Blog : servitude, submissive

10133 posts
2/13/2024 4:07 am

servitude, submissive

Are to me, two things that goes together.
I can not become someone submissive, without, also becoming servitude to his wishes, wants and needs.

And i dont mean, the sexual servitude, while play acting, role playing, what ever..

I am talking relationstyle, servitude, surrender kind of servitude.....

Being submissive, is something inside mé.
It has nothing to dó, with what ever kind of physical actions, the two people might get ingaged in.... later on.

It is a mental aspect, that first need to be fullfilled.

For that, i need to know him inside and out, who he is, as a person.

His dick?? who is interested in thát!
That wil become interesting, much later on.
I assume he has one, and that it is in working order
healthy too.

It is wanting to know, his mind, how he thinks the way he thinks
what made him, the person he become, became
his growth, his self knowledge, his wisdom and his stupidity too

ALL of him
Not only his sexual appetite, that is soo easy for me, and also sooo terrible empty.

THÁT, has nothing to do with me, BEING submissive
Not play act the role, untill the climax from both.. or something like that....

Being submissive has nothing to do, with any kind of sexual appetite, preferences, and or fetishes.

It is me wanting to become HIS submissive, in real, day to day life.
In all aspects that are known in such a dynamic, relationship

Not only has a dominant/ Master responsibilities, a submissive, or slave,
has them, too.
Being totally open about all and everything, not holding anything back
is key, for such a dynamic
This counts for the D type to, by the way.

For that, to be able to archieve thát, both have to work hard and long, to become so close with each other.
You really have to WANT that.

It takes guts, commitment, to want that and to want to work on that
You have to go deep, deep in your submission, deep in your surrender
deep in your trust.

I can only write from my own perspective.

How this works in a Dominant, Master~s mind, i can geuss but that has no value,
only talking with him will.... exploring each other, as two people, first.

The only bedroom dominants really dont have anything to offer me.

To me, they talk about kinky fuckery, there is no power exchange, at all.

It is a appointment between two people, for the duration of the game,
he assumes the "dominant" role, and dont you dare to act differently, then what he expects of you, or you will throw him out of his "role"in sec.

Very dangerous, also, because, most of those socalled bedroom dominants, do have an anger management problem... self controle problem.

Or, get bored very easily, and dump you, for the next hottest "thing"chick..
There is no commitment in such a contact, it is just kinky fuckery.

Sure, this is an exaggaration.
there is truths in exaggarations, too.

The servitude i talk about goes far deeper, is about all things, they both agree to find important in their dynamic.
It can be about anything he finds important, so she learns how he wants that,
because she committed herself to him and his rules, overall rules.

Not the bedroom "fun".

Being of servitude, being submissive and also being masochistic, means, most of the time i am not that much interested in only the sexual/sensual part.

Masochism is something totally else, then just smack her on her behind, twist a nipple, when you feel like it.

Needing the deep physical sensations, to get off, in more ways then just, only the physical...
Some will calll that, impact play...
Is what physical masochism is, to me.

I am not at all interested in being degraded an humiliated

Thát, too, is something, those bedroom doms, most of the time,
REALLY, REALLY love to do....
There is no love in that, there is no understanding of that special need in that person.
They, most of the time. dont even understand that you have to build that person, up again, after some heavy degradation/humiliation sessions.
There is no love and understanding.
It is a sex game, play act.
it is all about that socalled dominant.
My experiences with that category...

just some thoughts, about how i experience, see, feel what being submissive is all about.
For me.
Your truth can be very well, something totally different.

After getting to know, each other as people, become friends, wanting to spend time with each other, wanting to be in each others life, you can go deeper into the D/s or the SM part, finding out, if you are compatible there, too.

Also, you grow, together, there might be aspects that scares the submissive
To a dominant, that is no problem.
he does not have to keep score.
He wants her submission, and they will grow, together...
and learn from each other.

And, just maybe, that one thing, he wants, or needs, very much,
does not become so important to him, anymore
because there are soo many other ways that she is giving herself to him.

It is not about keeping score.

rosaenaluin 65F

11049 posts
2/13/2024 4:08 am

just some rambling.....
See if i can make it clear, for myself, first