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savor my flavor Another complete stranger decided to shove their 2 / two cents into one of my recent posts and let me know that the place I was putting it (FetLife) was one-dimensional and meant for one thing only. I’m guessing that would be fetish, or kink, maybe BDSM, I’m not really sure. It still blows my mind that people think they can dictate what others say, feel, post, etc anywhere, at any time really. Moreover it seems to be the norm. Every day there are more and more sheep / followers ready to tow the line, obey the rules, give up their ability to reason for themselves. If that is comforting and enjoyable to you, have at it, but I prefer my freedom(s), and they are many. Among them; the freedom to NOT be one-dimensional, and refuse to tow that line. In a deli aisle full of pieces of meat I want to be a rare slice, not the cheap, processed garbage that everyone buys, takes home, wolfs down, and it winds up making them sick. I want to be a choice cut, to be savored, and perhaps that much more because I am an acquired taste. I’m not greedy; I only need a few people to savor my flavor. Do I not understand the point of view of people who point at some of my non-kink posts and say “This doesn’t belong here”? I admit I completely get where they are coming from. I wouldn’t want to get on a site supposedly dedicated to kink or fetishes or whatever and see someone spouting their religious or political beliefs, but I don’t think I’d get overly upset if they were talking about their average day, or a bad thing that had just happened to them. That would endear them to me, not repel, and I would see them as the human being they are, not just as their kink or fetish. I think that’s what truly bothers people; they come to escape reality and here I am, dishing out a dose of my own. It’s mine though, so everyone is invited to take a peek, see something they don’t like, and scroll on. It’s those that stop long enough to read, get angry, and then make rude comments or send nasty messages that I don’t understand. That’s like hearing a song by a band promoting themselves on Facebook and not only leaving a negative comment, but sending them a personal message explaining further why you despise their music. I’ve been guilty of saying, “Wow, this is terrible” in a social media post, but I never sought the artist or band out to drive my point home. I just moved on. Why others don’t do that speaks volumes about them. Be thankful sites exist where I can write or post things that irritate you, or if you don’t appreciate freedom then choose your echo chambers more wisely. When you belong to a site, group or community that is more specifically focused, THEN you can be a cop about the rules. As much as people might like to think places such as FetLife are ONLY for sex, fetish, kink the fact is they are open to just about every taste, flavor, orientation, etc. Be happy with that, lest you and I and everyone else lose the freedom to be who we truly are, as people, or at the very least always be concerned about reprimands and punishments for doing so. The next time you see a post that isn’t your taste, realize you’ve likely written something or posted a picture, that someone didn’t like as well. Did they take the time to stop and revile you? Did they feel the need to tell you that you’d done something wrong, and would you have been anything but angry at the audacity of a total stranger acting that way toward you? Well guess what? That jerk is you. |
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Very well said !
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