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Ms Jay's Blog

A place for me to write about my tease & denial and BDSM adventures with my sub/hub and other friend's. And now also the start of cuckholding and use of a bull to continue my subs long-term denial.

Clover Clamps Ii
Posted:Feb 11, 2018 9:52 pm
Last Updated:Aug 5, 2021 8:13 pm
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Didn't add a photo earlier as we were in a public place when the last post was added. Here is a pic of what the clamps looked like. I want to keep trying to have them one on top of another like the video had so probably practice once again tonight.

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Double Clovers
Posted:Feb 11, 2018 1:57 pm
Last Updated:Aug 5, 2021 8:10 pm
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I saw a video on alt of a person using clover clamps on themselves, which in and of itself isn't that big of a deal. But after they attached the clover clamps to their nipples, they took a second pair of clover clamps, stretched their nipples out as far as they could, and attached the second pair as well! Well, color me intrigued! I was so impressed, I just had to go and try it that night, and of course, I had a willing (?) pair of nipples just waiting to be tortured.

I started out with tying my sub spread eagle, naturally, as I didn't want him squirming. I took out my black clover clamps, which are the looser of all of my clovers. My sub would argue that they aren't very loose, but there is a significant difference between them and the silver ones.

I placed them on his nipples, and let the pain sink in. I started to play with his nipples, kissing and sucking them around the clamps. He seemed to be enjoying that, but then I took the next pair out and showed them to him. He wasn't too happy about that, lol.

This was a pair of the silver ones, that were quite a bit tighter. I placed one of them on his nipple, just in front of the black clamp. He tried to twist away, but couldn't move. It was a good thing we were home alone, because he sure wasn't quiet about how it felt, lol. I placed the second clamp on his other nipple, and he went crazy. I guess it took a lot longer for him to adjust to the pain than with just one.

I left them on for a few minutes, then removed them quickly, one nipple at a time, squeezing and twisting the nipples for full effect.

I then untied him, and practiced my caning techniques until his ass was red and covered in welts. Good times, other any volunteers want to try this? LOL
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23 Months
Posted:Feb 8, 2018 11:09 pm
Last Updated:Aug 5, 2021 8:12 pm
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This past Monday marked 23 months since my sub last had an orgasm, which means only more month until the year anniversary. Wow, how time has flown, (for me, anyway, I'm sure it has felt like an eternity for him, lol).

He had been locked up more often than not, usually only taking the cage off for an hour or and then right back on it goes. The last months he was locked up over 75% of the month, and this month I am aiming for 80%. So far we are on track to make it.

I have been doing a lot more teasing lately, just to keep him in a frustrated state of mind. I have been making him sleep tied most nights, just so I can cup his cage while I sleep.

We have been talking to some more people, and have a few lined up that look promising. Now, if we just had more time to do things, and my head and knee would just cooperate. ...,but seriously, I think my knee is just about mended, so that's pretty much over.
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Booze Cruise
Posted:Jan 31, 2018 7:18 pm
Last Updated:Aug 5, 2021 5:07 pm
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We spent the past weekend on a four-day booze cruise down to Ensenada and back. We were with vanilla relatives, so didn't get to bring much in the way of toys, but my sub was locked in his cage almost the whole time. We used a plastic lock to get through the security.

We were on an older ship this time, that didn't have many rooms with balconies, so we didn't get to have that experience again of me having an orgasm above the sea, have to wait for next time for that. We did have a nice big window though.

As soon as we boarded, we immediately had a couple of drinks, then headed to the cabin to change the lock. I figured as long as we were in there, my sub might as well pleasure me. I laid down on the bed and he got to work, giving me two really big orgasms pretty fast. I could have gone longer, but my sister knocked on the door wanting us to join them for more drinks and to watch the ship sail, so we left.



After dinner, a comedy show, sing-along piano bar and countless more drinks, (I did mention this was a booze cruise, right? , lol), we headed back up to the cabin where I generously allowed my sub to pleasure me four more times. He was so horny, so I got out the clover clamps and played with his nipples for about half an hour, just to tease him.

The next morning I allowed my sub to put on a plastic lock while we went into Mexico, just in case the metal detector was too sensitive. We went out, shopped for an hour or so, took some pictures, and were back on the ship by noon. We had the requisite few drinks, then returned to the room for a couple of hours. I played with my sub, teasing his cock and balls, and using the clamps on his already sore nipples for awhile, then had him use his mouth and fingers on me again for another five mind blowing orgasms. When we were getting ready to leave I told my sub that he could take his cage off as it was very inconvenient the previous night when he had to use the facilities. He thought once he cleaned up I would play with him for a while but nope, we went downstairs, where I promptly lost my shirt at the casino, (figuratively, lol), and had a few more drinks to make up for lost time. After dinner, we went to a show, then back upstairs for more orgasms and wine.

