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Ms Jay's Blog

A place for me to write about my tease & denial and BDSM adventures with my sub/hub and other friend's. And now also the start of cuckholding and use of a bull to continue my subs long-term denial.

Almost a hand job
Posted:Apr 25, 2023 2:59 pm
Last Updated:Jan 23, 2024 3:13 pm
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This will be repeated in the first comments since the system is still cutting out words

I decided to give my subby a very, very nice surprise the other day. He had just gotten out of the shower and was switching cages as he was doing yard work around the house. The mini- me, although very nice, doesn't lend itself to physical work like bending and lifting with the hinges, so he changes to the Ghost cage when he has to do that kind of work.

When he came back into the room, before he put the mini- me back on, I had him come over to me where I was sitting on the bed and told him to put his hands behind his back and just stand there.

I then took his cock into my hands, and began to play with it, stroking it lightly with just 2 fingers, then a little faster and harder. He got hard very quick but didn't get fully erect since his erections lately have been very restrictive, so I slowed down again until he adjusted to the shock of me actually touching his cock. After all, it had been over three months since it was last touched on New Years Eve!

I kept lightly stroking, then playing with his ass and thighs then back to his cock, but never using more than 2 finger on it. He was getting so hard and horny that he was actually shaking.

I kept it up for about three minutes, then abruptly stopped and said, "OK, put the cage back on now." He was so let down, as he was sure I was going to let him cum. But this was just a little tease to remind him what he's been missing.
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Sub's Birthday Present
Posted:Apr 10, 2023 1:50 pm
Last Updated:Jan 23, 2024 3:11 pm
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Since words are still be dropped in the main post, this will repeat in the comments.

Its been a while since ive put up a post, so hes a little something to catch you guys up with. Last week was my sub/ hubby's birthday. Long gone are the days when we used to start his birthday mornings with a blow job, but just to remind him of the good old days, I woke him up by going down on his cage cock. I really went to town on it, taking the whole cage in my mouth, sucking on the balls, and kissing and licking the area between his balls and his ass. He really enjoyed it, but I'm sure it still didn't compare to an actual blow job, lol.

I then made him a nice breakfast, and we spent the day together. Towards the late afternoon, a package was delivered. I took it into the bedroom, opened it up, and laid it out on the bed. My sub was outside so when he came back in I told him to go into the room and take off his cage and put on what was in the bed. He got really excited that the cage was coming off for his birthday until he saw what was on the bed.

It was a brand new CB-X Mini-Me, this one in solid shiny black. When he put it on, it looked so nice on him. It felt different from the other one, slicker, and I couldn't help but keep touching it. But couldn't play with it too long, as we had a hockey game later that evening.



We've had a few milestones since my last post. It's been over six months since his last orgasm, or since he had been inside me,
three months since I have touched his cock, and now three months that he has been locked continuously in a cage. I think that is pretty damm impressive. The fact that he is now retired has helped a lot, as when he was working, there were some things he had to take it off for. But now, I have him all to myself, and he can keep the cage on all the time, lol.

I have been giving him blow job's a lot lately, especially when he's tied down. I don't know why, I just love the tease of going down on his caged cock and balls. I know it frustrates him, and it really turns me on. That's all for now, have a great day. For those who can view videos, go to our profile to watch.

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Ongoing Chastity & Denial
Posted:Mar 20, 2023 8:39 am
Last Updated:Jan 23, 2024 3:10 pm
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From the start of the New Year, with the exception of about 4 days, I have kept my sub in Chastity 24/7. As a result we have now beaten the previous record for him being locked continuously in a cage. That record was 64 days, and we are now at 71 days.

This time the record is more true in the duration of time as previously the cage had to come off due to work requirements or some event that we had that he wasn't able to wear it for. I also used to let him take it off for sporting events because of the cold, cramped seats at hockey games and the general bathroom situation at the arenas and stadiums. They can get quite gross. Either way, whenever he got back home the cage would go back on and he would always sleep in it.

