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Relationship stuff. I really appreciated all the reaction on my writing about this friend and relations. If "you"/ as in general\ have had some relations, in wich the man is always abuse, neglect, violence, booz abuse... etc.... AKA not emotional stable, reliable...... There is one common denomiator, and that is "YOU". Sure, you can keep 'blaming'' those guys... again, and again... But you are kidding yourself... I know, to be able to "see" that, is hard work. Not every one is capable of that....... Or willing....? And i dont judge that, it is as it is. I knów it is hard! work! As, in my case, i can "blame" those vanilla men, till Kingdom comes.... BUT, i am the common denominator. I did not find a man, with dominant character traits, even, maybe? i did not know, what, where, how to look for?! In men. It is as, like, talking with those play, sex role game, "doms". I speak a totall different language. They wont ever understand, what i am all about. They are never able to get my inner submissive..... being.... They DO sm, the mechanics, the tools, the asignments, the game. NOT the connection, on the human scale, FIRST. Most of the time, this all, is also very sexual orientated. They ARE NOT dominant by trait, by character. It is about the actions, not, NEVER EVER ABOUT THE CONNECTION, with those 'dominants'.... So there is no match, no connection. As with my friend, who seems to always seek the type of men, who are not able to be emotional involved........ And, blaming him, them, for something they dont have in their tool kit. No compatibility. I dont blame those play doms, i dont blame those very good vanilla men, i had relationships with, i know it is mé. I am NOT VANILLA, - Nor am i a sex play thing, for as long as the game takes, as his kind of 'prop', in a vanilla egalitarian relation. NOT compatible. |
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Just some rambling..... 
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Moon , Thank you, 
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You are so right that we, ourselves, must take some responsibility for how we interact with others.
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4/2/2022 6:58 am |
People are creatures of habit. If someone has a string of abusive relationships with men or relationships with men that are just plain trash to begin with. It's because she's either consciously or subconsciously seeking out that type of relationship. I look for patterns and nonconformities in people. I always ask about a woman's history. You can't always predict the future from past events, but generally you can. People stay with what they know and are resistant to changes. A lot of confused people that call themselves dominate are just going through the motions, and actions of being a dominate. There are a lot of alpha wanna be's. You see it in a dog pack all the time. Those people need to accept their roll in life. They will be much happier. I didn't choose to become dominate. I didn't study what dominates do so I could emulate and learn to become one. People can't mold themselves to be what they are not. They can only act the part.
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Responsibility for recidivism is important to understanding the difference between my past and your past. But no one should be found guilty by association.
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well said!
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always, Sure, So is a Dominant, a Dominant, you can not make him, all of the sudden, or not, into a vanilla man. It is his 'habbit' to want to care for his possession, his woman. Want to guide her, make her feel safe, help her grown, into a even better version of herselve. Because he sees that version in her... The word -alpha- what ever, always makes me laugh! Sure! if you need to shout out loud, how Dominant you are? You aint!! cristal clear! But, ofcourse, they have the right to find someone to have a great sex life with.
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Arts, Thank you! 😊🙏
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White, Huh? What? Thanks for your reaction.
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