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Ms Jay's Blog

A place for me to write about my tease & denial and BDSM adventures with my sub/hub and other friend's. And now also the start of cuckholding and use of a bull to continue my subs long-term denial.

New Year's Trip PT 1
Posted:Jan 14, 2020 10:47 am
Last Updated:Jan 22, 2024 10:22 am
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See post in the comments. Words get taken away in the main area.
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New Year Changes
Posted:Jan 9, 2020 4:42 pm
Last Updated:Jan 22, 2024 10:19 am
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See post in the comments. Words get taken away in the main area.
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New Year's Eve
Posted:Jan 3, 2020 1:58 pm
Last Updated:Jan 22, 2024 10:15 am
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The post is in the first comment....
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Been A While
Posted:Dec 17, 2019 5:24 pm
Last Updated:Sep 11, 2021 8:24 pm
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See post in the comments. Words get taken away in the main area.
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Surrender 2019
Posted:Nov 18, 2019 7:21 pm
Last Updated:Sep 11, 2021 8:23 pm
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One of the kink events I really look forward to going to each year is Dark Odyssey's Surrender conference. It's a 3- event with workshops during the day and then rooms are converted into dungeons and sex rooms for the evening.

It's a lot different this year as they had to change locations and dates. Location wasn't much of an issue to us but the new date was at it's now on Thanksgiving weekend. I was wondering how we would do it but our days of having to go Black Friday shopping are behind us and my sub said we stick around the house that weekend anyways so why not go? I think he really just wanted to avoid putting the decorations up. LOL.

Another change will be that my sub will be limited in play as he is still healing from a non-kink related injury, so I will be looking for others to play with. I already have made contact with a couple of people and hope to find more before we go or at one of the classes where people looking for others to play with. It should still be a good time and should have a good car ride as well.
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New Friend
Posted:Nov 13, 2019 3:25 pm
Last Updated:Sep 11, 2021 8:22 pm
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This post is a little late, but a couple of weeks ago we had the opportunity to play with a wonderful young woman who is a switch. She normally dommes other women, and is sub to men, but we had been chatting online, and she had decided try something different.

We had discussed a scenario where we would tag-team domme my sub together first, then she would domme him alone while I watched. Then my sub would rest and watch while I dommed her. She wasn't going to be able to stay the whole night, so we reserved an hotel room with a Jacuzzi, so my sub and I would be able to relax and enjoy it afterwards.

We arrived at the hotel, and started our usual setup. We didn't bring everything, because we weren't planning quite a full session. But we had the stand, the big bench, and the small cage all set up and ready to go.

When she arrived, we tied my sub to the stand, and I started with the flogger on his back. She then took the flogger, and used it in his back and ass.

We quickly discovered that we have very different ways of domming, from the way we swing a flogger, to the way we talk to a sub. She is much more of a hands-on, personal Domme, whereas I'm more of an implement, impersonal Domme. But, we both enjoy what we do, and my sub seemed enjoy both of our different styles.

We took turns tag-teaming him for about forty- minutes, with paddles, canes, nipple clamps, etc. While she worked very close him and used her fingers on pressure points and grabs. Midway we moved him the bed and tied him down in a spread-eagle. Eventually I took a seat and watched while she dommed him on her own for about another forty- minutes. She didn't use any implements at all this time, just her hands, but she had him squirming. She was grabbing him everywhere, digging her fists into tender areas, bending fingers and toes back, etc and using both her arms and legs to make him very uncomfortable. As I don't get to see my sub being tormented by others It was quite interesting and enjoyable to watch and how her style of is different than mine. My sub told me later the different styles being used at the time was a nice change. With thuddy and the other grabby it was hard anticipate what was coming next since he was hooded.

When she was done, he finally got a much needed break, and got sit back and I took over domming her. I had her naked, stretched on the stand, and I slowly started with nipple clamps, the ones with the buckets on the ends. Every once in awhile I would add a weight, and she would moan.

I used the leather paddles on her, but she called a hard limit on the wooden ones. I used the flogger on her back, gently, (for me, let's it, I don't know the word gently, lol) for the most part, then intermittently hard and fast. In between hits though, I would come close and caress her all over, just let her know it wasn't all pain, and I can be nice sometimes. LOL.

I did have a lot more planned for her, but time got away from us, and she had get going. Bummer. Hopefully we can get together again sometime soon and again. I know my sub would sure like it.