Now that he retired at the end of 2022, any work issues there was previously have gone away so the cage stays on. In addition, with the new Mr Stubbs and Mini-Me cages the slot for peeing is a little wider so he can easily stand to pee and not have to worry about gross toliet seats at games. In addition to the games he has worn it to doctor and dental appointments, family gatherings, working around the house and even a week long cruise. The times it had to come off it was only for 1-3 hours, and a couple of those times he was wearing a protective cup so he was still restricted to some point.

During this time we also eclipsed another record of continuous wear without removing it at all. Previously it was 21 days while he was on a trip. This time he went 23 days without having to remove it and only because he had a chiropractor appointment where they have to really bend the leg area to adjust him. It would break his cock, balls and the device if it was left on. LOL

I am so happy with this cage, the Mini Me, that he has been locked up the most in it and the past 48 days. During the time in the Mini-Me i also had him move down a ring size so it was tighter. There was just too much play with it. He started the session in the Mr Stubbs. It is so fun to play with, and makes his cock look so nice, pressing against the edges. I love the way it makes his balls mushroom out, giving me so much access to them. They are so fun to pull and tease, and they feel so full. Of course the majority of times they are really full. LOL I love the way chastity looks on him!
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Posture collar and more orgasms denial
Posted:Feb 27, 2023 2:05 pm
Last Updated:Jan 23, 2024 3:09 pm
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This post will repeat in the first comment since words are still being deleted.

It's been a while since our last post as it's been very vanilla around here lately. There is still some kink going on but nothing all that exciting as I hurt my tailbone and had to take it easy. So just a little tease and denial play for the most part.

He still is in orgasm denial and today marks the fifth month with no orgasms. He's also been in his chastity cages for over a month so no touching for him as well. It's a shame as he's so horny.

I mentioned a few post back that we made some purchases and the next one to share is the new posture collar. Our last one was a shorter version and it somehow disappeared over the past few years so when we were shopping for a new one the tallest one was selected.

This past weekend was the first time we were able to use it and it worked out great. I was doing some work on the computer and I don't like when he comes up behind me and watches me work. So before I got going we headed to the bedroom and got him ready to be tied down. I used our hood as I wanted it to be dark for him and the blindfold has the tendency to slip off his eyes. Once it was on and I saw the posture collar in the drawer I placed it on as well and it fit nicely with the hood. Once I had him lie down and got him secured he wasn't moving at all. With his head clipped to the headboard and the posture collar in place he could not move his head from side to side at all. It was a perfect fit.



I left him in the room and monitored his movements with the webcam from the other room to make sure he was ok. He stayed tied for 1.5 hours while I got my work done. When I went back to the room I teased him a little before releasing him. When I asked how was it he said the only things he was able to move much was his hands as they weren't very tight. His head could only be moved just slightly side to side. So over all it was a good experience.
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Denial and Chastity
Posted:Feb 9, 2023 10:13 am
Last Updated:Jan 23, 2024 3:09 pm
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As words are still being deleted this post will repeat as the first comment.

My sub has now been locked in the chastity cage consistently for over one month. While he had some days out of the cage at the beginning of the year, so far in 2023 I haven't touched, stroked, or used my mouth to tease his cock at all.

Well, that's not exactly true. I have gone down and teased his lil locked cock with my mouth, blowing on it, and teasing the tip with the tip of my tongue, as it strained against the head of the cage. But I don't think he really considers that a legitimate BJ, LOL.

I do play with his balls quite a bit though. I love stretching them from the rings and sliding the cage around. He sack is very interesting to play with as sometimes it's very loose and I can do pretty much anything I want, and other times they are so tight they seem to lock onto the rings. He doesn't enjoy me playing with them so much at those times.

He's had it off twice to clean it throughly and shave, and then the last time to switch from the Mr Stubbs cage to the Mini Me cage. The Mini Me is about a 1/2" shorter and it's also thinner so when he gets hard inside it he really feels it.

