A letter I was sent
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Posted:Feb 1, 2009 9:41 am
Last Updated:Jan 16, 2019 6:55 am 12044 Views
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Hello to You all:
I know; It's been a while since I posted , But then again this blog is for all of us to send our posts and thoughts on issues that we feel are pertinent to our life's and understanding. I was sent this by someone at random and thought it warranted posting... Although it sounds like a "pick up" I know,,, it is basic to the thought of want. So here go's..
Hi I'm a way different kind of guy you may not have even thought exited my attitudes are so different from other men. A little background info might help explain some of the things I'm about to say. Sometime ago I met and dated a wonderful girl after a time and before becoming intimate she told me she was a post op T/G we got along great and I didn't see where it made any difference but it did lead me to do some research and check out some sites that I found that were not porn sites that actually allowed for learning about transgender people. After spending considerable time there and elsewhere I really do understand this I don’t think of the women as T/G to me they are just a woman I know for sure they are women in mind and heart so for me it’s just a man and a woman dating and it’s very easy to just forget about it would also like to say it's quite possible for a normal straight guy to date T/G girls. I have various reasons for wishing to do so and I will freely admit some are a little bit selfish although I wouldn’t consider any of them to be perverted or voyeuristic.
Number one I have found many of the girls to be more feminine than typical modern day natal females and I don’t think a T/G woman will ever take being a woman for granted like so many natal females seem to.
Number two I think and this is only an opinion but formed from talking with a lot of different girls that a there will be a much higher degree of fidelity in the relationship (one of the selfish reasons).
Number three My personal experience leads me to believe in general T/G people are more understanding and willing to work at a relationship and much more communicative open and don’t play games also with a different perspective than a natal woman which makes communicating much easier without all the BS a T/G woman understands a male in ways no natal female ever could.
Number four a much greater likelihood of meeting a girl who will be a kind affectionate loving faithful smart full partner for a man who has taken the time and effort to learn about the realities of what it takes for her to have transitioned what she in all probability has lost along the way thought long and hard about the problems and possible benefits of having a T/G woman as a life partner and is able to put the T/G womans past behind them and not feel any embarrassment or give a damn what anyone thinks of the decision and treat her like the woman she is with family, friends, and every day life and probably the most selfish reason of all a smaller pool of decent available understanding males to chose from means she knows how hard it is to find a man like that and she will never take that man for granted. Now You have an admittedly brief but pretty good idea what my thoughts are about a T/G woman and you know I have thought this through pretty thoroughly and my eyes are wide open to possible problems and benefits to actively seek a T/G girl friend I am currently not involved in a committed relationship I have dated recently and will be continuing to do so until I find "miss right" and win her heart. The last date was a day after the heater in the car broke on a 36 degree below zero day that required a 137 mile drive so I am serious and when something is set up I do pull the trigger and there are no excuses. The heater is fixed by the way LOL and the date was worth every second of freezing my ass off. I am seriously looking for miss right I am ready and willing to settle down with the right woman in a committed monogamous relationship so if you think you might be ready for that with a man who admittedly is kinda high maintenance I require a woman who wants a kiss and a hug good morning and kiss and a hug goodbye when she or I leave a kiss and a hug when we get home and maybe anytime for no reason at all. A sweet kind affectionate woman who likes to let the man in her life know she cares about him in small ways as well and who likes to snuggle up at night and be held instead of sitting in a chair across the room. I do these things and require them as well. I am straight and I meant it I would prefer a post-op woman but would be open to a pre-op who will be post-op in the future (yes if were together I will be with you every step of the way) supporting you in every possible way I make no bones about looking for a T/G girl friend I have thought about it I know what I want in a mate and think I have a better chance of finding it with a T/G woman so there hasn’t been any embarrassment or guilt in the past nor will there be in the future in dating a T/G woman. You can be stealth or out with my friends and family its your decision and I understand and respect that. I am confident enough in who I am and what I want to not give a damn about what anyone else thinks although I will say most of my friends and family are fairly open minded. Ok whew that lays it out pretty plainly I think where Im at so if you think you might be miss right please contact me.
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The truth of the matter
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Posted:Aug 9, 2007 11:12 am
Last Updated:Mar 23, 2018 11:00 am 11753 Views
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The Following is from a good friend of mine. It is a precise statement of the life we ALL live, Both in secret and in public...
Well let's start out by saying that being a transgendered isn't the easiest life to live when you want to find true love, but if you are just looking for wild sex you can find it any where. lol. But being in between both worlds has alot of advantages and is a blast! To be honest I am glad I was born a man and going through this transition, because I wouldn't have known what men are really like deep inside. What little secrets they hide about what femme things they really like to do. It's all good to me, I don't mind what other people like for their fantasies, I've been there once or twice. So I don't judge because I don't want to be judged . Everyone has the right to live their lives according to how they feel happiest doing it.
