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Ms Jay's Blog

A place for me to write about my tease & denial and BDSM adventures with my sub/hub and other friend's. And now also the start of cuckholding and use of a bull to continue my subs long-term denial.

Anniversary
Posted:Aug 25, 2023 8:09 am
Last Updated:Jan 30, 2024 4:54 pm
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This past Sunday was our wedding anniversary, and I really thought we should celebrate it by having sex. And by me saying having sex, I mean me having sex with someone else, as my sub is still locked in his cage, and I intend to keep him that way. It was a last-minute, day-of thing, as we had originally had vanilla plans that fell through.

I talked to a few guys and even though they said they were up for meeting they backed out when I wanted to verify them with a phone call as they were afraid of the weather. Good excuse as it had been raining all day and there was a tropical storm warning that had been issued, but I think it was really when it came time to do it they chickened out. Too many flakes on these types of sites.

I finally decided on someone that had been messaging me for a while but we could never meet. He said he could get a hotel room and meet us there at 5:30. We were out running errands, so we just went straight over to the hotel and arrived at the same time he did, at 5 pm.

We went up to the room, and introductions were made. My sub set up the video camera (the guy wasn't willing to have the videos online, but I explained that I like to video tape the sessions as a tease for my sub for later). I then tied my sub to the chair in the room, with him facing the wall. He forgot to pack a blindfold, so he had to sit there with a towel wrapped around his eyes.

Once my sub was out of the way I went over to the bed, and we started kissing and fondling each other. We did this for a few minutes, then I told him that we both had too many clothes on. So we undressed each other and laid down on the bed and continued. He stroked my clit with his fingers and I had a couple of nice orgasms. During this time I was stroking his cock but he wasn't getting hard and I was getting a bad feeling. I then started to push his head lower on the bed and he finally took the hint and started to go down on me. It felt very nice, and a little strange, as he had a full beard and mustache, and it has been many, many years since I was with a guy with a beard. I had a few more orgasms, and then he put his fingers inside me while going down on me, and I came a couple of more times. He finally got hard so I thought we were finally going to fuck. But as he was putting on a condom, he came. So that was very disappointing.

We took a break, then laid back down, and started fondling each other again. I even told him I would go down on him to try and get him hard but even that wasn't working. I said it loud enough to tease my sub since he hasn't received a blow job in an long time. After about 10 minutes I had him start going down on me again as it seemed he needed additional time to recover. I had a few more orgasms and he still wasn't getting hard so we decided to call it a night.

Even though I had orgasmed over 10 times, it was disappointing that I wasn't properly fucked on my anniversary. Of course my sub volunteered to make sure I got fucked but I politely told him "no thanks". This was also the first time I didn't let him go down on me after a meet, as my clit was already very sore. He didn't know I wasn't going to let him until he was tied for the night. I'm going have to make up for the anniversary failure very soon.
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Morning Fun
Posted:Jul 25, 2023 10:07 am
Last Updated:Jan 30, 2024 4:53 pm
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This morning I was getting up earlier than my sub for a change. He has been getting up early to do yard work before it got too hot. Today he decided to take a break and I agreed.

To make sure he stayed in bed, after he used the restroom, I placed his feet in the cuffs at the foot of the bed. I had already put the waist belt on the bed and had it connected to the side restraints. Before he laid down though I put the leather hood on him as it's much easier to tie it when I can see the little holes. 😆

Once the hood was in placed he laid down and I clip the D-Ring at the top of the hood to the rope at the head of the bed. Next I cinched the waist belt on and he was now secured head to toe. Well his hands were still free, at least for the moment. I used the padded fist mitts and attached them to the waist belt. He was now not going anywhere until I let him.



I left him at this point to go in the other room but did go back and check on him a few times. The second time I decided his nipples weren't having any fun so I put clover clamps on them and left the room again. 15 minutes later I came back to check on him and took the clamps off and squeezed his nipples hard to get the blood flowing. I did this a few times and by the time I released him his nipples were very sore. He hasn't had them on much lately so his nipples didn't take much to get sore. It will be fun playing with them today as they will still be tender.