Sunday morning we slept in, (I think my sub was just a little hung over, lol), then went down for brunch. They all had mimosas, but I like my champagne plain. We then puttered around the ship, playing trivia games, drinking, shopping, etc. Went back to the room for some more extra-curricular activities. I decided to tease him after my last orgasm before dinner. As he was very hard and still out of the cage I told him to scoot up between my legs. I told him he could put the tip of his cock on my pussy but he was not allowed to go inside. The look of his eyes as his cock touch me for the first time in 18 months was thrilling. He asked if he could go inside me just once but I knew how horny he was and it's been such a long time I didn't want to break the streak. I told him he could keep the tip only on me and after a couple of minutes with me moving my hips to rub the tip I told him to wash up and get dressed for dinner.

We took in another comedy show after dinner, walked around the decks watching people and then finally made it back to our cabin, where I sat on the bed and drank a glass of wine while my sub packed our bags for departure the next morning. Then we played a little more before crashing. All in all, a very nice weekend, with over 14 orgasms for me, my sub none and he was locked up again in the morning before leaving, and it's been on ever since.

Ended the month with him spending almost the same amount of time in chastity as he did in December, when I really started keeping track. Not quite what I was hoping for but 72% of time in his cage is not bad, and 100% of denial is wonderful.
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Spanking Bench
Posted:Jan 18, 2018 10:12 pm
Last Updated:Aug 5, 2021 5:06 pm
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We had about an hour at home to ourselves so I thought trying out the new spanking bench my sub made would be a good use of our time.

After a trip to the doctor today I was told to continue to take it easy, so I used a chair while using my paddles on his ass.

We had the bench for a few months but my sub just recently added the tie downs to the legs. Something I wanted to do was to attach his elbows and knees together, but the straps we had out weren't long enough. He will have to remember to get a few long strips for the next time use it. Yes, I could have used rope but wanted to get going as we didn't have that much time.

He was also out of his chastity cage so it made it easy to have him lie down on his stomach. He had been in it for 16 of the first 17 days of the year and will be put back in after a hockey game tomorrow. His balls looked so nice sticking out from under him, I couldn't resist cupping them, lol.

The bench was the perfect h for use while I was sitting in the chair. I did find that I was a lot more accurate seated. With him secured to the bench he was not able to move after each strike so I found I was able to hit a lot faster.

I warmed him up with the leather paddle and got his ass a nice shade of red. I spent about 10 minutes with this paddle and would move the chair to each side so I was comfortable and not putting pressure on my knee. Next time I'll use 2 chairs so I don't have to keep moving it.

The second paddle was a gift from a Femdom couple that we meet for dinner. They are slowly retiring from impact and are reducing their collection so we're very grateful for the toys they gave us. I really haven't had a chance to use it so it was nice to get some nice swings in. I used the paddle for about 10 minutes and switched sides every so often. Once again, having my sub secured to the bench made it so he had very limited movement and I was able to keep hitting multiple times in a row.

The third instrument I used was my lollipop paddle, a solid piece of wood which gives a very nice thud when hitting. My sub was never released during the session and only got limited recovery time as I took the time to take pictures of his ass after each paddle was used. I used the same method of about 10 minutes and switching sides to give him a little break. When we started I had told him I wanted to hit him hard and long and he could make whatever noise he wanted, but I would only stop if he said "red, red red". He did a great job and only said it once with the middle paddle as I hit the same spot about 15 times in a row. The lollipop did a great job of hitting hard in smaller areas and from the last photo it made some awesome marks.





The photos show which paddle was used on him and the results. The second is of course the bench.

Once I was finished, his ass was very hot and tender to the touch. I'm really hoping he has a rough day at work and his ass is sore every time he gets up and down in his chair. I'm also hoping for some bruises to show as he seldom marks. Can't wait to use the bench again.
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Nice weekend
Posted:Jan 16, 2018 4:51 pm
Last Updated:Aug 5, 2021 5:05 pm
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This was a very kink-filled weekend, at long last.

