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1643 posts
2/9/2023 10:13 am

Denial and Chastity

As words are still being deleted this post will repeat as the first comment.

My sub has now been locked in the chastity cage consistently for over one month. While he had some days out of the cage at the beginning of the year, so far in 2023 I haven't touched, stroked, or used my mouth to tease his cock at all.

Well, that's not exactly true. I have gone down and teased his lil locked cock with my mouth, blowing on it, and teasing the tip with the tip of my tongue, as it strained against the head of the cage. But I don't think he really considers that a legitimate BJ, LOL.

I do play with his balls quite a bit though. I love stretching them from the rings and sliding the cage around. He sack is very interesting to play with as sometimes it's very loose and I can do pretty much anything I want, and other times they are so tight they seem to lock onto the rings. He doesn't enjoy me playing with them so much at those times.

He's had it off twice to clean it throughly and shave, and then the last time to switch from the Mr Stubbs cage to the Mini Me cage. The Mini Me is about a 1/2" shorter and it's also thinner so when he gets hard inside it he really feels it.

It has been over four months since he has been inside me or had an orgasm. And he only had the one orgasm back then coming out of a 6 month plus denial period. We looked back at 2022 and it seems that he only had four orgasms all year and I went pretty much 80% of the year without touching his cock at all. So glad I started cuckolding him again so I don't miss out on things, though I have him give me my share of orgasms from his mouth and fingers when not meeting with others.

Unfortunately for my sub it looks like he might be on track to have the same amount, or even less, orgasms this year or to have his lil cock played with anytime soon as I would like to see if he can wear the device longer than he has before. : ) In September, when he had his last orgasm, I told him that he wouldn't cum again for a while. When December rolled around I told him since we've gone this long we'll wait until the New Year for when he gets to cum again. I just didn't tell him what month in the new year, LOL.

To further his frustration last night even more, with all the talking and looking back at last years schedule we were both pretty horny when we went to bed so I had him go down on me with his mouth. After 3 pretty nice orgasms I had him stop and I rolled over facing away from him. I wasn't going tie him to start the night as I wanted him to spoon me with his cage placed inside my butt cheeks so he had the pressure on his locked cock as I fell asleep. Not quite sure how long it took him to fall asleep but I did quickly.

Ms. Jay
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BDSMCouple_SoCal 62M/59F

636 posts
2/9/2023 10:14 am

My sub has now been locked in the chastity cage consistently for over one month. While he had some days out of the cage at the beginning of the year, so far in 2023 I haven't touched, stroked, or used my mouth to tease his cock at all.

Well, that's not exactly true. I have gone down and teased his lil locked cock with my mouth, blowing on it, and teasing the tip with the tip of my tongue, as it strained against the head of the cage. But I don't think he really considers that a legitimate BJ, LOL.

I do play with his balls quite a bit though. I love stretching them from the rings and sliding the cage around. He sack is very interesting to play with as sometimes it's very loose and I can do pretty much anything I want, and other times they are so tight they seem to lock onto the rings. He doesn't enjoy me playing with them so much at those times.

He's had it off twice to clean it throughly and shave, and then the last time to switch from the Mr Stubbs cage to the Mini Me cage. The Mini Me is about a 1/2" shorter and it's also thinner so when he gets hard inside it he really feels it.

It has been over four months since he has been inside me or had an orgasm. And he only had the one orgasm back then coming out of a 6 month plus denial period. We looked back at 2022 and it seems that he only had four orgasms all year and I went pretty much 80% of the year without touching his cock at all. So glad I started cuckolding him again so I don't miss out on things, though I have him give me my share of orgasms from his mouth and fingers when not meeting with others.

Unfortunately for my sub it looks like he might be on track to have the same amount, or even less, orgasms this year or to have his lil cock played with anytime soon as I would like to see if he can wear the device longer than he has before. : ) In September, when he had his last orgasm, I told him that he wouldn't cum again for a while. When December rolled around I told him since we've gone this long we'll wait until the New Year for when he gets to cum again. I just didn't tell him what month in the new year, LOL.

To further his frustration last night even more, with all the talking and looking back at last years schedule we were both pretty horny when we went to bed so I had him go down on me with his mouth. After 3 pretty nice orgasms I had him stop and I rolled over facing away from him. I wasn't going tie him to start the night as I wanted him to spoon me with his cage placed inside my butt cheeks so he had the pressure on his locked cock as I fell asleep. Not quite sure how long it took him to fall asleep but I did quickly.

Ms. Jay
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chastityslutcd 58T

249 posts
2/9/2023 10:46 am

You are well on your way towards permanent orgasm denial and 24/7 chastity cage (with a few closely monitored times out for cleaning/shaving and airport/medical times). That is the way it should progress and needs to, in my opinion. All femDom couples should have this as the goal, along with cuckolding.

BDSMCouple_SoCal replies on 2/11/2023 6:16 pm:
Yes, he's gone 3 years once, 1 year multiple times and 6 months many times over the past 12 years. When he is allowed to cum its very seldom and restricted.

slaveforyou365 63M

4513 posts
2/9/2023 11:10 am

Slave rick

likesmatures 55M

4843 posts
2/9/2023 12:07 pm

Very cool...

But a male can stay in caged for long periods of time with no physical harm..
If anything his penis may thicken if he wears a cage that doesnt allow for an erection...like a mini cage.

BDSMCouple_SoCal replies on 2/11/2023 6:18 pm:
Over the years his cages have gotten smaller. I really like the one he's in now but it's sad most of the collection isn't worn anymore.

casio26 63M

2563 posts
2/9/2023 12:12 pm

That a tough life for him.
I wouldn't want it.

BDSMCouple_SoCal replies on 2/11/2023 6:24 pm:
It's not for everyone and everyone's kinks are different. You should do what you enjoy or want. We both enjoy it and he likes that I press things so it works for us.

maletramp 64M

2095 posts
2/9/2023 12:27 pm

Do you have urethral sounds for any of his cages? If so, how long will you have them inserted? Can they last long?

BDSMCouple_SoCal replies on 2/11/2023 6:26 pm:
We have a couple of cages that have the sounds. They are more decorative and used when he's tied in a chair or bed as they larger. I think the longest with the sound or catheter is about 6 hours. They don't go in very far. I would assume others use them for regular use and longer periods.

boh99 68M