After about 2 hours I decided he had enough time to "rest" and it was time for him to get up. It was a nice present as yesterday was the 300th day since he last had an orgasm and I thought teasing him was a good way to do it. 😆
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Oral and Foot Play
Posted:Jul 17, 2023 7:40 am
Last Updated:Jan 30, 2024 4:52 pm
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Last Tuesday night, my sub asked me if I wanted to watch some videos since we had an empty house. Of course I said sure and we headed to the bedroom. Once in the bedroom I told him he wouldn't be watching as I wanted him to go down on me while I watched. I had him put on one that is a compilation of various sexual encouters I've had with other guys and they were at the point of orgasms. Since we were home alone we didn't have to wear earpods so the sound filled the room.

I had a summer dress on so all I had to do was take my panties off. As he was getting undressed and getting in position at the edge of the bed I mentioned, nonchalantly, that I had had my socks and tennis shoes on the whole day since my shower. We had been out most of the day so I walked around quite a bit.

He took the hint, and as I laid down on the bed, he picked up my leg and started to take off my shoe and began to kiss my foot. He then unlaced it and took the shoe off and started to kiss my foot through the sock. He then put my socked toes in his mouth, and began to suck. It felt good.

After about 30 seconds he pulled the sock off and began to worship my entire foot with his mouth, tongue and teeth. Between watching and hearing myself cum in the video and him going to town on my foot, I was feeling really, really good. Then he did something different which really drove me over the top. He reached up and put two fingers inside me while playing with my clit with his thumb. I came so hard it was crazy. He kept this up for 3 more orgasms, then stopped. He still had my other foot to go.

He took a quick break to put on a latex glove and lubed it up, then he got back on his knees and started taking off my other shoe. This time when he put his fingers inside it felt even better as the latex gloves had little bumps on them which heighten the sensation. I came within about 10 seconds. It felt so good with him using his hands in my pussy, his mouth on my feet and watching me get fucked over and over again on the TV. I came another 5 times like this and finally had to have him stop.

Friday afternoon and we we're going to a ball game. It was hot and we would l be doing a lot of walking so while I was showering I had a great idea. I dressed in my shorts, tight tank top and jersey I also put my team high-top sneakers and socks. It was hot during the game and I was sure my feet and pussy were sweating so my plan would work out.

Once the game was over and we were back home and in the bedroom I had my sub undress and sit on the edge of the bed and started playing with his nipples. As I was playing I told him what I wanted him to do. First I wanted him to put on his strap-on as I wanted to be fucked, then he was to clean me up and finally he could worship my feet. He was very horny and playing with his nipples while telling him wasn't helping, also being locked for so long wasn't helping. LOL

I laid on the edge of the bed and we started to fuck. During this time I was pushing my sneakers in his chest or rubbing the canvas on his face. I came the first time pretty quick and he took off one of my shoes. So I pressed my sock into his face and he started sniffing and sucking it while continuing to fuck me, it was a very hot scene. He finally took the sock off and started biting and licking my foot and I came hard another 3 times this way. Once I was done with him inside he went down on me to clean up the flavored lube and he got 4 more orgasms out of me.

He thought he was done and I reminded him that I still had one more foot that needed to be taken care of so he immediately started taking off the shoe. He told me later that he thought I was done for the night as I came so many times but glad I wasn't. He undid the laces with his teeth and after taking the shoe off started with the sock play first and the to the full foot worship. It felt so good that I had thoughts of having him go down on me or use his fingers, but then just decided to calm down as I enjoyed the sensations.

Both sessions were only about 20 minutes each, but it felt so good. Both scenarios will definitely have a repeat soon. Sorry no pics this time as we were both too wrapped up to take any.
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6 Months of Chastity
Posted:Jul 11, 2023 6:25 am
Last Updated:Jan 30, 2024 4:51 pm
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The last milestone this week was that has just passed was my sub being in chastity for six consecutive months. He had only been released for cleanings or short periods of time to do work or physical activities where he had to have it off. During those time it wasn't off for more than a few hours and never at night. While we have used chastity for over 20 years, he never was able to wear it this long consecutively because of work activities. The longest time would be a month or so.

