Cuffed
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Posted:Feb 20, 2018 11:15 am
Last Updated:May 26, 2024 7:9 am 21031 Views
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People refer to themselves mostly in part to their profession and their physique, rarely will they refer to themselves in ways that actually tell someone else who they are - The basic information exchanged is always the same, their age, their sex, their location, but nothing about who they are.
Taking the time to learn who someone is is one of the most liberating, interesting and trusting things two people can do, to know someone intimately without being intimate creates a bond that rarely dissipates despite what pathways those two people decide to go down - There is something that links them together regardless of time, place, relationships or any other criteria people assume is important, they can pick up a conversation today that was started years ago and continue it as if no time at all has passed because they share a bond which isn't dependent upon frivolous disputes.
Two people can be spectators on the edge of their respective lives for years, cheering on from the sidelines as they watch someone they have a bond with succeed, they will pick that same person up, dust them off and tell them to try again when they witness them failing, they will always be there no matter what it said, what's done or what's changed because they share something that they don't have with anyone else - No one can interfere with a bond like this, it transcends petty emotional squabbles, it means more than a ring on a finger, it holds more weight than familial relationships and it always will because something is shared between those two people that has never been touched by anyone else
It's difficult to put into words, for both people, just what they mean to one another, sometimes the words don't seem strong enough to convey the depth of their bond, sometimes the words seem too warped by societal norms to use them freely, sometimes the words don't exist in English that correctly describe just how important they are to one another and sometimes, despite everything, words boil down to never being enough.
If these two people were handcuffed together they wouldn't find themselves at a disadvantage in any which way, they would find it no more of a hassle than day to day life already is, there wouldn't be great discussions or fights or temper tantrums about how to go about doing anything, they would simply just act because they understand each other on an intrinsic level.
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Corset
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Posted:Feb 14, 2018 11:59 am
Last Updated:May 26, 2024 7:9 am 20521 Views
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Sometimes it's impossible to say what pushed someone over the edge, everyone has seen the stories, everyone has heard the news, everyone has witnessed someone at some point go over the edge and has had greeted that with stunned silence, a silence that belies ignorance rather than apathy because they hadn't seen it coming.
There are small signs which everyone gives off which anyone can notice if they pay attention to them, the closer two people are the easier and the harder it is to see these signs - Some people telegraph what's wrong with them immediately, they will speak loudly about what's wrong with them, they will tell someone if they're out of line, they will always make themselves heard no matter what, then there are people who don't speak up, who won't telegraph what's wrong with them, they won't tell a soul if they're out of line, they will never make a move to make themselves heard.
The closer two people are the easier it becomes to hide the tell tale signs, small things become large things, foibles become issues, quirks become annoyances, habits become deal breakers, the easier it becomes to tell these little things apart the harder it becomes to tell the difference between the larger problems lurking beneath the surface because the more two people love each other the more two people rely upon simplified communication to relay their feelings - A loved one will hide anything they think will hurt someone, the more they think it will hurt someone the harder they will work to hide it, no matter how insignificant it actually may be, no matter how easily something could be fixed they aren't willing to take the chance that spilling what ails them because of this fear of being judged.
Most men will walk with their head held high, looking straight in front of them as if nothing in the entire world could bother them, most women will walk with their head lowered, looking at the floor or their feet as if the road they walk is speaking directly to them, a difference in the sexes ? No, a difference in societal norms, women are brought up to be victims, shown time and time again in all forms of media as prey, a strong female character is only written as such because of something a man has done to them in their past, heroines are only considered as such because they subverted gendered norms, not because they have a heart filled with bravery.
Man or woman, the way someone carries themselves speaks a lot about the way their mind is currently focusing, they could he digesting bad news, lulling themselves into a false sense of security about immigration just gleamed, they could be practicing conversations in their mind which will take place when they get to where they're going, whatever the criteria they are holding so much in that they give a restriction upon themselves and it's almost as if they can't breath for fear of spilling everything.
They long for the moment they can go home where they can enjoy the company of their loved ones and feel at ease, if they can rehearse enough in their minds what they think will be said to them then they can ignore the niggling sensation that something is wrong and if they can do that then they can pretend that, while not perfect, everything is better than they thought.
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Chapped
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Posted:Feb 9, 2018 12:44 am
Last Updated:May 26, 2024 7:9 am 19728 Views
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Some people feel most at ease when they are surrounded by gentle noise, the familiar day to day rumblings of life in general give them a satisfaction which makes living a life less ordinary much easier.
No one has the perfect life, not one single person, some may claim that they do indeed live the perfect life but behind closed doors there is always something lacking, sometimes the doors don't even need to be closed to see exactly what someone is lacking in their life and the majority of people will wrongly assume that sharing their life with someone else will fulfil whatever needs that are lacking - For some people this may indeed be the right way to enhance their lives but for those who find comfort in the day to day rumblings of live another person in their space, sharing their life, would be something off putting, something alien in existence to their quaint ways of enjoyment, it would soon become something to resent and as soon as that happens any relationship that might be there is forfeit.
Having to explain again and again that happiness isn't a state someone finds themselves in but instead is something to aim for becomes tiresome when the looks of response are as blank as the canvases if an artist during a dry spell - There is nothing worse than explaining something simple to another person and discovering that they have absolutely no idea what it is that you're trying to convey, that no matter how much reparable metaphors or how simplistic the message is, that they are someone who simply can't understand.
