We Don't Know How Long We Have
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Posted:Oct 16, 2023 5:39 am
Last Updated:Apr 26, 2024 6:31 am 1665 Views
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I have been thinking too much lately about mortality - that we all die - and that we don't know when that will happen. The impetus is a recent diagnosis of bladder cancer and while the outlook is good, it is still cancer. So, I have recalibrated and no longer think of months and weeks or even days but of this day and this moment and do not question the decisions I make: a second donut? - sure; a nap or two during the day? - absolutely; time on Alt? - why not; a good cigar? - you bet. And if there is something in my life that is not fun or satisfying I wish it a fond farewell - there is just no time for it. Sometimes this can be perceived as rudeness or incivility and for that I apologize. But, it is *my* time and when all is said and done, the only person I am responsible to for how I use that time is me.
And I really believe that carpe diem has to be taken as a call to action and not simply a phrase to invoke. I will try. Perhaps we all should.
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Every Day is Ladies' Day - On Alt
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Posted:Oct 7, 2023 7:40 am
Last Updated:Feb 21, 2024 10:31 am 2130 Views
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I do not know the demographics on Alt and base this simply on my wandering from room to room, but it seems to me there are way more men here than women. That makes every day ladies' day. For the most part, that means they get to pick and choose who they will contact, respond to, play with, etc. This is neither good, nor bad; it just is.
It is also my sense - again based only on observation and experience - that men are far more likely to take the first step via DM or IM - reinforcing what some of us remember as traditional and accepted gender roles from a long time ago.
I am curious to hear from others about this.
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Temporary. Transient. Ephemeral.
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Posted:Oct 2, 2023 8:27 am
Last Updated:Oct 4, 2023 7:41 pm 2110 Views
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That applies to much in life but seems especially so here. The people we meet, the experiences we have, the moments we share are here and then not here. This is neither good nor bad; it just is.
And for those whose time here is more than than - well, bless your hearts and count yourselves among the lucky few.
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I Have Limits
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Posted:Sep 23, 2023 4:44 am
Last Updated:Oct 11, 2023 2:17 pm 2450 Views
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I am a Dom and - yes - I have limits. I rarely get asked because my partner's limits are usually in sync with my own. Still, it is good for me to acknowledge them.
1. No
2. No scat; no enemas
3. Cross-dressing (just doesn't appeal to me)
4. Infantalism (same as cross-dressing - just doesn't appeal)
5. Piss play/urine
6. Animals/beastiality.
And that raises the issue of snuff. I have had a couple of scenes. It is not my favorite. And prefer to leave it at the pain and humiliation stage.
That might be all - at least that I know about or understand enough about to make a decision about.
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The Words we Claim ...
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Posted:Sep 22, 2023 4:43 am
Last Updated:May 23, 2024 6:1 pm 2130 Views
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I think I have nattered about this way too much but words are really all we have to go on here so we should choose them wisely and be prepared to stand by them. This is not always easy. And it is not unusual for there to be a disconnect between what we write, the context in which we wrote it, and the many realities in which those words can be interpreted (think of foundational documents in US history).
I try to stand by the words I claim and to own up when I don't.
So, profile and intro writers, including me, take care in what you write and what you are prepared to stand behind. The three nits that annoy me the most?
If you want local only, then for goodness sake, write Local only or In Real Life only. If you don't do this then do not get touchy when some approaches you who is not local.
If you want to chat online, then for goodness sake, chat online, and don't then say but you live too far away. What does the one have to do with the other (unless all you want is IR ?
And don't say "I am looking for a real Dom (or Sub)" and then not respond if contacted politely and with courtesy. It takes no time to reply "Thanks but no thanks" and heaven forfend if at this point you say - "Oops, IRL only".
I am sure there are many others and I'd love to hear them.
(And don't even get me started about ghosting. But that's a whole other subject.)
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Too Much Free Time
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Posted:Sep 21, 2023 4:57 am
Last Updated:Sep 21, 2023 6:48 am 2216 Views
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I am retired - yes! - and have a pretty active life that includes reading, playing and listening to music, walks, crossword puzzles, and the occasional lunch or dinner with friends. But that still leaves me with *a lot* of free time and I spend (too) much of that here. Now, that isn't necessarily a bad thing but it does mean I have to manage hopes and expectations. That I am here a lot and can usually reply to messages in real time does not mean others can. So, I have to be understanding and patient - the latter not always easy to do - and let things unfold as they will. And, maybe, get a new hobby to fill the days, although I have developed a flair for recreational napping, and perhaps that will suffice.
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I Like to Talk (Chat)
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Posted:Sep 18, 2023 4:33 am
Last Updated:Sep 28, 2023 5:18 am 1973 Views
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From The Maltese Falcon:
Sam Spade: I like to talk
Kasper Gutman: I distrust a close-mouthed man. He generally picks the wrong time to talk and says the wrong things. Talking's something you can't do judiciously, unless you keep in practice. Now, sir. We'll talk, if you like. I'll tell you right out, I am a man who likes talking to a man who likes to talk.
Like Gutman, I am a man who likes to talk to people who like to talk. So, not interested in a scene but are interested in conversation? I am a good talker - and a better listener.
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Happy New Year & Forgiveness
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Posted:Sep 16, 2023 5:41 am
Last Updated:May 23, 2024 6:1 pm 2059 Views
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This is the beginning of the Days of Awe - the days froim the Jewish New Year through Yom Kippur. Happy New Year.
We (Jews) traditionally ask for forgiveness for our wrongdoings from God and from our fellow human beings during this time. So, to those whom I have wronged here - on Alt - please forgive me my transgression. I hope to do better.
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