When the cage is off I don't tease him or touch his cock at all. I do play with his balls since I have full access to them and they are not restricted by the chastity rings. Its fun to watch him try and maneuver his body so that I can touch his cock. LOL

One thing that is asked a lot on other site is why he doesn't use a real lock on the cage. There's a couple of reasons for this. The first is that the metal locks clink on the cage and he thinks that it is the cause for the cage seals to split. Since we haven't used a lock in a long time we haven't had this issue. We used to use numbered plastic locks but found the cage stays more secure with regular tie wraps. Since we have been doing chastity for so long we have built up a lot of trust and it's very easy to detect if he has an orgasm.

For variety, we do switch the cages during cleanings, though the CB-X Mini-Me is the one that is used the most as it fits him so much better. We have both the clear and black models and I switch him weekly between the two. My personal preference is the black one, as it looks so striking on him. When he is out doing yard work he will wear the Ghost model as it is much more sturdy than the rest.



He keeps asking to take it off, or at least tell him when I plan on doing so, but I just tell him it is staying in until I decide I want it off. And now that I've started the cuckolding him again, I just see no reason to remove it for now.
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Touching
Posted:Jul 5, 2023 10:34 am
Last Updated:Jan 30, 2024 4:50 pm
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A lot of milestones coming up so hopefully you don't get bored with the next couple posts. On December 31st when my sub came home from work for the last time I had him shower and lock his cage on. Before he put it on I played with his cock very briefly, maybe a few strokes and told him that was the last time he got stroked for a while.

Since then I've played with his cock very lightly just once and this past Saturday, July 1st, it was 6 months of not touching his cock unless it's locked up. The one time that I played, it was for a few minutes while he was unlocked after showering and switching cages, but only with two fingers and that drove him crazy.

When I do touch his cock it's with cage on so there is no direct touching and maybe a few pokes at the tip as it's pushing out of the end of the cage. He just about always volunteers to take it off so I can have unobstructed access and I just laugh at his offer. He has also slept in it every night so there is no accidental touching while I sleep. Don't know about you but my hands roam when I sleep and I will wake up with me cupping his balls. Another thing I love to have him do is spoon with me so I can feel the cage pressing into me while i drift off to sleep. I can grind my butt to tease him more as well.

He does get his balls played with a lot as I love pulling and squeezing them. When he's been in the cage for a long time in between thorough cleaning sessions, I will scratch the areas that have been in the rings for extra relief. I love his reactions when I do this, especially when I might have pulled a little too hard. LOL. When his balls are tight and hard, its the best time for playing as it's more torment than pleasure while I try to stretch them. Of course I'm doing this for his comfort, right?!?



It's been a number of days since the milestone date, and I think he was hoping that I would let him out of the cage to play with him but why spoil a good thing. I've given no hints to him of how long it will be until the next touch. He just has to keep hoping I will do it soon.
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Cuckold Fun
Posted:Jun 30, 2023 7:31 am
Last Updated:Jan 30, 2024 4:48 pm
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Tuesday marked nine months since my sub had been inside me or orgasmed. I decided to give him a treat and have sex. Unfortunately for him, I decided to finally break my drought of cuckolding that same afternoon. It had been over ten months since I had met with someone and fucked. I was long overdue.

I had texted back and forth with this guy for months, trying to set things up, but dates never worked out. This time, things just worked out great.

The meet was set up for the early afternoon at a hotel. When we got there, I had my sub set up the tripod and camera, then I had him strip to his chastity cage and tied & blindfolded him to a chair in the entry way before kissing the new guy to have some fun.

He hadn't had many cuckold experiences, so he was a little leery at first. But once we started kissing, that settled him down, and we were soon stripping off each other's clothes. He seemed to like my breasts as he played with them almost non-stop it. LOL We laid on the bed and he was kissing me while stroking my clit and sticking his fingers inside me. We finally stopped, and he got up and stood by the side of the bed and I stayed on my back but edged up to the side of the bed, and he entered me. It felt great. There is no comparison between a real cock and a dildo. I came almost immediately and he continued to fuck me until I came again. We changed positions a few times, and I came in each position multiple times before taking a quick break.



