny


Gowron 69M
3089 posts
4/29/2019 5:53 am

I'm a man, brought up in a patriarchal society. And I was born in the 50s, when feminism wasn't as much a subject as today.

Yet I'm mostly a submissive in bed. How am I to explain it?

I believe that being free is being able to do whatever pleasures you, as long as it's "safe, sane, consensual", without bothering with ideologies.


DancingDom 74M
22476 posts
4/29/2019 5:54 am

If everything was as simple as some folks define things, including relationships!I have known couple where the female was dominat in all things outside the home and the male was dominant in the home (or at special events) She was a high power lawyer and he was a store clerk. She found him and married him

I know of females, not in relationships who cam to events to be topped in rope bondage and in impact play. Left alone and resumed normal lives, Both worked at same company and were to management (hair care/beauty products). The bottoming only. I can do, which I did to know and understand the use of my toys. Yet I am dominant. Plenty of people bottom for the sensation. But are they submissive. Same for the high power guys on Wall Street that use Dominatrix's to satisfy their sensual cravings on demand. Are they really submissive? Are the Dominatrix's really dominant?

How one individual or group sees certain activities ro relationships is how it does not fit their needs and perceptions. It surely can not detremin on how it applies to other not in their group.

Do males set the tone overall in BDSM activities.....................in general yes. Males outnumber the females as is obvious on sites liek this. Males as a rule are more concerned about image and far more lurk around the edges. Women, as I view the out of mainstream are seemingly more open about thier desires. Who read teh 50 Shades book..............mostly women.

"One Big Sky Covers Us All Equally"


Wicked_Tongue 61M
690 posts
4/29/2019 7:30 am

If you think about the whole scene, rather than just a Lesbian viewpoint (and I have no understanding of that!!) the whole scene seems to be turned on its head for some men. As a Dom male I believe that my purpose is to satisfy/please/worship my submissive female... and she gives me the power to do that... to make the decisions to achieve this. Yet many Doms see it the other way around... they have the control, and all they see is their own satisfaction! Similarly why do we see subbies claiming to be "under consideration." NO... Subs choose their Doms, therefore surely it is the Dom who is under consideration... It's all arse about face!!!


drmgirl622 68F  
25884 posts
4/29/2019 3:35 pm

I can speak to the lesbian aspect…...in my mind I am a true dichotomy. In my vanilla life an alpha female with a job to match but when it comes to my other side there is nothing so beautiful as a strong Domme. It's her confidence, the way she walks that tugs at something deep inside urging that submissive slowly out to whisper "Yes, Ma'am"...…….


Eientsumi 33M

4/29/2019 4:51 pm

Unfortunately mainstream media and social media created a mentality where "if you're not with us, you're against us" and there is no middle ground for negotiation or compromise. It's not a problem restricted only to feminism, it's in anti-racism (whatever that is called), affirmative action, politics, and so on.

In any case, most statements like that come from ignorant people that do not understand the culture and don't care to understand the culture. They're more interested in getting their 2 cents heard and hopefully get their 15 minutes of fame. People like that are close-minded as hell despite their politically correct stance of equality for all, because they believe their form of equality is the only correct form of equality. That's why I hesitate to associate with someone who identifies as feminist in the SF Bay Area because they're often just as intolerant as the neo-Nazis.


jenny14 75T  
90125 posts
5/3/2019 12:48 am

"So if you aren't a lesbian, then shut the codswallop up. It took me three days away from alt to get to this relatively calm state of mind. "

ina

I am sorry! Absolutely NO offence was intended!!!


A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw

Jenny


MissCesca 53F

5/9/2019 6:45 pm

Feminism means simply doing what the fuck you want and letting others do the same. Just my opinion.


MissCesca 53F

5/9/2019 6:48 pm

Also, I’m not a lesbian either but I often get thought of as one because my primary is my wife and I’m surrounded by people who think everything is binary.



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