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What are you looking for? In the group Psychology of a D/s relation, on FET, there was this person, who asked about this.. This is something that many men have asked my, sooo many, many time, before, too. It always left me flabbergasted. What do you mean? How so, "looking for"? Am i in a kind of a shop? can i pick up a d to my taste and thats it? What! This person explained, it is not so much a person... as a something.... As in a connection, Many gave their support to this idea and some gave very good explanations about those who ask this kind of qeustions. As in, they really have NO CLEU, what so ever, about the amount of ... About what is asked both from the D perspective as from the s perspective, to build this connection. To be able to give, that much.... That this is about the character of the person. Being compatible, beyond the easy kink sex play act..., being compatible as human beings, FIRST. Like each other. This person, also said, it is not something you can look for, it is something that will happen, organic It can be something he/ she can say, or a certain look, that stops you dead in your tracks. It is not a play time kink, it is a connection, that ebbs and flows, within a dynamic, it is not easy to come across. How do you say, that your preferred dynamic is the mental connection? Whenever i told, explained that, they always looked like they saw water burning. skipped my explanation, totally. And just started talking about fetishes... As if i did not say a thing.....  Just totally missed it. Did not have a cleu. To me, those are not dominant, and for sure, not Masters, no matter what they have written in their profile. Those are kinky sex role players, with a dangerous lack of Knowledge about safety, rights of the s type, hard limits, safe words, to name a few... And, most of the time a very big inflated ego, based on nothing... Maybe lack of selfesteem? I always felt insulted, and totally misunderstood, when that was the first and only question they had for me. The only thing they wanted to know.... about me....? |
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And, then there are those, who really are good in pretending, "roleplay" this dominance thing, fake to understand this and just F you over! Or the naricistic personality... who fyou over too... pretending.... Sooner then later, (hopefully) the s type will find out... Those too, really have no cleu and make a lot of casualtys......
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I think it's like playing a game of cards for some people.
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rosa Yes, we know the connection when we see / feel it  A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. George Bernard Shaw Jenny
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drmgirl, I dont know...., maybe...? I know, from the men, i talked with, it is, for most men, the sex thing, the stroking of their ego, too. all very selfish....
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jenny, I know, and i know, "they" say so, but i dont feel i can trust my instinct on that..., anymore... 
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I am looking for a new blanket.
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ryder, then you should visit the Wallmarket, (?), or some sort of shop. Or, if you want to go expensive, you could buy a blanket made from sheep wool, they are great! 
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