We started out the weekend Friday evening by getting an hotel room to meet with my friend for some extra curricular activities We planned on playing with my sub a little in addition to the fucking. He was a little late so by the time he got there, the swing stand was set up, my sub was already tied to a chair with his head secured to the top of the stand and sore nipples. To pass the time I used clover clamps and put them off and on a few times.

We got right down to business, fucking in a few different positions, then untied my sub and chained him to the stand. We took turns trying out different canes on him. This was a new room so it was not made for impact play on a stand as we couldn't get the right angle to really hit my sub. We used floggers, paddles and canes for a while until it got to the point where we couldn't really hit him well enough, so I tied my sub back in the chair while we went and relaxed in the in-room jacuzzi for awhile.

We then fucked again, this time in the shower, then we all took a short break as the heat was a little too much for my friend. Once we were rested, my sub was placed in his strait jacket and put on his knees. I put on my strap on, and had him take turns sucking my cock and my friend's cock. That was a lot of fun. We fucked again on the bed right next to my sub so he could really hear what was going. Fun time and can't wait to make some other friends with different sizes



After my friend left I had tied my sub back up in the chair as I teased his nipples again with the clover clamps. After about 30 minutes I was horny again so I untied him and had him go down on me while I told him all about my adventure. I made sure that he licked my very sore hole so he knew someone else was inside me.

The next morning, after he cleaned and packed everything up, my sub was allowed to relax with me in the jacuzzi, I talked about the evening some more, and then he went down on me again. It was a very nice morning.

We went home, changed, and went to a Femdom munch for the afternoon. We had a nice time there, meeting new people. As I only had a couple of hours sleep the night before we only stayed a couple of hours at the munch but will go to others and hope it grows.

On Sunday I met a new female sub that I'm thinking of playing with, and had a nice afternoon talking with her. She looks like a fun person who is hoping to try new things. Can't wait to see how it goes.

Still have the bum knee, but it was nice getting back into things again.
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Anal Orgasms
Posted:Jan 4, 2018 5:22 pm
Last Updated:Aug 5, 2021 5:03 pm
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Last night, we had an empty house again for a few hours. I was going to do an anal session with my sub and I decided to surprise him and allow him to finally have an anal orgasm at long last. Its been about 14 months since an anal orgasm. I had told him he would not have one again until I had finally been satisfied by another, and since that had happened a few weeks ago, and another sexual session already planned, I felt it was time to give him a treat. Tomorrow will be the 22nd month anniversary of his last real orgasm, and I know he has been really horny as of late, so I though I'd take the edge off just a little but not let him be too satisfied.

I had him on the edge of the bed, face up, cock cage on, with his thighs tied to his chest harness to keep his legs up. I also had him blindfolded.

I started to fuck him, first with a long beaded dildo to open him up, then with a larger dildo. I alternated fucking him and playing with his nipples, until he started getting so horny he started grinding. When I first starting he was so hard in his cage but got soft as I went along. He was making the cutest sounds and I knew he was getting ready to cum, but I kept telling him no and would slow down or pull out.

I fucked him for about 20 minutes before I finally decided to take pity on him. I started a rhythm going, and within seconds he had a powerful orgasm. Within just a few more minutes he had two more, not quite as strong though.

I let him rest for awhile as I played with his nipples and still-soft cock, then started up again with the larger dildo. I'm glad I put a condom on his cage as it kept most of his precum, of which there was a lot, in the cage and away from where I was playing. He had two more orgasms, the last one was very hard, and ended up having five orgasms in total. He was exhausted, but happy. He just lay there panting as the last one took a toll on him. LOL.

Once he recovered I let his legs loose and he went to the shower to clean up. As an added treat to tease him more, I put on a Christmas present he bought me. We decided to take next year's Christmas picture in front of the tree, but instead of waiting I decided to post it this year instead. So, here it is. Hope you like it as much as I do. He seemed to like it a lot as his cock got very hard while taking the photos.



I didn't go without something for me of course. In the morning my sub woke me up with his mouth on my clit and gave me a wonderful orgasm. It's so nice to cum and then cover up again and go back to sleep with all the pillows surrounding me. So far in the first four days of the year I've had six great orgasms. January has been good to me so far.
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Happy New YearHappy; Part Ii
Posted:Jan 1, 2018 1:25 pm
Last Updated:Aug 5, 2021 5:01 pm
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Happy New Year!  Both last year and the start of the new year went just as I wanted.  My sub still in denial, locked up and me having an orgasm. 