The next position is one of my favorites as it shows off my exhibitionist side. I was facing the window bent over, and he entered me from behind. It felt great as the freeway was in the view as well as a street. We were right above the main entrance to the hotel, but no one walked in or out while we were there. The second time we used the window, there were 3 people standing below us, and that was a thrill for me. Unfortunately, they never looked up.

During the session, we took advantage of all the furniture in the room. I sat on the table as he stood in front of me, rode him while he sat in a chair, and of course, the bed was used again as well. The last position was one he wanted to try with him lying on his side and me on my back. This is a nice position as more of the cock gets in. It was also one of my subs favorites when he was allowed to fuck me so I told him in great detail later how good it felt with someone much larger than him. LOL. I came hard a few times again to end the session. The one thing he did not do while inside me was play with my clit at the same time for added sensation. It was something my sub always did so I missed it a little. I'll have to have him do it the next time we meet.

Once we both came we lay there recovering for a few minutes and I finally got up and went over to untie my sub and had him dress so he could start packing our gear up so we could leave. While he did that, we got dressed as well but also played with each other a few more times. We left the hotel and I told my sub all that fucking made me very hungry and I needed a drink and something to eat. As we drove to the restaurant I pulled his hand over to my pussy so he could feel how sore I was. Though not as sore as some sessions in the past, I did cum over 14 times, probably more as I lost count a few times. I'm hoping not to have to wait another 10 months before having fun again.
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Orgasms, a lot for me, none for him
Posted:Jun 20, 2023 9:44 am
Last Updated:Feb 2, 2024 7:06 pm
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One of the comments on my last post was very good as they mentioned how much they enjoyed how many orgasms I make my sub give me, and that all he gets in return is a lot of teasing. On that note, for most couples in a vanilla relationship, Father's Day is a special day for the guy and some type of sex is involved. But in our case, and I imagine many more that are in FLR's, my sub/ hubby still didn't get to cum for it.

On Saturday morning after doing a brief impact session I had my sub go down on me for 2 orgasms before we started on our chores for the day. We had a party to go to later that afternoon so I couldn't let him do too much, but made up for that later. I had on one of my new cute dresses and my sub would walk by me and stroke or caress me as he did. So when we got home I left it on when we went to bed so that he could fondle me over the dress as he went down on me. I was very greedy and came 7 times in a variety of positions and when we finally finished was exhausted. Needless to say his reward was making me cum so hard and many times. LOL.

On Sunday, Father's Day morning, I played with his chastity cage and nipples for a few minutes before getting out of bed. I overslept with being so exhausted from the night before that it was all we could do. I left him in bed for about 20 minutes as I got things going for the day's meals. Before releasing him to get up I did blow on his cock through the cage to tease him of what he wasn't going to receive.

After a long day of family events it was finally time for bed. As I was all sweaty from a full day of cooking, I showered and shaved my pubic area before bed. Once in the bedroom I saw my sub had the elevated pillow on the bed and I laid down on it so my pussy was at a nice height for oral. The added plus of this position is that he can use his fingers inside me as well. We started in this position and I had about 4 hard orgasms. When I had had enough, I flipped over and had him ream my ass with his tongue for a few minutes, then finger fuck me at the same time. It felt fantastic! I came a few more times in that position, then told him to stop as 9 orgasms were enough. I had him lie down on his back, and I sat up and played with his nipples and his caged balls while teasing him about how many orgasms I have had this weekend, and how he didn't get to cum at all. I told him I've had more orgasms in the past two days than he'd had in the past three years combined! Such a powerful feeling, it makes me so horny just thinking about it.

Today, I got home from shopping, and he was very happy with the little sundress I had on. Since he kept saying how cute I looked in it, I had him go down on me again on the couch. The front door was open and I wasn't exactly quiet as I had three quick orgasms. He wanted to continue but I was hungry and told him to take me to get some dinner as there would be no teasing for him.