It has been over four months since he has been inside me or had an orgasm. And he only had the one orgasm back then coming out of a 6 month plus denial period. We looked back at 2022 and it seems that he only had four orgasms all year and I went pretty much 80% of the year without touching his cock at all. So glad I started cuckolding him again so I don't miss out on things, though I have him give me my share of orgasms from his mouth and fingers when not meeting with others.

Unfortunately for my sub it looks like he might be on track to have the same amount, or even less, orgasms this year or to have his lil cock played with anytime soon as I would like to see if he can wear the device longer than he has before. : ) In September, when he had his last orgasm, I told him that he wouldn't cum again for a while. When December rolled around I told him since we've gone this long we'll wait until the New Year for when he gets to cum again. I just didn't tell him what month in the new year, LOL.

To further his frustration last night even more, with all the talking and looking back at last years schedule we were both pretty horny when we went to bed so I had him go down on me with his mouth. After 3 pretty nice orgasms I had him stop and I rolled over facing away from him. I wasn't going tie him to start the night as I wanted him to spoon me with his cage placed inside my butt cheeks so he had the pressure on his locked cock as I fell asleep. Not quite sure how long it took him to fall asleep but I did quickly.
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Cruise Fun
Posted:Jan 30, 2023 10:05 am
Last Updated:Jan 23, 2024 3:08 pm
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As words are still getting deleted, this will be repeated in the first comment..
For a special occasion we went on a 5-day cruise to Mexico. I've had my sub in chastity for the 14 days prior to the cruise and told him before we left that I didn't see any reason to let him out for it. He wasn't thrilled with the idea but regardless, I wanted him caged. The last day of the cruise was also very close to him being in denial for 4 months so it was pretty obvious he would not be getting out of the cage, let alone having an orgasm.

Once we boarded and went up to the open deck for the sail-away we found out that the ship would be delayed leaving so we went back to our room as I wanted to get some relief. I had a mini skirt on so once we were back in, I laid down on the bed and had him perform oral on me. It felt so nice that I came 3 times and then we headed back upstairs. This was going be a good trip orgasm wise, at least for me. Plenty of drinks and a sub who will make sure I'm happy, what else could a Mistress/Wife ask for!



He did very well being in the cage for the cruise and didn't complain too much about it. We would go back to the room in the afternoon and/or evenings and he either did oral on me, finger-banged me (old high school term huh, LO, or used the strapon dildo on me. I was a very satisfied girl.

I flirted with a few guys on the trip but nothing serious enough to go back to a room with as we were with vanilla friends and didn't want an awkward situation if the guy came up to me later while we were with them. Next cruise we'll come by ourselves so I have a little more freedom as there were a number of single guys on the ship. Maybe see if there is a group for cruises on another site to see if other like minded kink people are on the ship too.

It was a little chilly on the cruise so I didn't dress too risqué, also as I mentioned we were with vanilla friends so wasn't too sexy but enough I could have my sub still play under my dress while in shows.

The best session we had was on the last full day of the cruise we went into Ensenada by ourselves and walked around. When we got back to the ship we went back to our room and I changed into a new outfit to take pictures on the balcony. I had to be discrete in front as were docked facing the walk way that people were going to and from the ship.



Once I was back in I had my sub put on his strapon and laid down on the bed. He went down on me and I had my first orgasm. He got up and while i laid on my back I inched towards the edge of the bed and he put the dildo in me. Wow, did it feel huge! He had to go slow as we brought the larger dildo to use. I had my tennis shoe covered feet up on his neck and he tried to take more video of it. It felt so good and I came again in about 5 minutes.



We switched positions and went into doggie position which I love as it's a whole different feel. At first I had my legs spread outside his legs but about 2 minutes in I moved my feet inside his legs so it made it feel much tighter. It felt so good and I came hard about 2 minutes later.

