EDGE PLAY
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Posted:Sep 21, 2009 3:51 pm
Last Updated:May 9, 2013 12:01 pm 8319 Views
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EDGE PLAY
Edge Play: Something that is on the edge of one's limits. Be aware what is edge play to someone might not be to someone else.
To some this is the definition of edge play. As it states, what is edge play to some may not be to others. I would say to most people it means fireplay, knifeplay, branding, needles/piercings, cutting, breathplay and electrical/TENS units. Many of these forms of play are very dangerous even when done correctly. That's the rush to some.
I enjoy knife scenes mixed with fear play. I also like fireplay but there is nothing that gets the juices flowing and the heart beating faster then a good old fashioned mind fuck.
There was a seminar I went to a few years ago where Midori was teaching a class in Philadelphia. The scene she set up was exciting and fun to watch. It was the best mind fuck I had witnessed in a while.
She tied a female sub to a wooden chair. Another girl was assisting her in the whole scene. Midori talked to this sub and teased her with her voice and then told her she was going to try something new. The sub of course nodded letting her know it was OK to continue and do whatever she wanted to her.
They brought out a circular saw. It was small but it was real! She turned it on and revved it up so we could see and hear it and most of all so the sub in the chair could see it wasn't a prop. Her eyes popped open wide and she started looking around the room. Then Midori blindfolded her and said out loud to us all, "This is going to hurt a bit, if you see blood, don't panic." The girl was noticeably nervous now. She was shaking a bit, but still kept thinking "It's OK, she wont go through with it. She won't really cut me, right?" (I know she was thinking this because she told us afterwards, also it's a given reaction to this kind of scene.)
We watched as Midori's assistant took out a Hitachi Wand and put it next to the chair. This girl had no pants on, just her panties and her legs were spread apart and tied to this chair. Midori teased her a bit then asked her if she was ready. During this time the assistant removed the blade from the saw! Midori then revved it up again and was about to lay it down on the chair between her legs to start cutting it.
We could see the chair vibrating from the saw sitting on it, but the sub had no idea the blade was removed. The buzzing was loud and the girl was digging her nails into the arms of the chair. Midori slowly slid it up the chair, closer and closer to her private area. Then just as she was about to reach it and the sub was about to freak out, she pulled the saw away and the assistant pushed the turned on Hitachi against her genitals. The sub screamed bloody murder for about 5 seconds then calmed down when she realized it was a vibrator instead of the blade!
They removed her blindfold and she was fine and even laughing a little. That was a great mind fuck and a great time had by all of us just watching it. To Me THAT is great Edge Play.
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A Dominant's Responsibilities
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Posted:Dec 16, 2008 12:31 am
Last Updated:Mar 5, 2015 11:22 am 10352 Views
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A Dominant's Responsibilities
When a submissive or a slave is in the service or a scene with a Dominant, I feel they become the Dominants complete and total responsibility.
During a scene the sub or slave is giving their body, mind and soul to the Dominant with trust and honor to do with whatever they wish (within the subs/slaves limits, usually). This is why it's important that both sides be so honest with each other. If the sub/slave has a heart condition or asthma and their Dominant will be doing breath play, it could become a problem. Or if the sub/slave is allergic to latex and the Dominant is using latex or rubber gloves to touch various parts of their body, well anyone who is allergic will understand that one. It's not so erotic when you're swollen and itchy in your most sensitive areas.
Furthermore, if the sub/slave was wearing contact lenses or had a nose job recently or tooth pulled even and the Dominant slapped them in the face for humiliation or corporal punishment scenes, those slaps could become very painful and do more damage then the Dominant had planned.
There is also a need to know what medications the sub/slave is taking every day and the day or weekend they are serving or having a scene. The Dominant needs to be aware of everything going on in the sub/slaves body, including medical conditions and allergies too.
It is both the Dominant and the sub/slaves responsibility to talk about these things before any scenes take place and for both to be honest with each other about them. If the Dominant feels the sub/slave isn't telling them the truth, it is their responsibility to address it or walk away and just not scene with them. Too many things could go wrong. Unfortunately, when the cops come and see a person having a heart attack while tied to a table, they will blame the other person for tying them up. The Dominant should have already talked to the sub/slave to find out if they had heart problems before the scene. (Even with honesty there are still accidents and things you cannot predict, so it's best to know as much as possible anyway).
We must all be aware of the people we play with. To be safe, sane and consensual, it is a requirement. Just like when you meet someone at a party. If you go home and have sex with them, you need to know if they have anything and use protection, this is a similar situation. You need to know the other persons history to make sure everything is considered and is or isn't safe.
I also wanted to go into the importance of after care as a Dominants responsibility. If you're bringing a sub high into subspace you need to give them time to come down safely. Some skip after care all together. I think it's an important piece of the puzzle. You don't want to send a sub home while they are still floating. It could be as bad as them drinking and driving. They could have a horrible accident from their mind still being in the clouds. The best thing to do is bring them down gradually.
Some let them curl up on a couch and take a nap while the Dominant keeps an eye on them. Keeping them warm is important since most are usually naked and get cold after such a ride and the shock to their system, especially if their body temperature drops. Also keeping fluids handy in case of dehydration is always good. Once they look up at you and call you by the correct name again, they are usually back down to earth.
This nurturing and time spent together also creates a bond with the Dominant and a sub/slave that cements the relationship. Saying things like good girl or good boy, or whatever they choose to call them, gives the sub/slave a sense of accomplishment and pride. One of the most important things to them is pleasing their Dominant. So let them know when they do, praise is good! I like to sit with Mine and listen to them breath and run My hands over their cheek. I check to see if they're cold, while also letting them know they are safe in My hands and I'm right there so they can relax after doing such a good job for Me.
Other responsibilities:
Safety in the scene. For example: if using candles, make sure not to burn down the Dungeon. Keep water and/or fire extinguisher handy. Use common sense.
Make sure the doors are locked to ensure privacy, so no one will be walking in on you both in the middle of a scene.
If the sub/slave has a safecall, make sure they call them when they are supposed to! It could become a problem if the person watching them doesn't get that call, then calls the police only to find out they just fell asleep on the couch.
Knowing the sub/slaves limits and how far to push without doing damage, mentally and physically.
Knowing the sub/slaves medical, physical conditions and any medications they are on. For example: If they are taking pain pills because their knee is hurting from work the day before, then you should skip the pain scene for the day. They wont really feel the full affect of it.
After Aftercare...
Checking on the sub/slave after the scene. That night or the day after is a good time to call them or email, or even have them call you the next day. Let them talk about how they feel. Pay attention to what they are saying about the scene. It will give you clues on how best to play with them in the future.
Once a Dominant does this a few times it becomes more of a natural routine then a task. If you play with the same person all the time, it's even easier to read them as you go. Have fun pushing limits and pay attention to each other and the relationship will blossom.
Mystress Sandra
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