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tanyacheex4u 60F  
117 posts
8/19/2020 8:48 am
Who was the last person you turned down

And why ?

I personally have met submissive males via 3 fetish sites since 2005.
I found the majority be immature and unsuitable for a long term FLR.
Being a Female Ive not encountered a scammer, or a findomme.

.................................
Too far away
Married or dating
Wrong gender
Too old
Too young
Sexually unappealing
A fake
Said the Wrong things
Suggested something illegal or taboo
Had been promiscuous and possibly met everyone on the net


tanyacheex4u 60F  
12 posts
8/19/2020 8:50 am

By being ''A Fake'' I mean pretending to be someone they were not.EG a dom pretending to be a sub.


tanyacheex4u 60F  
12 posts
8/19/2020 8:50 am

Or maybe asked for financial gain...


Kate960 63F
58 posts
8/19/2020 9:15 am

To far away and just today lol.


Yern2lic 67M
1343 posts
8/19/2020 9:17 am

Financial gain as in being fake seems to be very prominent here, I for one am looking for conversation and seeing where it leads


rosaenaluin 65F
11002 posts
8/19/2020 9:39 am

being & acting condensending,


burner301 66M
80 posts
8/19/2020 9:47 am

yes.....for me......it seems thats all I come across on this site......are fakes!!!


Jack_Daniels2019 26M

8/19/2020 5:03 pm

Yeah, there's a few accounts that are obviously bots. They're easy enough to ignore, but its strange their profiles never get taken down.


BDSMCouple_SoCal 62M/59F  
635 posts
8/19/2020 5:05 pm

As other have said, too many flakes on here. Ask to verify each other with a phone call and its no longer a surprise how fast the communication stops. Its funny how many still will look at the profile or blog. It doesn't make sense to banned them as they will just make another profile.

Ms. Jay
bleash;


Heed68 55M

8/19/2020 8:37 pm

I honestly have never spoken to anyone who hasn’t been out for financial gain. It’s very frustrating


looking4fat 72T

8/20/2020 2:12 am

Unlike most of you, i don't seem to have any problem with scammers. Or "fakes" for that matter. i Do have a problem with local Men who back out of meeting. My guess is that the idea is ever so appealing but when push comes to shove, they just are too afraid of possible publicity.

my most recent "turn down" was several states away. A VERY Hot Black Man who wanted me to drive down for a "vacation." That is NOT going to happen.

The one before was a local male whose profile sounded sort of "Dom-ish" but who once we chatted turned out to be a mostly sub switch. That seems to be a common problem on Alt; males ( i don't call them Men) who pretend to be Doms but are really switches. -Sigh!

My "gurl name" is Kate Coxuker. It is who i am and what i do.


billcdts8 64M

8/20/2020 7:36 am

people pretending to be on cam and have there cam pointing at a wall


slaveRam4MsM 42M
178 posts
8/20/2020 2:17 pm

here more fake profile. my friends all too far away ...we will plan and meet...


iam4u2use 70M

8/21/2020 10:59 am

Only to far away I will be anyone s bottom bitch


Rattenfaengerxxx 58M
143 posts
8/21/2020 1:38 pm

Fakes, scammers and time wasters


alwaysassertive 64M

8/21/2020 2:41 pm

They not only said the wrong things, but withheld information and thought they were smarter, but I'm a trained listener and I'm trained to recognize patterns in speech and behavior, and homie also cursed with an excellent memory.


NastyDomDaddy4u 57M

8/22/2020 1:50 am

wrong gender lol


durandin 44M
10 posts
8/22/2020 6:27 am

gotta give the vote to fakes. i realise my location already puts me in a rough spot but my goodness.


skorpius18 71M  
1342 posts
8/22/2020 10:53 am

Scammers and fakes who have made a home here.


daisymaytv 112T
93 posts
8/23/2020 2:02 am

Apart from scammers, FinDomme's, and crooks on here. People who do not give their right location. Say they are single when the wife/girlfriend/partner lives with them. People who can only meet between 09:30 and 14:30 Mon to Fri. People who are never online at weekends and evenings. The list is endless. I have been here for over 10 years so they are easy to spot.


naked_4_women 68M
22 posts
8/25/2020 1:22 am

I have been contacted by several fake dommes over time, who have instructed me to purchase of BDSM equipment at inflated prices only from their nominated supplier, a price list is always supplied. Fortunately I have not been taken in by any of these scams but I suspect many have and have probably never seen the gear or their money again.
The last one instructed me to purchase costumes, I expect a CFNM scenario when serving so no costumes are required!!

My profile and much more about me are on my Blog, Standard Members can read, please take a look


curioss1970 52M
262 posts
8/26/2020 1:58 pm

unfortunately, too far away...


babyrmd2003 69M
38 posts
8/27/2020 4:17 am

I am not into long distance relationships, talking online about what I like to do to give pleasure (I would rather be giving it flesh to flesh), no time for those with one or no pics which means they are not for real...actually don't have time for many on this site, I meet for real at events, dungeons and playhouses.


SurrenderUrself 41M

8/29/2020 5:14 am

There are many things I'll try, but when she asked me to smear my feces on her....... 😳


BDSMbedroomslave 46T
104 posts
8/29/2020 7:37 am

ALL OF THE ABOVE

I turn down 10's per week (Although calmed down since Covid but I imagine soon as its over it'll be back to the norm)

On this site specifically I am submissive only

I have on the pop up window, top line enough for anyone to read that I am ONLY interested in Doms, and get bombarded with switches and subs all wanting me to DOM THEM.....

I am only looking for single Men, couples of any gender make up and other TV/TS's. And get bombarded with gold member 30 something female Dominants who clearly copy/pasted their message and always address themselves as being a Goddess. Are men looking for kicks really that hard to spot?

When I was paying for the privilege, the amount of people who only contacted me because my pics made them excitable, were clear, especially other Gold Members, who have the privilege to read a profile, but choose not to because its too taxing on their brain if your profile says more than one sentence.

People, especially Gold Members, who jump to presumptions about what you are looking for, or better still choose to dictate to you, "you will be interested in this" when "this" is cleatly on my "not interested" in list.

But mostly, its because the retard didnt read my profile and their contact preferences/content proves it.

I hate winks (and whatever sites versions of them) I think they're lazy. I hate random "we've never spoken" friends invitations. But these come in thick and fast, and all of them go immediately to my block list even if, their profile suggests we'd get along.

I get told I have an attitude problem, and they're right.... My attitude is if you cannot be arsed contacting my properly, why should I give you time of day? Because it says Dominant on your profile? Because it says submissive on mine? Mine doesn't say "Doormat, put your feet down here". It says respect, will gain you respect. What we do together in private is between us, but to get me there I would like some effort put in.... no effort no gain as they say, thats my Attitude.

I have standards, sadly 99% if the target group I am referring to, cannot even spell it, let alone know what such things are


barryj43 80M  
446 posts
9/1/2020 1:45 pm

Turning down anyone hitting on me during this pandemic.



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