I thought we were done but my sub had me flip onto my side with one leg off the bed and the other was lifted up with my foot resting on his shoulder again. This time I came in about 3 minutes and it was the hardest one yet. It felt soooo good!!! I was lying on the bed and my sub dropped to his knees and starting doing oral on me again! Wow! After being fucked in the 3 positions hard and then him using his soft tongue on me it was so nice. I came one last time before I had to force his mouth away. I just laid on the bed for about 10 minutes to recuperate.

The final morning we had one last oral session on the bed before heading off the ship. I was feeling pretty good as my sub was still nicely locked up and as expected was now into 4 months of denial or of actually being inside me. We had a great cruise!
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Bed Restraint Modifications
Posted:Jan 17, 2023 2:16 pm
Last Updated:Jan 23, 2024 3:06 pm
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This post will repeat as the first comment.

A couple of posts ago I mentioned how we used a shorter spacer bar for having my sub sleeping tied. It has worked well but we both had some issues with it, mainly the wooden bar and metal connections.

For me it was when I cuddled with him and my foot would always rest on the d-rings or locks. That was very irriating. It wasn't soft and it would wake me up.

For him it would be the lock digging into his ankle or a d-ring getting stuck in place and pushing into him. He would try and wiggle his foot to free it but then he would wake me up.

He looked for an alternative solution to the wooden bar and found a couple of devices online that fit around the foot of the bed with multiple d-rings but they looked very flimsy. The fact that we do things that really make he struggle we needed a more secure solution.

Instead of buying something he decided to make a device out of leather. One of the things he wanted to do was keep any locks from being included and having the connections to our existing under-the-bed restraint system far enough to not bother us. But also being able to remove the cuffs when we needed to use them for other types of play.



Using a wide leather strap he cut loops into the leather so that a smaller leather strap could go through it and secure a cuff in place. He then add snap connections on each end of the smaller strap so that the cuffs could be removed easily, but would not be able to pop out if he struggled. Larger d-rings on each end of the larger strap secures it with the restraint system further from our feet as well.





The last d-ring in the center of the larger strap connects it to the rope at the foot of the bed so that he can't move the connections up. With his hands tied to the top of the bed he has limited up and down movement. Even less if I use a hood a secure that to the head of the bed.

So far the couple of tests runs we have done it has worked great and we have actually slept much better. He only has about a 1/2" of play that he can move his feet now as well. With the wooden bar it was almost 2" of wiggle room. My sub has been able to make a few leather restraints that have come in very handy.
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3 Months of Orgasm Denial
Posted:Dec 29, 2022 5:29 am
Last Updated:Jan 22, 2024 6:03 pm
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This post will be repeated as the first comment as words are still being omitted...

As of Tuesday night, it had been exactly three months since my sub has been inside me or had the pleasure of having an orgasm. I decided I really needed to tease him and get him worked up really well for the occasion.

He did have a milking release last week, so I knew I wasn't going to allow that again so soon, I just wanted to frustrate him more.

We went to the bedroom, and I had him lay down on the bed, and I did a strip tease in front of him. I started playing with myself, slowly stroking my breasts and nipples, then moved down and started playing with my clit, all while looking at him moving his eyes up and down to watch me playing with myself. I could see him getting very aroused, so I climbed up on the bed and sat straddling his legs, with my pussy just inches from his cock and I started playing with my clit again with one hand and my breasts with the other. Every so often my lower hand would hit his cock for an additional tease.

All the while I was teasing him about his not be allowed to cum and maybe we should go through to his birthday. After all it's only a few short months away. He did not like that idea at all. He was going by what I had said and I was going let him cum after the New Year so I reminded him I really didn't say when in the New Year.

I stopped playing with my clit long enough so that he could lick my wetness from my fingers, then I would start playing again. After a couple of minutes of this I leaned forward and of course this put extra pressure on his cock while I played with his nipples for a couple of minutes..

