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Is Monogamy Natural? Is monogamy only an oppressive social institution or an unnatural expectation of a society steeped in morality? Morality that rings hollow given that half of all first marriages end in divorce. |
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10/7/2020 12:49 pm |
Are we meant to be monogamous?
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I believe in monogamy....I always have...Perhaps it is the romantic in me Till one day my heart hurt...and I believed it it finally killed what I thought was forever You could say I grew up...But alas life goes on, and you make the best of what you are given...Its not so bad...as my older self has learned...
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>>half of all first marriages end in divorce<< but "cheating" or having multiple partners outside the marriage is not necessarily the cause for many of those failed marriages... money, bickering, squabbling, general incompatibility, addiction, domestic abuse, "irreconcilable differences" and so forth all rate pretty high on the list of reasons that people get divorced. as for me, i believe in monogamy, even while i recognize that - like eating three emails a day - its' a man made convention/invention.
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>>like eating three emails a day<< that should say, of course, "like eating three meals a day." damn auto correct.
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10/7/2020 3:47 pm |
We are pack animals aren't we? Humans are not pack animals . The parenting instinct in humans is different than other animals.
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>>they cause of the divorces isn't the issue<< oh, gosh, i'm sorry... i was going by the comment in the first post which tied morality to divorce and presumably the topic at hand... monogamy. if there was a causal relationship, then fine. but the point is that many monogamous couples get divorced.
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10/8/2020 12:51 am |
I know I am wired for monogamy. In all the years I was married, and even since she passed, I have not felt tempted by another. It is the one that might tempt me that I seek.
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monogamy is an institute build by the Church/ men. Victorian times, too maybe.. It became a item, when the human beings understood menstruation, having sex, and pregnancy. That there was a link between the three. So, all of the sudden, men became aware that that baby was from their semem... Ownership. Before that time, men and women too, just both had a sexual active life... although, women, ofcourse had the danger of becoming pregnant. Although in those days, women knew about herbs, and the use of copper and all that. I dont think we, as a spieces, are monogaam, we are brainwashen into accepting that as our "normal"... I think there are people who are build for monogamy and others not so much... I am not talking about cheating on your spouse, that is just low morals...
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My take...i watched a nat geo special where the native tribesmen could literally have as many wives as he desired. But he had to support these women. So most men only chose one wife. It's the same in the jungles of africa or in nyc...if a ,an desires more than one....he then has to pay. If this was removed...men probably wouldnt be monogamous
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10/8/2020 1:29 pm |
I believe in monogamy. I should not say believe. I am monogamous. That's me.
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Creía en la monogamia hasta que me demostraron que va contra natura. Honestamente, aún creo que, si dos almas se reconocen y complementan, el resto de las personas queda fuera, pero sería tanto como encontrar una arenita en una playa inmensa. Mi lado romántico aún cree que existe esa persona que está hecha para ti y a tu medida Saludos Y quizás un instante sirva para trazar el camino que me guíe hacia tus ojos.
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