Blog : What shouldmy profile tell you?

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4/17/2013 3:41 pm

What shouldmy profile tell you?

I reckon we all agonize a little when writing our profile. Will it impress if I admit that I'm the prettiest person in the world, or does anyone even care that I can leap strong buildings in a single bound?

I've not put much into my profile just because I want folks to know me, not the person I say I am. I believe that for every fault you'll find in person, you'll also see a positive quality I'd never think of mentioning. So I don't like to talk of myself online, and rather meet friends in person.

I'm not new to the lifestyle, although very new to the local scene. In the last 25 years, I've dated relatively little, but have had some wonderful relationships, while being single has allowed me to chase some dreams (skydiving, dancing on TV, etc.). My relationships have been ones envolving BDSM and other aspects of the lifestyle, but I've not known that the lifestyle was organized and practiced as it is.

I stumbled upon websites and other things just in the last 10 years, and am only now trying to fit into the lifestyle community. I thought I'd found the sub of my dreams a year ago and was ready to retire and ride off into the sunset with her, but realized eventually those were my dreams, and not hers.

So now I'm trying to belong to people I don't know. I'm older and not as healthy as I used to be, so I hope to find again my one-true-love rather than a date for Saturday. I've tried to be gentlemanly and reserved in approaching women, but I think one lady perceives me as a perv, and another thinks I'm upset that she chose another. I honestly have no problem accepting "no" as an answer, and respect and honor such decisions, but I hate the idea that I might be causing stress for women who feel they need to tell me no.

So, in trying to meet and get to know someone who may be the sub for me, I simply am very confused. No one knows mebetter than myself, while of course I think I have a lot to offer, I don't pretend to be a man that any woman can't do without. I'm just hoping that there is someone out there who can tolerate me, and that I don't blow it when I find her.

Rogers and Hammerstein wrote: "If you don't have a dream, how ya gonna have a dream come true!". Well, I'm struggling with how to successfully chase my dream; how to find it, what it is, and how to hold onto it.

So, I reckon I'll spend time this weekend thinking what to say in my profile. What is boasting, and what is humble, and which is best? What makes someone want to write or get to know me, and what turns someone off? In person, I try just to be myself, and she can decide if she wants to know more, but online, I've got to decide what it is that will make her interested.

Confused say: He who talkith by the mile, and thinkith by the inch, should be kickith by the foot.


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