We were out for New Year's Eve but it was decided that the celebration would be done Central time which got us home to celebrate our New Year at home.  Once the ball dropped and the fireworks around the area subsided we headed to the bedroom and I found my sub had already set up the pillows for a complete oral satisfaction session. 

I laid down he started kissing me from my neck down to the my feet, where he spent quite a while worshipping each foot.  He spent a lot of time on each insole and in between my toes as he knows I love it there so much.

Once he finished with my toes he worked his way back up and started kissing and using his tongue on my clit.  After the foot worship it felt so good.  I had to be careful of having too powerful of an orgasm as I had a migraine the past couple of days and didn't want it to come back full force.  I was on a wedge pillow which elevated me so he had great access to my clit and I kept getting little waves of pleasure before the real orgasm came. Usually he will stay and keep using his tongue, but knowing the situation he moved up and started kissing my breasts to bring me down.

After a couple of minutes I got up and tied him down for sleep with his little cock straining against his cage.  I mentioned that the year ended how I wanted and that is with him in denial and spending more time in chastity as I like seeing his cock and balls locked up.

In December, I hoped that he would be able to be locked up for about 75% of the time and he did reach 73% which is not bad for the first month of returning to long term chastity.  And yes, I made him keep track of his chastity for me just to screw with him.  LOL.  For those curious about how many days it came out to 22 of 31 days locked up but 31 days of denial.

As for denial, another site we are on someone asked in a pernament orgasm group who would be denied for 2018.  I told my sub he might as well answer that he would be part of that group as I had already made my decision.  In November, I decided that he would not be having an orgasm in 2018 as I had many things planned for the new year, one of which was already achieved in having sex with some else and am looking forward to doing it again, and again, and again, etc, etc, etc but also meeting with other femdom couples and the occasional female and male subs. For some reason, he was not thrilled with the news of being denied for the entire 2018 year but has kept his whining to a very low minimum. 

I hope every has a great New Year and is looking forward to the kinky part of life as I am.
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Happy New Year
Posted:Dec 31, 2017 11:12 am
Last Updated:Aug 5, 2021 4:59 pm
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Just wanted to wish everyone a Happy New Year. Be safe and hope you get some kink in tonight.
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Teasing a sub, how fun
Posted:Dec 23, 2017 6:04 pm
Last Updated:Aug 5, 2021 4:58 pm
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Haven't had a chance to post this one as it was a busy pre-holiday week. My sub has been locked in his chastity cage most of the month but had to take it off on Monday for a morning chiropractor appointment. Once he got home I wanted to take a nap and have him join me so I let him leave it off. However I tied him spread eagle to sleep, and started teasing him.

He got so hard while I rubbed up and down on his cock I swear he grew two inches, lol. He was so excited as I really have been ignoring his cock the past couple of months, only really playing with his balls or nothing at all. Usually my sub will try and rock with me playing with his cock, later I asked him why he wasn't and he said it felt so good he didn't want to make me stop. At least he's finally learned the conquences. LOL.

While I played with his cock I was taunting him about how much I had enjoyed fucking someone else, and that my friend was so much thicker than him. I really enjoyed telling him that my friend lasted so long and was pumping so hard that I was still sore the next day. I also loved being able to tell him how much I enjoyed it and how he may never fuck me again, let alone have an orgasm.

Before I untied him I showed him a bruise on my breast and asked how did he like it? The bruise was actually a hickey from my friend kissing my breasts as he fucked me. He said that wasn't fair as I don't let him leave hickeys, and I reminded him that I don't let him fuck me either. LOL. It's Saturday night, almost a week since meeting my friend, and the hickey is still there and I have loved teasing him with it all week. I told him when he gets to fuck me again, I'll let him give me a hickey.



When we got up, the cage went back on, and I continued to tease him. The more I teased him, the harder he got, and he just strained against the cage, pushing it away from his body and stretching his balls.

As I mentioned earlier, he has been in the cage more this month than he had the last few months, as I am getting him used to wearing it all the time, as we are planning on meeting more people in addition to my friend. I have a male sub whom I've played with before and has a long cock and a female sub and a couple of femdom couples that look promising as well. Another female sub I spent some time chatting with quit communicating but she did look like she would have been fun. Oh well, that's how it goes on here in the wonderful world of alt.

This is probably my last post before Christmas so I want to wish everyone a Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays and Happy New Year. I hope all the Dom/Dommes get all their new sadistic toys they were hoping for and all you subbies get your butts red from paddling, sore nipples from clover clamps and are locked up nice and tight in your chastity devices.
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