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(Polite) RANT: Ain't No Saints Up In Here!
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Posted:Sep 11, 2008 8:03 pm
Last Updated:Sep 18, 2009 12:16 pm 41300 Views
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I stay away from online drama. I have been doing the "online thing" for a while now. Not as long as some, but longer than others.
I still become honestly puzzled by people who assume that a common sexual bent will somehow filter out jerks, losers, douchebags, whiners, predators, evil beings, and just plain old fashioned annoying folks.
The BDSM "Scene", the Leather Community, all of these things are, at best, a skewed microcosm.
Don't be so foolish as to think that bonding over bondage makes the person next to you on that St. Andrew's Cross any more intelligent, sensitive, or open-minded than the guy depositing your check at the bank.
In the same way that a safeword provides only a modicum of insurance (some would argue a false sense of security as well) the "feeling of community" does NOT assure you that all is warm and fuzzy.
In fact, I feel it is an insult to the individuality and humanity of the people who make up any sub-group to ascribe an ethical code that is supposedly to be held as law by all.
This is LIFE. There are gonna be bad actors as well as dreamboats.
Be responsible. Protect yourself. This (gestures vaguely) around you is not your own persona playpen. No bubble-wrap is handed to you at the door when you come out of the cold and declare your pervitude.
My thing is this: I take community where I can find it. Some aspects of it work for me, other aspects of it do not. But I look askance at the flamewar junkies, the perpetual victims, the white knights, the provocateurs, the soapboxers,etc. We ALL feel that way sometimes!  But to make it the baseline in the symphony of your life makes you about as danceable as a fucking Philip Glass "symphony"
I would never spend my time writing something or speaking on a subject that did not really truly compel me in my heart.
This is not true of everyone.
The heart of the "troll" is FUELED by the mere swirling of controversy. We've all seen this. The excessively provocative post on a blog, the snide comment in an e-mail. And Most of us fall prey at some time.
Because we are human.
I love this site. There. I said it.
I love it because It is made up of PEOPLE. People who are everything from never-been-kissed twenty-somethings dreaming of their Very First Bondage scene to a very real predator who may well be Out To Get You.
Because that is LIFE, and I love life.
I cannot say that I have not been sucked into controversy in the past here and elsenet.
I remember one of the first flamewars I which I was involved gave me headaches and woke me up crying in the middle of the night. And the funny thing is, involved were people I ACTUALLY KNEW and would see at the next dungeon party, Munch, what have you. This kind of kept us honest. Being a prick anonymously from behind your keyboard and spewing your venom is a facile exercise when you can be reasonably assured that you won't be glaring over a patty melt across from the person whose intelligence, punctuation, honor and grammar you have trounced.
As I become more and more involved on all sides of the Leather Community...the business end, the entertainment side, the Educational facet, all I see in sharper focus is this:
IT IS JUST FOLKS.
And I love that.
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Dick dick dick dick dick dick dick dick dick!!! OR: THE SUCCESSFUL DICK SHOT!!!
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Posted:Sep 10, 2008 11:11 pm
Last Updated:Sep 12, 2008 10:42 am 45090 Views
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ALL DAY LONG.
And we sit at work furiously zipping back and forth to one another the more egregious errors to try to stay sane.
And then, now and again, the Goddess beatifically smiles and says
You who have suffered
Through scruffy pubes...
...through oddly shaped foreskins...
...through fuglyshots of phalli appearing next to all sorts of household goods in order to provide perspective....
You who have watch all manner of bodily fluid oozing fro often freakisly curved peenies...
You.
Long sufferer.
Here, now, is
A Gift.
After I found this particular member *cough* in my bi-monthly wading into the slag heap that I needs must do for work, I was struck dumb and almost wept.
Dress: Impeccable.
Business: worn to the right, and HOLY MOTHER OF GODS.
THAT, SIR, is how you pull off a dick shot.
Once I showed it to two of my compatriots, this was about the conversation for the next 38 minutes.
Holy mother of...
Oh my god....
Wow....just...
THAT is what I am TALKING ABOUT!
*stunned silence*
Giggling.
I love the boots!!!
OMG! OH. My FUCKING God.
I dunno...
Girl, he can wear WHATEVER HE WANTS....
OK, word, word...
Shit! I am totally writing to him. *giggle*
FUCK and he's in the UK. FUUUCK!
Aw shit.
You know she has that accent thing.
I -- oh my god did you see the other photo?!?!?
I know it is kind of an Eddie Izzard thng..
Eddie Izzard meets George Washington
*pause for hysterical quotations of the "George Washington " cartoon*
etc etc etc
I am glad you opted out of letting us you out, hot hot HOT HOT HOT man, because now I can pretend to keep you all to myself.
*sighs*
*DROOL*
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....and a shout out to the female ALTers....
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Posted:Sep 9, 2008 6:44 pm
Last Updated:Sep 10, 2008 12:20 pm 41170 Views
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....who I have not, before starting this job, taken much time to scrutinize. In all of my previous years before the Blogosphere took root, I rarely communicated with other people on a social level who were not already known to me. The blogs changed that to a broad extent. (heehee....get it? "broad" extent??)
And now I spend many hours parsing many profiles and I gotta say: MANY of the women on this site are creative, thoughtful, tasteful and compelling in the way that they express themselves! It is quite remarkable.
So, I'm remarkin'!
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when it begins to blur
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Posted:Sep 9, 2008 2:19 pm
Last Updated:Sep 10, 2008 3:18 pm 42010 Views
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After doing in depth analysis of dozens upon dozens of profiles within the course of my job, it can be a bit daunting...the most daunting is the OVERWHELMING number of men who eschew monogamy. Reject it as "small-minded", "limiting", "unnatural". Assure you that you will be "cherished" "special" and "part of the Household". Or the substantial percentage who are straight up looking for desert away from home.
This is, I am sure, of little surprise to any women who have diligently looked for potential partners, but I have been pretty lax in my own searching. I think perhaps that gave me a slightly skewed sense of "Hey, who knows...maybe!" kind of hope of finding suitable partners on-line.
Man...
OK, back to the slag heap of dick shots!
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Posted:Sep 9, 2008 12:16 am
Last Updated:Sep 9, 2008 12:45 pm 41613 Views
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do you ever have those Tony-in-West Side Storysinging somethin's comin' moments when things seem balanced on a fulcrum of oddness and potential magnificence or poised to teeter back into torpid dullness of day to day?
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something is wrong
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Posted:Sep 3, 2008 10:55 am
Last Updated:Sep 9, 2008 8:07 am 43306 Views
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One of my kitties, Biggs, was diagnosed with hypothyroidism a little while back. Been jamming pills down his throat for a while, and that has seemed OK.
He has gotten pretty bony, though, for a big ass cat that also was, formerly, a fat ass cat.
The meds occasionally give him the poopies, he had a UTI for a bit there, but he's been OK and feistier as ever for the past 6 months or so.
This morning though he didn't come when I went to feed them and that NEVER HAPPENS. Wedge was tucking in before I saw Biggs, tail fluffed, crouching, and not coming over. I went to give him his pills and his whiskers were all water draggled and his face was grimy, like he's stuck his head in the water bowl.
I gave him his pills, but he still didn't eat.
If that motherfucking bastard ass fuck dies on me I swear...I'll kill him.
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