Before there was an accident, I stopped and leaned back again so that he could compose himself. Once he settled down I started playing with his cock and taking the precum on the tip with my fingers and then pushing it into his mouth and having him suck it off. Then I would play again with my pussy and bring my fingers, wet with my juices, back to his mouth and have him suck them off as well.



When it looked like he wasn't going be able to take anymore, I climbed off his legs and just played with nipples with my fingers and teeth. Of course since I was now using my mouth, I was biting the side of his chest as well. I played with him for a few more minutes before it was time to go to sleep. Of course since he was so worked up I wanted to make sure he didn't touch himself so he was tied for bed. I got a really good night's sleep, my poor lil sub/hub, not so much.

Happy New Year's everyone!
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Sleeping Tied
Posted:Dec 19, 2022 11:57 am
Last Updated:Jan 22, 2024 6:03 pm
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This post will be repeated as the first comment since words are being deleted...

Here is another little change in our regular kink lifestyle. As I've mentioned on the blog numerous times over the years is that I prefer for my sub to sleep in some type of restraints. With 12 tie-down points around the bed, plus a metal bed frame, the positions are endless.

My preferred choice is from him to be in a spread eagle so I can stretch out and cuddle with him throughout the night and also have full access to any part of the front of his body. It took a while for him to be able to sleep like this, but I was willing to wait. LOL. Actually it took a couple of months for him to get adjusted so he coupd sleep theough the night and it's been at least 20 years of him sleeping in this position most nights.



Unfortunately time takes a toll on the body and my sub was not immune to changes. The constant stretching of his legs and age has limited him being in a spread eagle for the whole night the past couple of years, so we have been making adjustments.

The first was just securing his legs to the far foot cuffs at the foot of the bed, but that gave him too much play and wiggle room so that was short lived. The second was to have his feet cuffed together with the middle anchor point but that limited me playing with his cage and balls. It was good but could be better.

The next option was using our small wooden spreader bar anchored to the middle point and cuffs on each end. This was good and has been in use for about 4 months now, but it still gave him too much wiggle room. If I was tickling his feet, he could move a lot, and I would have to constantly be grabbing his feet to hold him still. This is actually a photo of him on his stomach getting a paddling as we couldn't find one of him tied face up in this position.



So looking at the area and the two lower connections from the under-the-bed restraint system cuffs, we took off the cuffs and connectioned them to each side of the spreader bar and now it's a very tight fit. His only movement is shifting his feet from one side of the anchor point to the other, so about 2" inches. This also gives me plenty of access as well as it not allowing him to move away from me when I'm tickling, biting, or just tormenting him in general in the middle of the night. We've only been using this method for about a week and it seems like a good position for both of us, so it might be the new "normal" sleeping position for him.



What's your sleeping routine for your sub or yourself?
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New Ball Gag
Posted:Dec 13, 2022 9:05 am
Last Updated:Jan 22, 2024 6:02 pm
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Post will repeat as the first comment.

It's been a while since we've posted an update. Unfortunately not a lot in the kink world happening lately with the holidays. Looking forward to the New Year and being able to play more often.

We have made some toy purchases and will show them off from time to time. The first purchase is a large 2" breathable ball gag for my sub. In the past, the regular ball gags have seemed too small to really gag him effectively, and when we saw this one online with the bigger ball, I had to get it. It also has the 3 breathing holes in it, so he should be able to get air through it or his nose fornlinger gagging periods. The holes will also make for some interesting drool patterns.




So far, I've only used it while he's been tied face up in bed so he has to really work hard with his tongue to swallow the drool that accumulates. The first time I didn't have it tight enough so he was able to push it out and swallow. But the past couple of times I've been much better and had it really tight. I also like how the straps and rings leave an imprint on his face after it's removed.

He's only had it on for about 20 minutes at a time so far and as a result, his jaw hasn't been that sore. I want to build up to longer periods of time with him gagged so his jaw will be achey throughout the day as a reminder. Maybe he needs an even bigger ball? Haven't found any that are bigger than 2".
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