When we finally went to bed, I wanted to do a little smothering on him, so I had him lie on his back and climbed on top. His tongue immediately went to work, and I had 2 orgasms. The first was very powerful and probably a result of the play earlier in the evening. I don't really like this position, but it felt really good and always reminds him of who's in charge as I control his breathing. LOL



I hopped off his face, and he immediately went down on me again. As I was still feeling the effects of the earlier orgasms I came another 3 times before telling him to slow down. By slowing down, I meant only using his tongue and no sucking until I told him to. So for about 5 minutes his tongue rolled and rubbed on my clit, every so often dropping a little lower to lap up my wetness down a little lower. When the buildup was getting to much I told him "harder now" and he started sucking as well as using his tongue and I came hard again 2 more times before telling him to stop.

It was a very nice evening, indeed and im still very sore. So in response to the poster, I do really enjoy my orgasms.

Just a quick note, today is day 265 since his last orgasm, and I have no intentions to quit soon as I mentioned to him that he is only 100 days from going a year without one. He wasn't too thrilled about it. LOL
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Impact Play Continues
Posted:Jun 13, 2023 9:16 am
Last Updated:Jan 23, 2024 3:20 pm
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Since the last post we were able to sneak in impact play a couple of times a day. So things were going slowly. Then things came to a screeching halt as I was hospitalized a week for a minor health problem and was finally released on Thursday morning. When I got out, we had an empty house for a couple of hours, and I took advantage of it. I spent about ten minutes using a leather paddle on my subs ass and upper thighs. This is the area that I decided to start with. I also got some cane smacks in as swell.

Once I was done with the impact play, I laid down and had him go down on me for 4 much needed orgasms, since it had been a while for me and I'm not the one in orgasm denial.

Saturday morning we had another few hours alone and I had him tied facedown and for about 30 minutes used various paddles once again on his ass and upper thighs. After I was done I had him go down on me again and I had 4 very nice orgasms. Then we got cleaned up as we had errands to run and also a ball game. After the ball game we got home and I had him do some foot worship for me as I had the same socks and tennies on all day. Once he had completed this to my satisfaction he then went down on me again for another 2 orgasms before going to sleep.

On Sunday morning we had an empty house again for about 12 hours, and I really took advantage of it and this time I wanted to have sex. So I had him put on his strap-on harness that lets him stay in his chastity cage. I also made him use flavored lube as I wanted him to finish the job afterwards and give him a treat. I had 4 orgasms in 2 different positions with the strap-on and then had him get on his knees to go down on me for another 3 orgasms. All 7 orgasms felt wonderful and he had a nice treat of strawberry lube and me while he did it. Once I recovered, he was strapped face down on the bed and once again I paddled his ass and upper thighs for about 30 minutes. I left him tied as I relaxed in the other room as I wanted him to recover a little before another round. When I came back I only used wooden paddles this time. I kept going on one side of the bed then the other so that I was able to get his whole body. This session was a little shorter and I finished up with 6 cane strokes, 2 on each side of his ass and 2 more on his upper thighs. He hates when I hIt him there with the canes. LOL. We cleaned up and went about our chore list for the day. When we got home we still had an empty house and I was horny so he went down on me again for another 4 orgasms. Have to say I was really enjoying all of them.

Monday morning when we woke up it was raining so he wouldn't be able to do his outside chores so he was left tied as I was tired and wanted a couple more hours of sleep. When we finally woke up I left him tied and face up as I wanted to do some impact on his front upper thighs and use nipple clamps too. I spent about 20 minutes using my long wooden smacking paddle and leather crop on them. Every so often I would give his nipples a tug to remind him they were on. When I was done for this session I had our stun gun out and gave him a quick blast on his thigh. Boy did he jump.

I took the clover clamps off finally and tormented his nipples for a few minutes and then put a new toy on his nipples. It's a dual suction cup device that has soft rubber tips inside that tease the nipples at different speeds and intervals. I played with this for about 45 minutes while also using the crops on his thighs. Needless to say he was getting very horny and I stopped the device numerous times to make sure there wasn't an accident. I also took time to tickle his feet since they were so nicely strapped down. This got him moving as well. When I took them off his nipples were so plumped up and hard I had to put the clover clamps on again and he groaned so loud. LOL. This is what they looked like.