After she left, we had a of drinks, and chilled in the jacuzzi for awhile just relaxing and taking about the evening. We finally went bed around , and woke up the next morning and used the jacuzzi again before checking . It was a very nice weekend.
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6 Months of Denial - Again
Posted:Oct 26, 2019 10:46 am
Last Updated:Sep 11, 2021 8:21 pm
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This past October 16th my sub reached 6 month of denial once again. He seems to be making it to 6 months on a regular basis. LOL. Looking back at the first time I kept him in denial that long it seemed like such a cruel and harsh punishment, the second time wasn't so bad and now it's just a warmup of things to come, or probably not cum.



The denial includes both penile and anal orgasms, though he did get one anal orgasm a while back as I wanted to show our friends how he reacted to them. I don't think he has had more than the one in the past couple of years.

This denial period started with him thinking he would be able to go inside and fuck me a few more times, but he had no clue he was already in denial a week before that. As some may recall, well on a quick trip to Vegas I finally let him fuck me twice for the first time in over 3 years, and I gave strong hints that we would continue but I really didn't want him to get used to it again.

In the beginning of the original denial period, I would let him go inside me to tease him, but after 6 months I changed the rules on him and he was no longer allowed to go inside me or have anal orgasms. So in the past 3 years the two times in Vegas were the only times he has been able to go inside me. I did tease him the last time we met with our friends and said maybe I would let him out of his cage if our friend wanted to use his cock, but that really wasn't going to happen. The look on his face when I told him "no" was great as he was really hoping to go inside her. I don't think she was too disappointed as he did do a great job of oral and used the facilitator on her for a very long time. The facilitator has much better stamina and isn't small like him. LOL.

As usual he has no idea of when this period will be over and I'm offering no hints. He will just have to continue to please me and hope that someday soon he will be allowed to cum again.
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Happy birthday to me!
Posted:Oct 17, 2019 8:10 pm
Last Updated:Sep 11, 2021 8:20 pm
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A couple of Wednesday's ago was my birthday, and we were surprised with last minute tickets to the Dodgers playoff game, field level seats. We had celebrated my birthday with the family the day before, so I, of course, jumped at the chance to go to a game.

We headed out early, with me teasing my sub/hub the whole drive to the game. I was wearing a very short, tight shirt, that we had purchased in the 's section, lol, and tight jeans. We had a great time at the game, even though my Dodgers let me down big time. Oh well, there's always next year.

We headed for home, with the teasing continuing. I was not just working him up, but myself as well. By the time we got home, I was really horny. I haven't been able to connect with any guys to fuck recently, mostly due to vanilla reasons, so even though I haven't been allowing my sub to do much with me lately, as a birthday treat for both of us, I had him go down on me. He really thought I was teasing him again as I laid in the bed naked with my legs spread. I've let him get very close to me before only to close my legs and tell him it was time to be tied.

I know he was very tired as he was up early that morning for work, then drove up and down to the game, which took forever to play, and he was only going to get about 3 hours of sleep so I hoped he was up to the task. Oh man, was he ever! I had almost forgotten just how good he is at using his mouth and tongue!! Fucking is great, but sometimes, you just want a mouth on your pussy for an hour or so. It felt SOOOO good. And just the way to end a perfect birthday night. Now, if only we could get my teams to cooperate, lol.
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Cam test 3
Posted:Oct 11, 2019 6:48 am
Last Updated:Sep 11, 2021 8:17 pm
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Tested the cams again on Thursday evening and they were still working. Had multiple conversations and everyone was able see the cam, even if it was very boring. I was able start private chats and the others were able say in the main window.



I didn't ask the people were on the cam if I could their screenname on so they are blurred.

A few things we've noticed is the old cams are not clearing. So if you see has a very the bottom right corner it's probably not going to work. The image shows on the screen is probably not what you're going be seeing. The for us shows a cam session from March 20. If you open a cam and the circles go round, then the arrow and then it goes back spinning, give up on .

If we get a chance we'll try and do another test on Friday but hoping do a real BDSM cam show on Saturday night.
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Day 2 - cams still working
Posted:Oct 8, 2019 9:41 pm
Last Updated:Sep 11, 2021 8:16 pm
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The cams still seem to work but are very sensitive. Had to log in twice to clear things and then had to open the another time to get the cam going. But was able to with someone who sent me a message first, they also heard us on the mic. Hopefully alt continues with the tweaks and keeps trying to get them fully functional again. Probably test them again on Thursday.
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