Leave those who like being alone to themselves, let them indulge in long line walks, hours in bed, noses buried in books, clocked up gym hours, days spent perfecting techniques, the way to expertise lays in practice and time spent honing skills, those who spend time alone have perfected skills that no one else has because they have relied on themselves - They have the ability to multitask, manage, delegate and conscript all in one moment while prioritising the task at hand, all while being told by others just how wrong their way of living is, juggling scorn, resentment or disdain on a daily basis.
These people do a lot more than others can accept, they aren't seen or heard as much as their counterparts, colleagues and superiors so the natural assumption is that they don't pull their weight when the reality is that they're the backbone of wherever they are - The only sign of how hard they work on a day to day basis is the rosy red lips that stay permanently chapped from having to explain themselves, a nervous lick each time someone demands they explain their behavior leaves them constantly needing moisture.
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Appetite
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Posted:Feb 2, 2018 12:46 pm
Last Updated:May 26, 2024 7:9 am 19276 Views
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Some people will go their entire lives without feeling hunger - They have been born into a situation where they never have to feel that they are desperate for sustenance, they never feel empty, they will never have to wonder where their next meal is coming from because they have a cushion supporting them afforded by birth and birth privilege alone.
There's a lot to be said about people who have a privilege from birth, they have opportunities that those who weren't born with such a cushion don't ever encounter, they have a specific outlook on life that other people can't relate to because they've never been in a position where anything and everything is attainable for them - The facts of life dictate that there will always be disparity in the human world as long as humans value genetic quirks over actual human progression, when the colour of someone's skin or the sexual organs between someone's legs or the colour of someone's hair dictates their standing in a society which has a predilection for pointing out differences rather than supporting similarities.
The fact that most societies are run by those who have never struggled in life is not new to anyone except those who run society, they will lament their positions as hard done by when in actuality they have never known what it's like to really want something in life, they measure their success by who they know, what they own, where they live and who they can control - Power is inherently linked to money, positions which wield the most power are supported by those who have control over the purse strings of the position, they dictate where, when, how and on whom the funds should be distributed, there's very little consideration for the human cost of incorrect placements.
Being hungry from the moment of birth to the moment of death gives people an outlook that can't be understood unless someone has been living the same life, cost is the name of the game, there is a cost for everything in life whether it's financial, emotional, psychological, physical or social, there will always be a price to be paid for being born hungry and nothing will change that - The cost of living takes a toll upon everyone involved, there isn't a sector of society that doesn't feel the need for more, to obtain greater amounts in life, to be more than everyone else, there is no way to fairly share out nothing if that's the hand life dealt, there is no way to divide up what little someone has if what they have is already divided, there becomes a debt to life when people try this and it only kills them faster.
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Walls
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Posted:Jan 27, 2018 1:49 pm
Last Updated:May 26, 2024 7:9 am 25195 Views
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Being told what mood to display at any given time is something of a social norm yet it makes very little sense when thought of on a human level.
There seems to be an unspoken rule that whatever is happening internally must never, ever be shown externally, that whatever is plaguing the mind can't not show on the face no matter how debilitating or painful or intense it may be, there has to be a silence within the features which lies for the heart and soul - It's not a rule that's limited to western ideology either, it's a completely human rule that transcends politics, economics and religion, it crops up time and time again in every culture across the planet, there has to be a stoicism surrounding displays of emotion, there has to be a front portrayed for all to see in some macabre ideal of strength.
There is another unwritten rule that women must take the lead on emotional displays, they must be held accountable for emotional outpourings whenever something drastic happens in a society, there has to be one concerned woman saying 'Think of the ', there has to be an older woman crying hysterically to compound the atrocities that have occurred, there must be little girls asking politely for respective authorities to stop what they're doing and there must always be men nearby consoling these various snippets of the female spectrum, standing by stoically as if the context of the situation hasn't reached them - It's an equal expectation of emotional displays, men are expected to remain calm, composed and to retain a level headed approach to the situation no matter how grotesque it may indeed be, boys are expected to remain playful, men are expected to remain strong, the elderly ate expected to be nonplussed and wise to whatever has happened to their lives, no matter how many times they may have seen it before or indeed predicted that whatever happened was going go happen, the standards for each gender are entrenched into various societies from birth.
Remaining composed under pressure, duress or even tragedy, has become the benchmark for being a role model, it seems that the more someone can close themselves off to what's happening around them, the more other people find them perfect for representing what's correct behavior, the only problem being that their behaviour is anything but correct and anything but healthy - Emotions are hormonal responses to outward stimulus, they are a precursor for mental health as well as physiological health, to bottle them up is to create a dam inside of oneself, eventually that dam will break, there will come a point where these emotions won't be able to be held back any longer and at the point someone's entire life could very well be destroyed entirely because their ability to cope properly has been demolished from years of blockading everything they've felt.
There's no way to know if someone is suffering from something when they're around others, they won't say it because they've had it beaten into them to stay quiet but take a moment to think, a single moment out of the day, that they might just not be okay and then interact with them appropriately, remembering that everyone carries something around with them.
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