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If you were to ask Captain Obvious, he'd tell you safety is paramount in BDSM 'play' ..... Well duh - Right? One feature of safety is having a safe word, or words, for the submissive / slave to use when she needs activities to slow down or to cease altogether. By the way, don't ya just love it when you see in a profile, or elsewhere that someone doesn't want or use a safe word? Perhaps that's actually true in one out of a million people, but it just screams 'FAKE' to me. In any event ...... Yes, a Dominant needs to always be monitoring his partner during play to make sure they're doing OK .... Both physically and mentally. The eyes and ears come in really handy for this - Right Captain? Oddly enough, the Dominant even gets to ask their partner if they're doing OK. Imagine that ... Actual communication. Personally I use the standard Red, Yellow and Green as Safe Words. Green = "I'm doing fine, continue", Yellow = I'm OK but can we tap the breaks a little and slow down a bit?" and finally Red = "STOP!" Yeah ... I use the same three. The "STOP" can mean stop for a minute or so and let me collect myself or it can mean 'Game Over' and I'm calling it a night ..... It varies from relationship to relationship and is discussed and understood on the front end before 'play' begins. What's my solution when the submissive is gagged, as in the meme? I give them something to hold in their hand. If they need to Yellow or Red, they merely drop the item as a signal for me to ungag them and ask their status .... Not rocket surgery is it?  I do the same thing when someone is gagged. Truth be told, I very very rarely gag anyone though. The visual might be nice, but I enjoy listening to their moans from both pain and pleasure. Why eliminate such wonderful sounds and their ability to communicate? It's a 'To Each Their Own' sort of thing.  OK peanut gallery .... To gag or not to gag - that is the question.  Make Women Female Again
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The gag seems to rob the scene of any auditory elements.....no gag!
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To gag or not to gag? Gag! I find the moaning and groaning from a gagged sub to be quite a turn-on.
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If you were to ask Captain Obvious, he'd tell you safety is paramount in BDSM 'play' ..... Well duh - Right? One feature of safety is having a safe word, or words, for the submissive / slave to use when she needs activities to slow down or to cease altogether. By the way, don't ya just love it when you see in a profile, or elsewhere that someone doesn't want or use a safe word? Perhaps that's actually true in one out of a million people, but it just screams 'FAKE' to me. In any event ...... Yes, a Dominant needs to always be monitoring his partner during play to make sure they're doing OK .... Both physically and mentally. The eyes and ears come in really handy for this - Right Captain? Oddly enough, the Dominant even gets to ask their partner if they're doing OK. Imagine that ... Actual communication. Personally I use the standard Red, Yellow and Green as Safe Words. Green = "I'm doing fine, continue", Yellow = I'm OK but can we tap the breaks a little and slow down a bit?" and finally Red = "STOP!" Yeah ... I use the same three. The "STOP" can mean stop for a minute or so and let me collect myself or it can mean 'Game Over' and I'm calling it a night ..... It varies from relationship to relationship and is discussed and understood on the front end before 'play' begins. What's my solution when the submissive is gagged, as in the meme? I give them something to hold in their hand. If they need to Yellow or Red, they merely drop the item as a signal for me to ungag them and ask their status .... Not rocket surgery is it? I do the same thing when someone is gagged. Truth be told, I very very rarely gag anyone though. The visual might be nice, but I enjoy listening to their moans from both pain and pleasure. Why eliminate such wonderful sounds and their ability to communicate? It's a 'To Each Their Own' sort of thing. OK peanut gallery .... To gag or not to gag - that is the question.
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sahe words or eye blinks
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A safe word is only as effective as its intent . . Being used for "safety" it is a thin veil. A safe word is used to fill the gape of experience that gives us complete trust. Despite all the vetting, conversations we are all strangers the first time. If trust could be bestowed with words and wisdom this would be a lot easier, but no such luck. Whatever you do should be within the depth an scope of the amount of trust between you because given enough time trust will replace the need to use a safe word whether you gag or don't.
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To gag or not to gag? You make such a good point about the loss of some pleasurable sounds. However, I'd counter that the moans are not lost when struggling with the gag. Plus the eyes speak volumes when speech is restricted. The eyes in the meme are definitely speaking to me. Of course, assuming all is discussed and consensual, with safety protocols and signals clearly understood.
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To gag or not to gag, that is the question, but she never answers.
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as you say, always pay attention to her and how she is doing
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A gag, along with hands placed in tight mittens--the latter being used to avoid any unexpected untying of knots by the bound victim, in an effort to escape-- might make the use or effectiveness of a safeword or safegesture quite problematic. Perhaps, due to the unintelligibility or indecipherability of words beneath a gag, a safeword could be rendered as a loudly & repeatedly grunted SOS (dot dot dot/dash dash dash/dot dot dot), which might sound something like the following: eeh eeh eeh/ ooh ooh ooh/ eeh eeh eeh. SAVE OUR SHIP would be universally understood as an explicit cry for help, or a signal for the cessation of all activity, except the immediate liberation of the victim from his bindings. Some dom[me]s might even leave the victim's shoes and /or socks to remain on as part of their comprehensive bondage technique, which would make scrunching or wiggling toes an impractical safegesture.or cease & desist signal. And, of course, three taps on the floor with the hand (as in wrestling) would also be useless, if the hands--even elbows--were tied behind the victim's back ...or as the upper half of an unyielding spread eagle tie of the mittened hands to the upper bed posts. Quite a conundrum, The only other kind of safegesture I can possibly think of is simply to cry with conspicuously visible tears streaming down the cheeks, or, OMG, simply to urinate unabashedly and pray that it gets noticed. For the former, God forbid the dom[me] has also used a blindfold or hood
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I am with you, I enjoy listening to the moans and such that fall from a boy's lips...  Ars longa, vita brevis - Art is long, life is short  
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No gag. "Men need to hunt. She obviously understands this. She’s offering herself as prey. Not easy prey. But willing.”
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as you say, always pay attention to her and how she is doing 
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To gag or not to gag? Gag! I find the moaning and groaning from a gagged sub to be quite a turn-on. 
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