When I finally finished tormenting him I had to use the stun gun one more time and I hit him on the side of his butt. While he was recovering I went to the other side of the bed and zapped his other side. It was a great morning. Unfortunately his marks faded fairly quickly but you can still see some red.
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Impact Play - Soft Butt
Posted:May 31, 2023 9:47 am
Last Updated:Jan 23, 2024 3:19 pm
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I've mentioned that we haven't done much in the way of BDSM play since the pandemic and everything shut down. As of yet we haven't been able to get back to a dungeon or even an overnight hotel stay to play. Things just haven't worked out. Not to mention that we haven't been able to do much around the house either.

Last week we had the house to ourselves and I planned an impact session. My sub was tied face down on the bed, arms to the side and feet to the cuffs at the foot of the bed. His ass was propped up so it was a nice target.

Keep in mind that before the shutdown my sub could take quite a lot of impact on his body. At the dungeon or the hotel I would beat him for 20 - 45 minutes at a time, take a little break and then go at him again. When we met with another couple at the hotel, I would play with him for about 2 hours before they arrived, then she would torment him for a few more hours before going on to other activities.

The past 3 years he's gotten just a few smacks every now and then, nothing compared to what we used to do so his ass has gotten soft. LOL.

Back to last week, I did a little warm up on his ass with a leather paddle and then moved to a heavy wooden paddle gifted to us by a couple we know who has retired from play. It's a great paddle as it delivers some solid hits. I used it on him about mid-strength and he was only able to take about 6 hits before I had to stop. Normally it would have been a minimum of 20 with that paddle, take a break and 20 more. So I moved to my lollipop paddle and he couldn't take much from that either. Switching back to the leather paddle didn't help and I stopped and released him. He said his ass just couldn't take it and not sure why other than its been awhile. That was very disappointing.

We talked about what we can do and agreed that anytime we have a chance we do a quick session, and that over time they would get more intense to get his body back into being able to take a strong impact session.

Last night we did just that. Taking a paddle that was about medium intensity I used it as a warmup and kept hitting his ass with solid smacks to get his ass warmed up. Once he was warmed up I continued and about every 5-10 seconds I would give him a good smack. Going about it this way I was able to smack him continously for about 5 minutes and delivered about 15 good blows to the ass before I stopped.

Once we were done as a treat I modeled some clothes that we had bought earlier in the day. Between the paddling and the show, I could tell from the look of his cage he enjoyed both. Now to keep up with the training period.

For those that do impact play, how are your sessions going?
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Too much vanilla
Posted:May 25, 2023 2:11 pm
Last Updated:Jan 23, 2024 3:16 pm
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Can't belive its been over a month since our last post. Vanilla life has kept us very busy so mostly just the tease and denial chastity play has been going on. He's also been getting tied more often in the morning.

For those wondering, it's almost 8 months since his last orgasm and about 5 1/2 months in chastity. With the exception of the brief stroking of his cock it's been over a month already without it being touched and only the one little stroke in 2023.

This morning I tried a new variation of tying him in the bed. It was raining outside, yes, rain in So Cal does happen LOL, so he wasn't going be able to go outside and do yard work as planned. I was getting up but wanted to be able to have my morning coffee and go about my morning routine in peace. Retirement does have some disadvantages. LOL

I had him tied for overnight sleep with his arms spread to the side of the bed so they were probably sore. I did keep his feet tied at the foot of the bed from the overnight tie. I had him sit up and put on his leather hood as I didn't want him to watch the clock. I also added his waist belt to him after having him lie down again. I attached the mid-connections of the under-the -bed restraint system to the belt and attached the rope at the head of the bed to the top of the leather hood so he didn't have any wiggle room.

For his hands, I put them in padded mitts which keep them balled up. They were locked to the waist belt as well. With the mitts be couldn't play with himself at all. Not that he could as he had his mini-me on.



I had clover clamps on him while I was setting him up so once he was secured I played with them so he got a little torment before I left him to have my coffee. I did think of leaving them on him, but I had planned for him to be secured for the next 2 hours as I enjoyed my morning coffee
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