One thing I do hate is when people have to lie about who they are to make people to like them. I believe in being just me and if you don't like me then you don't have to, just leave me alone. People feel they have to blame someone else for making the wrong decisions that they choice to make. One thing everyone has to remember in life is this.....
Yes we were all brought to live life a certain way from our parents and friends, but in the end WE are the final decision makers on how our lives go. So quite blaming your parents, friends, society, and anyone else, YOU made the decision to go down the wrong path or right path and no one else forced you to take that path. Stand up and be a "man" and take credit for the mistakes you have made and correct them. You are the only one who can. No sugar daddy in the sky, or lover or friend can help you if you aren't willing to help yourself make things right and be come a productive member of society. then and only then can you full fill your happiness.
One other thing before I close out this Bitch session is this..... when you meet someone remember to be just you and don't color code it or try to be what they want you to be so you don't want to loose them, because in the end you will be the one that is truly unhappy.
With that said, I will stop bitchin and post this.
Remember Be You and only You then you will be happy
Hugs and Kisses to all of you,
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Alil help for the boys
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Posted:May 27, 2007 10:48 am
Last Updated:Mar 23, 2018 11:02 am 12666 Views
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The following was penned by a friend to help and inform.. Because Even though times have changed, Alot of the old misconceptions have not. Hope this helps you.
One thing I've heard hundreds of times from heterosexual guys:
"I'm attracted to transwomen, but I'm not gay! I don't really know what to think of this."
Guys, you can relax now! Being attracted to (transwomen) does not mean you are gay! In fact, it only affirms you are straight. The people who are most attracted to femininity are heterosexual men and lesbian women. The people who are attracted to masculinity are heterosexual women and gay men. Bisexual people are attracted to both masculinity and femininity.
Gay men are attracted to males, whereas many transwomen are more feminine than even regular women, so gay men are not attracted to them. Whereas straight guys who are attracted to the femininity of regular women would also naturally be attracted to the femininity of transwomen.
There is a rapidly growing number of heterosexual guys who are realizing their attraction for transwomen, yet so many are afraid to admit this because they think it means they are gay. Being attracted to us will not lead to attraction for men because We are *not* like men! Rather, they *are* very much like women on the inside, and often look so feminine on the outside too. So it's natural for straight guys to be attracted to them, and still be totally straight.
One real bonus of straight guys who are attracted to transwomen and secure enough about themselves not to worry what others think, is that only straight guys really know how to treat a woman *like a lady*... gay men don't have much concept of this, and lesbians tend to shun the concept of femininity. Straight men are the best at fully expressing appreciation for the beauty of a woman. Most of us want nothing more than to be treated like a lady, so it's a real bonus when a true gentleman recognizes her as such.
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the big truth
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Posted:May 15, 2007 2:21 pm
Last Updated:Jan 16, 2019 7:08 am 11863 Views
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Hello to ALL:
My first post is to make a true statement.
It is about why most GG's hate trans gendered females. Well, in the 1st place, a full time trans woman takes great pride in her appearance. Make up done right, dressed impeccably and totally presentable to the world. And in mostly good shape or getting there. While the gg that is giving the hate is normally unkempt and alil if not totally used to pulling herself away from the dinner table.
CASE in Point: I recently was at the video store picking a few movies for my hubby and I. Minding my own business when from the corner of my eye i see a girl stareing at me, i turned to smile at her and went about looking. She go's over to a guy she was with kinda loudly and says thats a guy over there.
He looks me over and tells her "whats the problem",
She looks good,it looks like she has herself together. she's dressed nice, unlike you why can't you take pride like her! THAT made me smile!!!! A STAND UP MAN!!! whoever you are I Thank You!!! Needless to say she was pissed.
Women should take pride in themselves, Like they used to!! Thats why most HONEST REAL and SECURE men seek out Trans woman to have relationships with. Transwomen know what it is to be a woman!! Men should not be subjected to seeing a woman out in public or coming home after work to see their wives/gf's draped in the "bum uniform" Baggy tee shirt, pajama bottoms and ratty ponytail.Fucking get yourselves together already girls!!! And men, you are not off the hook either, MAKE it a point to let your women know you deserve better!
Also: And girls, that tired excuse of "Not all men like skinny women" BULLSHIT! If anyone sees the same thing over and over again it becomes a constant to settle with. how many times have you gone to a guys workshop or garage and seen a
"Fat girls of Snap-on" calender????
Not bitterness, Just honesty
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A place to Talk
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Posted:May 13, 2007 11:43 pm
Last Updated:Nov 14, 2017 11:10 am 11607 Views
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For all to vent, even me. whats on your mind?
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