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no (vanilla) romance, please! As i see it, trying to find that one man, that one relation, is all about being COMPATIBLE, on more then 1 level. negotiation is key. Wanting the same out of such a Authority Transfer Relation.. meaning he is the one with the decision force in the relation, AFTER, we negotiated that, in depth. No soft vanilla "romance" please, but being able to open up to each other. Ask, listen, ask some more, get back to what was spoken about before, getting all parts of the relation very crystal clear... What he needs and wants from me, and what i need from him, on the relation level, ánd on the SM level. The masochist in me has needs too, longing for your sadistic self.... And ofcourse our Loving SM style.... Being a stable force and strength is ONE VERY BIG WANT. Being in control of himself is a necessity. Having some sense of humor is also very wanted. Being firm, trustwarthy.... Saying what he means and meaning what he says... Doing what he says too. Being somewhat rough and strong and loving too. Challenge, incite me, mentally..... to give my best... always.... Bé. There should be a continue flow of communication, maybe even negotiation too... changing, ever growing..... in depth...... Master-slave Masochistic-Submissive, -Sadistic as the base of the sm sexual part of the relation. The whole authority Exchange/Transfer part of the ever growing relation as the foundation of the whole..... easy-peasy.... 
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rose I hope you find him / it  A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw Jenny
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jenny14, i know that what i am looking for in a man is a scarce, a rare trait.... in a man..... I met 3 such men in my life, so far.... we were on other ground not compatible, but, my god, did he had those traits! it can happen again!  i can only keep the hope alive... never give up.
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2/14/2020 5:41 am |
One trait I’m missing or I overlooked it ... it finally comes to a ‘relationship’; but, as in all ‘relations’ … a ‘kink’ in the ‘relation’ … does this first class seaman abandon ship?
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MasterW, Hmm, that is the key point, it is a no way out, relation. That scares the most men away! real quik! LOL When there is totall, and i mean; totall openess there is a whole other base for the relation. Most vanilla relations have all some little white or not so white little lies, secrets, wich makes the trust part not really function, at all. In the long run... That is my experience with vanilla relations.
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2/14/2020 6:27 am |
rosaenaluin, how do you know there is 'total openness'? In my BDSM lifestyle it took years to arrive at the level that I could 'read' the soul of my s, and vice versa. I believe that 'total openness' goes much further than what people experience in the vanilla world. But still, before arriving to 'total openness' and the ship arrives in heavy weather, how should both the captain and the first class seaman cope with the situation?
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